Ukuxhatshazwa ngumbandezelo kuyinkxalabo enzima kubantu abaninzi abaselula. Enyanisweni, abantwana abaninzi ababona ukuxhatshazwa esikolweni badla ngoyika, bexhalabele kwaye bancedi. Ukungabikho kolwakho ukuxhaphaza esikolweni kuthintela isimo sezulu kwisimo sezulu kunye nokufunda, kodwa kuya kuba nefuthe kwimpilo nomntu ngamnye. Ngokomzekelo, uphando oluthile lubonisa ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kunokuba nempembelelo eninzi kubantwana abayifumana njengaleo bantwana abaxhatshazwayo.
Sekunjalo, bambalwa abantwana abasichazela ukuxhatshazwa. Abagcini nje ukuhluleka ukumelana nomntu onokuxhaphaza, kodwa abazange baxelele oko bakubonayo kumntu omdala. Ngelixa ezininzi zezingane ziyazi nje ukuba zenzeni, zikho ezinye iindizathu ezibangela ukuthula. Nazi izizathu ezisixhenxe zokuba kutheni abahlali behleli bathule.
Kutheni abantu abaxhomekeke kwiindawo abaqhelekanga besithi Akukho nto yokuchasaza
Uloyiko loxhatshazo luya kubuyisela . Umoyika mhlawumbi iyona sizathu sokuba abantwana bahlale bathule. Bayesaba ukuba xa bathetha umntu, umxhasi uya kubajolisa kubo ngokulandelayo. Le nkolelo yinyani ngokukodwa kubantu abaye baba ngamaxhoba okuxhatshazwa ngaphambili. Bahlala bejonge ukuxhatshazwa kweemeko kwaye bayabulela nje ukuba abajoliswanga.
Fumana uxinzelelo lokuba uhlale uhleli . Amaxesha amaninzi, iqhosha okanye iqela lentombazana enentsingiselo lijongene nokuxhatshazwa. Ngenxa yoko, abahlali bavame ukuba abantwana abafuna ukuwamkelwa liqela okanye bayingxenye yeqela.
Ngoko kunokumelana nexhoba, baxhomekeke kwingcinezelo yontanga baze bahlale bethule malunga nomcimbi.
Ukulwa nokungaqiniseki . Amaxesha amaninzi, ababukeli baya kubona isiganeko sokuxhatshazwa kwaye bayazi ukuba akuphosakeleyo, kodwa abaqondi ukuba benzani. Ngenxa yoko, kubaluleke kakhulu kubazali, abaqeqeshi, kunye nootitshala ukuba bathathe amanyathelo okuxhobisa abameli ukuba bathathe inyathelo .
Uninzi lwexesha, ukuxhatshazwa kwenzeka phambi kwabanye abantu. Ukuba ngaba ngabahlali bafundiswa ukuba benzani xa bebungqina bokuxhaphaza , baya kuba banokungenelela kwaye bancede umntu.
Ukukhathazeka ngokubizwa ngokuba yi-snitch . Xa kuziwa ngokuxhatshazwa esikolweni okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwezemidlalo , ngokuqhelekileyo kukho umthetho ongabonakali malunga nokufihlakeleka, ngokukodwa phakathi kwabantwana abaphakathi kweminyaka eyi-11 no-14. Akukho mntu ufuna ukubizwa ngokuba yi-tattletale okanye i-rat, ngoko bajika iintloko kwaye uzama ukulibala malunga nalo. Ukujongana nale ngcamango, ootitshala, abaqeqeshi kunye nabazali kufuneka bafundise abantwana ngokwahlukileyo phakathi kokunika into ethile nokuba yi-tattletale. Ukuma kumntu ohlukumezekayo kufuneka abe ngumsebenzi onesibindi.
Kucinga ukuba abantu abadala abakwenzi nto nantoni na . Ngelishwa, abantwana abaninzi baye babika ukuxhatshazwa kuphela ukuba bafumane ukuba abadala baxela ukuba bangayihoxanga okanye bahluleka ukuthatha inyathelo. Nangona zonke iinkqubela phambili zokuthintela ukuxhatshazwa , kusekho abantu abadala abadala abanokunyamekela imeko yokuxhatshazwa kunokujongana nayo. Ukongezelela, kukho ezinye izikolo ezikhuthaza abantwana ukuba bahambe ngeemeko ngokwabo. Oku kushiya abantwana baziva bengakhathazeki ngokuxhatshazwa. Bashiywe ngesimo sengqondo "asiyi kwenza nantoni na." Ngenxa yesi sizathu, izikolo zifuna imigaqo-nkqubo yokuthintela uxhatshazo efuna ukuba ootitshala nabaqeqeshi benze okuthile.
Ndivakalelwa kukuba ayikho yoshishino labo . Abantwana abaninzi baye bafundiswa ukuba bangabikho kwiimeko ezingabandakanyi kuzo. Nangona le ngcebiso echanekileyo yeengxabano eziqhelekileyo , akuyona ingcebiso efanelekileyo yokuxhatshazwa kweemeko. Xa ukuxhatshazwa kwenzeka, kukho ukungalingani kwamandla kwaye ixhoba lifuna uncedo nenkxaso kwabanye. Akunakukwazi ukusingatha imeko yokuxhatshazwa ngokwabo. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuba abazali, ootitshala nabaqeqeshi bazise abantwana ukuba ukuba umntu uxhatshazwa, banembopheleleko yokuyibika kumntu omdala.
Kholelwa ukuba ixhoba lifanelwe . Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana baya kwenza izigwebo malunga namaxhoba xa bebona ubungqina.
Ngokomzekelo, banokuvakalelwa kukuba ixhoba lakhuthaza ukuxhatshazwa ngokuthi "ukucaphukisa" okanye "ukuzikhukhumeza." Kodwa abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukuba wonke umntu ufanelwe ukuphathwa ngenhlonipho. Kwaye akukho mntu ufanele ukuxhatshazwa. Ngaphambi kokuba utshintsho lwengqondo, abantwana baya kuqhubeka bethula xa abanye bexhatshazwa.