Funda iimpawu ezilumkiso ezixhatshazwa ngumntwana wakho
Xa kuziwa kukuxhatshazwa, abantwana abaninzi abazange bathethe igama. Abagcinanga nje kuphela kubahlobo babo, kodwa banqabile ukuba baxelele abantu abadala ebomini babo, kuquka nabazali babo. Esikhundleni saloo nto, bahlala bebuhlungu bevumela ukuxhatshazwa ukuba kwande. Nangona eli qiniso lingadideka kubantu abadala, lenza ingqiqo kumntu oselula.
Okokuqala, ukuxhatshazwa kukuhlazisa kwaye kubuhlungu kubantwana.
Ezi mvakalelo zenziwa xa zixelela omnye umntu ukuba zixhatshazwa. Kwakhona xa bebalisa okwenzekayo, banokuvakalelwa ngathi baxhomekeke ekuxhatshazweni. Ukongezelela, banokuxhalabisa ukuba abanye baya kuvuma kunye noxhaphaza okanye bakholelwa ukuba bafanelwe unyango.
Okwesibini, ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bayakhathazeka kukuba ukuxelela umntu kuza kwenza imeko ibe yimbi. Kwaye kwezinye iimeko, oku kuyenzeka. Ukuzibuyisela kuyingozi yenzalo xa kuthethwa ukuxhatshazwa. Okwesithathu, abantwana banokwesaba ukuba abazali babo okanye abanye abadala baya kudana nabo. Esikhundleni sokubeka ityala lokuxhatshazwa kumxhaphazi, bahlala bebeka ityala.
Ziziphi Iimpawu Ukuba Umntwana Wakho Uxhatshazwa?
Ngenxa yoko, njengomzali, kufuneka ukwazi ukuqonda iimpawu ukuba umntwana wakho uhlaselwa. Awukwazi ukubala kubo ukwabelana ngolwazi kunye nawe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buqinile kangakanani.
Nazi iibhozo ezisibhozo zokubeka iiflegi ezibomvu ekuziphatheni komntwana wakho.
Mamela oko umntwana wakho ekuxelela khona. Iintwana ezininzi aziyi kusebenzisa igama elithi "ukuxhatshazwa" ukuchaza oko bahlangabezana nazo. Qaphela ukuba abantwana bakho bathi kukho "umdlalo" kwikolo okanye ukuba abanye "bahlambalaza" nabo.
Buza ukuba bachaze oko kwenzekayo kunye nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Zama ukuqokelela iinkcukacha ezijikeleze imeko. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthembela kuwe, musa ukunciphisa, ukulungiswa okanye ukuchazela amava. Qinisekisa abantwana bakho ukuba abazange babangele ukuxhatshazwa. Kunoko, banika iingcamango zokulwa nokuxhatshazwa .
Jonga "abaphangiweyo" abahlobo. Njengomzali, uyaziqhelana nabahlobo bakho bezingane. Qaphela ukuba ngabahlobo bakho abaqhelekileyo abababizi okanye babemema. Ngamanye amaxesha ubuhlobo buphuka ngenxa yokuba abantwana bayakhula. Ngamanye amaxesha, abahlobo abapheleyo bangabonakalisa ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kwenzeka. Buza abantwana bakho malunga nabahlobo babo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyaphendula, "Andikho nabangane," yilophawu olubomvu obomvu kwaye kufuneka ufumane ngaphezulu.
Namela ingqalelo yomntwana wakho. Khangela utshintsho oluphawulekayo ekuziphatheni komntwana kunye nobuntu bakho. Abantwana abaxhatshazwayo maxa wambi babonakala bexhala, bexakeka, baxakeke okanye bahoxiswe. Baya kubonakala bebuhlungu, bexhala, baxinekile okanye baxinezelekile, ngakumbi emva kwesikolo okanye emva kokusebenzisa i-intanethi. Gxininisa xa abantwana bexhamla ngokuzithoba, bazigweba ngokwabo ngezinto okanye bathi bangenakulungele. Futhi ungalokothi uzibekele ukuziphatha okubhubhisa njengokuzibalekela ekhaya, ukusika okanye ukuthetha ngokuzibulala.
Ingaba ukuxhatshazwa kungabangela imbandezelo, ezi zinto azifanele zinyanzeliswe.
Qaphela ukuba izikhalazo zempilo zentombazana yakho kunye nokulimala. Xa abantwana bexhatshazwa baya kukhononda ngokuphindaphindiweyo kweentloko, izigulana okanye ezinye izifo. Ezinye iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa ziquka ukutyunjwa okungachazwanga, ukunyangwa, kunye nemijelo. Abantwana nabo bangabonakalisa utshintsho kwimikhuba yokutya njengokudla ukudla okanye ukutya ngokutya. Basenokubuya ekhaya besuka esikolweni belambile ngenxa yokuba badla ukudla kwasemini ukuze bagweme ukuxhatshazwa. Enye ingcaciso ingaba umntu utshabalalise okanye uthathe isidlo sasemini. Ukuba ubona nayiphi na le miqondiso, kufike ixesha lokufumana oko kwenzekayo ngobomi bomntwana wakho.
Jonga imikhuba yokulala yomntwana wakho . Utshintsho kwiipatheni zokulala zibonisa ukuba into ephilileyo ebomini bakho. Abantwana abajoliswe ngabaxhatshazwayo banokuba neengxaki zokulala okanye bafumane ukulala ebusuku xa belele. Ezinye izikhombisi zibandakanya ukulala okungaphezulu kwesiqhelo, ukukhala ngokulala nokulala. Ngenxa yokuba ubuthongo bezinga eliphezulu liyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yendlela yokuphila enempilo, uphando nayiphi na inguqu kwiindlela zokulala zomntwana wakho.
Khangela ubunzulu xa amabakala omntwana wakho eqala ukuwa. Abantwana abaxhatshazwayo bafumana kunzima ukugxila emsebenzini wesikolo. Ngenxa yoko, banokulahlekelwa ngumdla kwisikolo kwaye amabakala angancipha. Khawuleza ubuze abantwana bakho ukuba ngaba bengathandi isikolo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthi "bayayithiya" isikolo, fumana ukuba kutheni. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhatshazwa kuya kuba yingcambu yengxaki.
Qiniseka ukuba uyazi ishedyuli yomntwana wakho. Ukunyuka imisebenzi yesikolo okanye ukubiza ukuba imisebenzi eqhelekileyo ichithwe ingabonisa ukuba umntwana wakho uxhatshazwa. Kananjalo, hlawula ingqalelo xa umntwana wakho elahlekelwa umdla kwimidlalo oyithandayo, umdlalo okanye umsebenzi. Ukuphambuka kwizinto eziqhelekileyo kubonisa ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Fumana isizathu sokuba izinto zitshintshile.
Jonga kwiingxelo zezinto ezilahlekileyo. Ukufika ekhaya ukusuka esikolweni ngaphandle kwepropati yomntu kunye nokubonelela kungabonisa okungaphezulu nje kokuziphatha okungaxanduva. Ngamaxesha amaninzi ukuxhatshazwa komonakalo okanye ukuba isakhiwo sexhoba. Ngoko ke xa umntwana wakho ebuyela ekhaya enezambatho eziqhekekileyo, ezonakalisiweyo okanye ezingekhoyo, iimpahla, iidyski, izinto ze-elektroniki kunye nezinye izinto, ukumba ubuncinane. Unokufumana ukuba umntwana wakho uxhatshazwa.