Abantwana ababone ubungqina bexhatshazwayo banokuchaphazeleka njengamaxhoba
Uninzi lwabantu aluvuyo ukubona abanye abantu bebuhlungu. Ngenxa yoko, ukubukela omnye umntu ukuxhatshazwa kunokuba nefuthe elikhulu. Enyanisweni, ubungqina bokuxhaphaza kubangela uluhlu oluninzi lweemvakalelo kunye neengcinezelo ezinokuthatha umthwalo kumntu omelayo. Ukususela kwixhala kunye nokungaqiniseki, ukwesaba nokwetyala, ukuxhatshazwa kwabangqina kubangqina.
Enyanisweni, uphando oluphambili lubonisa ukuba abantwana ababone ubungqina bexhatshazo bangasengozini yengqondo njengamaxhoba kunye nabaxhasi .
Kwaye kufana nexhoba lokuxhatshazwa, impilo yabo engokwenyama, impilo yengqondo kunye nezifundo zingathinteka. Nazi iindlela ezintandathu abameli abachaphazelekayo.
Impembelelo yeMeko
Abadlali nabo banokuchaphazeleka yinto eyaziwa ngokuba yimpembelelo yokulinda, eyenzekayo xa iqela labantu libukela isiganeko sokuxhatshazwa kwaye akukho mntu ophendulayo.
Ngethuba lokuxhatshazwa, umntu omnye unokunceda inkokheli. Kodwa kwiqela labantu abathathu okanye ngaphezulu, akukho mntu uvakalelwa kukuba unembopheleleko yabo ukuthatha inyathelo. Ngoko njengeqela, abanako ukuhamba phambili kwaye bancedise inkokheli.
Ngokutsho kukaJohn Darley kunye neBabb Latane, abengowokuqala ukuphanda le ngxaki ngo-1968, abantu banokukhawuleza ukuphendula ngenxa yento eyaziwa ngokuba yi-dissemination of responsibility. Xa oku kwenzekayo, abagadi beva ngathi banembopheleleko yokwenza into eyabelwe yiqela lonke. Ngoko iyancipha impendulo yabo okanye ayiphumeli ukuphendula.
Ukongezelela, ababukeli banganciphisa ukuphendula ngenxa yokuba bajonga abanye kwiqela ukuze baphendule. Bazama ukugqiba ukuba imeko leyo yanele ngokwaneleyo ukuba benze into kwaye baya kukhangela ukubona ukuba ubani uya kuhamba phambili. Ngamanye amaxesha xa kungekho mntu uhamba phambili, ababukeli banokuziva bengenakukwenza nto.
Oku kusebenze ngokuqhelekileyo kubhekiselwa kuyo njengemiphumo yokumela.
Ukungaqiniseki
Abanye abajongene nabo bahlaselwa ukungathandabuzeki. Bona ukuxhatshazwa kwaye bayazi entliziyweni yabo ukuba akuphosakeleyo, kodwa abaqondi ukuba benzani. Yingakho abazali kunye nootitshala kufuneka baxhobise abakhweli ngeendlela ezifanelekileyo zokuphendula. Kukho inani lezinto ababukeli abakwaziyo ukukwenza ukuncedisa, kodwa kaninzi abazi ukuba zeziphi izinto. Nangona ukhokelo oluncinane, abantwana banokufunda indlela yokuphendula xa beshumayela ukuxhatshazwa.
Uloyiko
Ukwesaba esinye isizathu sokuba abantu ababukeli bengakwazi ukwenza nantoni na xa bebona ubungqina. Abanye ababukeleyo bayesaba ukuthetha nantoni na ngenxa yokuba bayamoyiki okanye bahlekisiwe. Kwakhona banokukhathazeka ukuba baya kuthetha okanye benze into engafanelekanga kwaye baqhube kakubi. Ngoko kunoko bahlala bathule. Okwangoku, abanye ababukeleyo bayesaba ukulimala okanye kuba yinto ejoliswe kuyo xa beza kukhusela ixhoba. Kwaye abanye bayesaba ukukhishwa. Baxhalabisa ukuba abanye kwiqela baya kubavulela, bahlekise okanye baxoshe xa bemela ixhoba.
Ukuthotywa
Emva kwesiganeko sokuxhatshazwa siphelile, abaninzi ababukeleyo banzima benetyala. Abava nje kuphela baziva kakubi kwizinto ezenzeke kwixhoba, kodwa baziva benetyala elikhulu ngenxa yokungangeneleli.
Kananjalo banokuziva benetyala ngenxa yokuba bengayazi ukuba benzani okanye besabe kakhulu ukuba bangene kuyo. Ngaphezu koko, eli netyala lingalinganisa iingqondo zabo emva kokuba uxhatshazo luphelile.
Indlela yokuPhepha
Ukudibanisa ukwesaba kunye netyala kungakhokelela kwizinto ezibizwa ngokuba yimpikiswano yokuphepha. Oku kwenzeka xa kukho umnqweno onyanisekileyo wokuncedisa ngemeko kodwa umnqweno onamandla wokuphepha loo meko. Xa kuziwa kukuxhatshazwa , abantwana banokuziva benetyala ngenxa yokungabancedi kwaye besaba kakhulu ukuncedisa ngexesha elifanayo. Kufana nokuba bathatyathwa ngeendlela ezimbini ngokukhawuleza. Ngamanye amaxesha ukunqwenela ukunceda kunamandla kwaye kunqoba.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukwesaba iziphumo kuphezulu. Isiphumo siyi-indecisiveness, ekhokelela ekuvaleleni ngaphandle kokulawula kwaye ivelise amanqanaba aphezulu oxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba kummeli.
Ukuxhalabisa
Abadlali nabo banokuba nokuxhalabisa ngokuxhatshazwa. Emva kokubonelela ngesiganeko sokuxhatshazwa, abanye abantu baqala ukuxhalabisa ukuba baya kuba yiithagethi ezilandelayo ngokukodwa xa ukuxhatshazwa kunzima okanye ukuqhubela phambili esikolweni. Olu xhaphalo lungakhokelela ukuba ummeli akhathazeke ngokukhuseleka nokukhuseleko esikolweni. Oku kwenza ukuba ingxaki ilukhuni. Ngamanye amaxesha abaxhasi banqotshwa ngokuxhalaba abaye baphephe kwiindawo apho kuxhatshazwa khona. Kananjalo banokuphepha iziganeko zentlalo kunye neminye imisebenzi ngenxa yokuxhalaba ngokuxhatshazwa.
Ngamanye amaxesha, kwizame zokuhlangabezana nokuxhalaba kwaye ukuphepha ukuba yiithagethi, abagadi banokuthi badibanise ii-click okanye baxhomekeke kwingcinezelo yontanga . Abaxhasi banokuze babe ngabaxhaphazi nje ukuze baphephe ukuxhatshazwa.