Kukho amabali amaninzi ngokuxhatshazwa kwentsha ezithatha ubomi bawo. Kucacile ukuba kukho ukudibanisa phakathi kokuxhatshazwa nokuzibulala. Kodwa ngaba kulula nje ngokuba - ukuxhaphaza kwenza abantwana bazibulale?
Uninzi lweengcali zempilo yengqondo luya kuthi ukuxhatshazwa yimbangela yokuzibulala yinto elula kakhulu. Ukuxhatshazwa kwandisa uxinzelelo kunye nokwandisa ingozi yokuzibulala kwaye ubunzulu bolu daba akufanele kuthintelwe.
Kodwa, ukuhluleka ukujonga ezinye izinto ezichaphazela ukuzibulala kuyiphutha. Ukuzibulala kuyinkathazo eyinkimbinkimbi echaphazelekayo yintlungu yokuxinezeleka, iimvakalelo zokuphelelwa lithemba, ukungabi nantlonelo, izinto zokuphila kwentsapho kunye nokunye.
Sekunjalo, kuba ukuxhatshazwa kungabangela ukuzibulala, ukubaluleka kwayo akufanele kuthatyathwe. Xa abantwana abasemngciphekweni wokuzibulala ngenxa yokudandatheka okanye ezinye iinkalo zempilo yengqondo baxhatshazwa, iziphumo zingaba zimbi. Nangona abantwana abachanekileyo abaxhatshazwayo banokudandatheka kwaye bacinge ngokuzibulala. Ngoko kufuneka ukuzibulala xa kuqhathaniswa umntwana.
Zithini izibalo?
- Phantse i-quarter-quarters ye-graders abaxelile ukuxhatshazwa nabo babika ukuba bazame ukuzibulala kwiinyanga ezili-12 ezidlulileyo, ngokwe-Washington State Healthy Survey.
- Isiqingatha sabathathi abali-12 abavakalisa ukuxhatshazwa nabo babalisa ukuba bazizwe bebuhlungu kwaye bengenathemba phantse imihla ngemihla kwiiveki ezimbini ngokulandelelana, ngokweSavey State Health Survey Survey.
- Phakathi kwabantu abaneminyaka engama-15 ukuya kwe-24 ubudala, ukuzibulala ngenye yezinto ezibangela ukufa, ngokokuVeza ukuVeza iZwi leMfundo. Ukongezelela, iipesenti ezili-16 zabafundi zijonga ukuzibulala; 13 ipesenti yenza isicwangciso; kwaye iipesenti eziyi-8 zenze umzamo omkhulu.
- Ukuxhaphazwa kwabantwana kubangela ukuba abantwana bacinge ukuzibulala ngaphezu kokuxhaphazwa ngokwemveli ngokwe- JAMA Pediatrics .
Yintoni Abazali Bangayenza?
Yazi iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa . Enye yezona ndlela ezilungileyo zokubona uxhatshazo ebomini babantwana bakho zibukela iimvakalelo zabo. Ukuba ngaba baxhalabele ngokukhawuleza, bagxininise okanye babonise ukuba bayayithiya isikolo, qaphela. Qaphela kwakhona ukuba bathetha ukuba kuninzi umdlalo esikolweni okanye ukuba abanalo abahlobo. Ezinye iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa zibandakanya ukukhononda kweentloko kunye nokuqhaqha, ukusila esikolweni , ukulahlekelwa impahla kunye nokukhawuleza kwamabanga.
Yazi iimpawu zokudakumba. Iimpawu ezifana nokuyeka amanqaku, ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwimisebenzi eyintandokazi, ukuhoxisa uluntu nokulala ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi kweziqhelekileyo zonke iimpawu ezibangelwa ngumntu. Ukukhala okungapheliyo kubonisa nokuba ukudakumba kunokuba yingxaki. Ukuba nomsindo omkhulu kunokuba ngumqondiso wokudakumba.
Yazi iimpawu zokuzibulala. Abantu abacinga ukuzibulala bangaba nexhala, babonakale bengenathemba kunye namava okutshintsha ubuntu. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abazibulala bazonqamla ukuqhagamshelana nabanye abantu kwaye balahlekelwe ngumdla kwimisebenzi. Okanye, bangase baqale ukucoceka izinto, ukuphosa okanye ukuphaya izinto ezixabisekileyo. Kananjalo banokutyelela abahlobo bamandulo baze bajikeleze amalungu omndeni. Ukuba ubona nayiphi na imiqondiso yeengcamango zokuzibulala, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba kwenzekani.
Musa ukulibazisa ukuthatha inyathelo.
Nceda umntwana wakho anqobe uxhatshazo. Enye yezona ndlela ezintle zokunceda umntwana wakho anganqobi ukunyanzela kukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ukhululekile ukuthetha nawe. Kufuneka uzinikezele ekubancedeni ukuxazulula umba. Ukulandelelana nesikolo de ukukhutshwa komba. Inkqubo yokulwa nokuxhaphaza ide. Ngoko kufuneka uzinikezele kwinkqubo. Kuya kuba neentsuku ezilungileyo kunye neentsuku ezimbi. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba umntwana unako ukufikelela kwiimithombo afuna ukuthetha ngazo ngeemvakalelo zakhe aze ahlangabezane nento eyenzekayo. Kwakhona, qiniseka ukuba uhlala udibanisene nabasebenzi besikolo.
Ukuxhatshazwa kudla ngokunyuka ngokwexesha kwaye kaninzi akupheli ngaphandle kokungenelela okuqhubekayo.
Yenza umntwana wakho ahlolwe aze aphathwe ngenxa yokudandatheka. Naliphi na ixesha ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho ucinezelekile okanye ucinga ukuzibulala, kukulungele ukuba ahlolwe ngugqirha wakhe okanye kwizengcali zempilo yengqondo. Ukufumana unyango lokudandatheka kukuyindlela efanelekileyo yokubuyisela. Nangona ungacingi ukuba umntwana wakho ucinezelekile, unokufuna ukuthetha nochwepheshe bezempilo. Ukuxhatshazwa kunemiphumo ebalulekileyo kwaye ukuba iyaqhubeka ingaba nefuthe elihlala njalo.
Ungazihoyikisi iinkqubo zokuzibulala. Nangona bonke abantwana bangasongela ukuzibulala ngaphambi kokuba benze oko, abanye bayakwenza. Ngoko qaphela nayiphi na ixesha umntu ekhankanya ukuthatha ubomi bakhe. Nangona umntu osongela ukuzibulala akanakunqwenela ukulandela, oku kukhwaza ngokwenene kuncedo kwaye akufanele sityeshelwe. Vumela umntwana wakho ithuba lokuthetha nomcebisi kwaye ugweme ukumshiya yedwa ixesha elide.