Iindlela ezili-10 zokunceda umntwana wakho anqobe ukuxhaphaza

Iingcamango malunga nendlela yokunceda umntwana wakho abuyele ekuxhatshazweni

Akukho nto embi ngaphezu kokufumanisa i-middle or teen you targeted bully. Njengomzali, unokufumana uluhlu olubanzi lweemvakalelo ezibandakanya umsindo, ukwesaba, intlungu, ukudideka kunye mhlawumbi neentloni. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba uziva njani, ukunqoba ukuxhatshazwa kufuna inxaxheba ngokukhawuleza kwinqanaba lakho.

Ukuxhatshazwa akuyona into ehamba yedwa kwaye akuyinto into yokuba abantwana "banokusebenza." Nangona ungaqinisekanga ukuba umntwana wakho uyaxhatshazwa, ukubamba iqhaza kwakho kwimeko kubalulekile kwimiphumo emihle.

Nazi iindlela ezili-10 onokuzithatha ukuze uncede umntwana wakho anqobe ukuxhatshazwa.

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Yenza iNgqongileyo apho i-Tween yakho okanye i-Teen i-Safe Feel Safe Talking to You

Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana okanye intlanethi uziziva ekhululekile ukuthetha nawe. Gwema ukufumana impendulo kwaye ungamhlazisi umntwana wakho ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa. Kunoko, cela imibuzo ngokuzola ngokuqokelela iinkcukacha ezininzi njengoko unako. Ukugcoba i-brave yakho okanye intliziyo yesibindi ngokukuxelela ngesiganeko. Oku akukhuthazi kuphela ukuchazwa kwangomso kodwa kuya kunceda nokwakha ubudlelwane obomeleleyo phakathi kwenu bobabini.

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Yenza Isibophelelo Ukuncedisa Inkinga

Kuhlala kuluvo oluhle ukucela umbono wengane yakho ngaphambi kokuya ngqo kootitshala okanye ngabalawuli. Ngamanye amaxesha i-middle or teen will be afraid of repayment kwaye kufuneka ube nexhala le nkxalabo xa ulungisa umba. Ukuba kukho ukwesaba ukuphindisela, kuya kufuneka ube yingqondi xa uthetha nabasemagunyeni besikolo uze uqiniseke ukuba baya kwenza okufanayo. Qinisekisa ukuba abayikubeka umngcipheko wakho emngciphekweni ngokubizela zombini abantwana kwiofisi ngexesha elifanayo okanye bacele ukuba bahlale phantsi kunye nomcebisi wekhokelo kunye.

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Xoxani ngeziganeko zokuxhatshazwa kwiinkcukacha kunye nabasebenzi beSikolo

Qinisekisa ukuzisa amanqaku malunga nokuba nini kwaye kuphi ukuxhatshazwa okwenzekayo. Amaxwebhu anokwinkcazo onokukubonelela, ngcono. Kananjalo, bacele ukuba babelane ngomgaqo-nkqubo wokuxhatshazwa kwesikolo kunye nokunyanzelisa ukuba ufuna ukusebenzisana nesikolo ukuba ubone ukuba imbambano isisombululo.

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Gxi ninisa ukuba Injongo Yakho Kukubona Ukuba Umntwana Wakho Uziva Ekhuselekileyo esikolweni

Buza inqununu kunye nomcebisi wesikhokelo ukuba oku kuza kwenziwa njani. Ngokomzekelo, yintoni abanye abantu abadala, njengabancedisi bokusebenza, ootitshala bezemfundo, abaqhubi bebhasi, abagadi bamagumbi kunye nabasebenzi bokutya, baya kwaziswa ukuba baqaphele? Ngaba umntwana wakho unokufumana ishedyuli entsha yeklasi okanye isabelo esitsha selocker? Ngamanye amazwi, yiziphi iinyawo ezithatha isikolo ukuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lomntwana wakho? Kunzima ukuba umntwana aphilise ukuba imeko yesikolo ivakalelwa yingozi. Nangona ukuxhatshazwa kuyekile, ukuzungezela umxhaphazi kusenokubangela ukuba uxhalaba phakathi kwakho okanye kwentsha .

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Cinga ngcebiso nge Ngaphandle

Ukuxhatshazwa kunokuchaphazela umntwana wakho ngeendlela ezininzi kwaye ukuzithemba ngokwakho yinkqubo enokufuna ngaphandle kwangenelelo. Umcebisi unokuvavanya phakathi kwakho okanye umntwana osemncinci ukudandatheka kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala. Nangona ukhumbula ukuba umntwana wakho ulungile, ungalokothi uchithe amandla okuxhatshazwa. Abantwana baye bathatha amanyathelo amanyathelo okuba babalekele intlungu ebangela ukuba bazibulale ngaphandle kokuvuma ukuva kwabo bevakalelwa.

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Khuthaza i-Your pakati okanye i-Teen ukuba unamathele kunye nomhlobo esikolweni Ukuba nomhlobo ngexesha lesidlo, kumabhobho, ngelixa ugibela ibhasi kwaye ngexesha lokuhamba ekhaya lihlala liluvo oluhle. Abakhohlisi banakho ukujolisa abantwana xa bebodwa. Ukuba ufumana umngane umba, khawucinge ukuqhuba umntwana wakho kwaye uye esikolweni kwaye ubuze isikolo ukuba unomcebisi okanye umntu onokufumaneka kumntwana wakho.

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Fundisa i-Your Out or Skills Teen Skills Yokunqoba I-Impact Impact of Bullying

Enye indlela yokwenza oku kukugxininisa amandla omntwana, izakhono, iitalente kunye neempawu ezilungileyo. Emva koko, ncedise umntwana wakho ukuba athole imisebenzi kunye neziganeko eziza kunceda kulawo makomelelo. Abanye abazali baye bafumanisa ukuba iTa Kwon Do okanye iklasi yokuzikhusela inceda abantwana bahlakulele ukuzithemba.

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Gcina iMida yoNxibelelwano evulekileyo kunye nomntwana wakho

Yiba nombono ngokubuza malunga nexesha lakho okanye usuku lwentsholongwane kwaye uvume nayiphi na imvakalelo emibi okanye iimvakalelo. Jonga ngempawu yokuba umntwana wakho uxhatshazwa kwakhona-nokuba ngumntu ofanayo okanye umntu omtsha. Ngenxa yeziganeko ezingaxhatshazwayo, ungaphinda ufune ukucinga iingcebiso zokujongana neemeko zontanga ezinzima. Ukuba umntwana wakho uphume ngaphandle kweengcebiso, umcebisi angakunika izicwangciso ezongezelelweyo ekuphulaphuleni ngokuthe ngangoko kunye nokuthetha nomntwana wakho.

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Amathuba amahle okusebenzisana nabahlobo ngaphandle kwesikolo

Khuthaza phakathi kwakho okanye umfana ukuba ucele abahlobo ngaphaya, kwiifilimu okanye eminye imisebenzi emnandi. Ngokwenza njalo, unceda umntwana wakho akhule inkqubo enenkxaso yenkxaso. Ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukufumana uncedo lokufumana abahlobo ujonge amathuba kumbuthano wengane yakho. Gcina ukhumbule abantwana ababenabo abahlobo abangenakukwazi ukujoliswa ngabaxhatshazwayo. Kwaye ukuba zijoliswe, ukuba nabahlobo kunceda ukuphucula iziphumo ezibi.

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Ulandele iSikolo ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kusisombululo

Ukuba ukuxhatshazwa akuzange kusombululwe, okanye ukuba isikolo singathathi nzulu imeko, ungathanda ukucinga ukuba ususa umntwana wakho kwimeko. Ngaba ukuxhatshazwa kunzulu ngokwaneleyo ukuba unokubandakanya ukuthotyelwa komthetho? Ingaba i-middle or teen yakho ingaya kwesinye isikolo? Ngaba kukho iindlela zokufunda iinkqubo ze-intanethi ezenziwa ekhaya? Kubalulekile ukuba phakathi kwakho okanye umntwana wakho uvakalelwa ngathi banokukhetha. Uvakalelwa ngathi akukho zikhetho okanye ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kufuneka kubekezelele, kukhokelela kwiimvakalelo ezingathembekanga, ukuxinezeleka nokuzibulala.