Abazalwana nodadewethu balwa. Yinyaniso ebomini. Baxhaphaza ngethelevishini kunye ne-jockey kwisitulo sangaphambili semoto. Bengavumelani nantoni na apho ukuyalela isidlo sakusihlwa. Kodwa xa umntakwabo engavumelaniyo ahlambalaza, ukuxhatshazwa . Akusekho ukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kubantwana.
Enyanisweni, ubundlobongela phakathi kwabantwana bakowenu ngumnye weentlobo eziqhelekileyo zobundlobongela basekhaya.
Kwenzeka ezine ukuya kweyesihlandlo ngamaxesha amaninzi xa uqabane okanye ukuxhaphazwa kwabantwana. Okona, phantse isiqingatha sabo bonke abantwana baye bahlwaywa, batyunjwa okanye batywe ngumntakwabo. Kwaye ama-15 ekhulwini ahlaselwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kodwa naziganeko ezinzima kakhulu ezingabonakaliyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, iintsapho zilahla ukuziphatha njenge-horseplay okanye umntakwabo. Okona zibi nakakhulu, zinyanzelisa ukuba akunjalo. Kodwa xa omnye umntwana enenzakalisa intlungu okanye ehlazisa omnye umele akufanele agcinwe. Kufuneka iqwalaselwe ngokukhawuleza.
Iziphumo zeSibling Bullying
Ukuxhatshazwa phakathi kwabantwana bakowenu kungalimaza abaxhoba ngeendlela ezifana nezoxhatshazwayo kwindawo yokudlala. Enyanisweni, uphando oluthile lufumanise ukuba ukuxhatshazwa ngumzalwana okanye udade kwakunobungozi njengontanga. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhatshazwa komntwana kukubi kakhulu. Ukuthi ukuxhatshazwa komntakwabo kungathinteli ukuzithemba kodwa kuhlala kunye nexhoba kwiminyaka ezayo.
Xa kubakho ukuxhatshazwa komntwana, kuphazamisa indawo enye umntwana kufuneka azive ekhuselekile-ekhaya.
Amanye amaxhoba omntakwabo abaxhatshazwayo bayabambana nemibandela yengxaki ebuntwaneni babo. Ngokomzekelo, banokuziva bengenathemba, bebodwa kwaye bahlukeneyo. Kananjalo banokujamelana nokuxhalaba, ukuxinezeleka kunye neenkcukacha.
Emva koko ebomini, balwa nemisebenzi yabo kunye nolwalamano lwabo konke ngenxa yokuthotywa ababenokubantwana. Amaxhoba okuxhatshazwayo kunye nabantwana abaxhatshazwayo nabo banokukhathazeka ngokwasemzimbeni nakwezemfundo. AmaBakala abo awamane nje kuphela, kodwa nawo anokufumana iintloko, ama-stomachach kunye nezinye izikhalazo.
Ukuchonga iSibling Bullying
Enye yezona ndlela ezifanelekileyo zokuchonga umntakwabo ukuxhaphazwa kukuba ukwazi ezintathu zezinto zokuxhatshazwa . Ezi ziquka ukungalingani kwamandla, izenzo zokwenza izinto, kunye nokuziphatha okuphindaphindiweyo. Ngamanye amazwi, xa abantakwabo behlala behlala ekubizeni amagama, ukuhlaziswa, ukutshutshiswa, ukuxhaphazwa ngokwenyama kunye nezinye iindlela zokuxhaphaza, oku kubakho ukuxhatshazwa. Olu hlobo lokuziphatha aluqhelekanga. Abantakwabo akufanele bahlutywa ngabanye abantakwabo.
Abanye abantu badibanisa umntakwabo kunye nomntakwabo. Kodwa kukho umehluko. Ukubambisana nokubambisana kukukhuthaza ukhuphiswano. Kodwa xa omnye umntwana enenjongo yokulimaza okanye ukuhlazisa omnye, ukuxhatshazwa kwaye kufuneka kulungiswe. Ngamanye amagama, umntwana oxhatshazwayo kufuneka aqeqeshwe kwaye imida efanelekileyo ifanele ibekwe.
Khumbula kwakhona, kungekhona konke ukuxhatshazwa kubantwana kubandakanya ukuxhatshazwa. Abantakwabo bahlala bexhatshazwa kunye nobizo-magama , zombini nokuba lunobungozi njengobuthathaka.
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali badlala indima ekuxhaseni . Ngokomzekelo, ukuvumela abantwana ukuba balwe ngokuqhubekayo ngaphandle kokungenelela kuyingozi kubo bobabini abantwana. "Ukulwa naso" akukhethi yinto enhle. Abantwana badinga uncedo lokufunda indlela yokulungisa ingxaki . Ukuba abazange bafundiswe ukuba basebenzisane njani kunye nokuxazulula iingxaki, baya kuphendukela kwizenzo ezingekho mpilo ukuze bafumane oko bafuna. Kwaye kwezinye iimeko, unokuxhatshazwa.
Abazali bancedisa ekuxhatshazweni xa bedlala intandokazi okanye babhalele abantwana babo ngokuthi "oyingcali," "umgijimi," "unomdla" okanye "othulileyo." Ezi ncwadi zikhokelela ekukhuphiseni okungenakulungileyo phakathi koodadewabo ezinokuhlakulela ukuxhatshazwa.
Khumbula, ikhaya kufuneka libe yindawo ephephile apho wonke umntu emthandayo kwaye aphathwa ngokulinganayo. Nangona umona kunye nomntakwenkqonkqo oqhelekileyo, qiniseka ukuba ayiphumeli. Yenza ngokukhawuleza kunye nomntakwabo. Beka imida kwaye ungenelele ukuba ukuphikisana kubandakanya ukuthetha kakubi okanye ukubiza igama. Cela abantwana bakho ukuba baphathe abazalwana babo ngenhlonipho. Yinyathelo ngokukhawuleza ukuba ukungavumelani kukuba ngumzimba. Injongo kukuba wonke umntu osentsapho uyamthanda, uyamncedisa kwaye uphathwe ngenhlonipho.