Abahlobo abavumeli abahlobo bakhethe abanye
Ukuxhaphazwa kwenzeka rhoqo imihla kwizikolo kulo lonke ilizwe. Kwiintsuku ezithile uya kuzibona kwaye ezinye iintsuku awuyi kuba. Kodwa xa kwenzeka ngqo phambi kwakho ngumhlobo osondeleyo, kufuneka wenze okuthile ngako. Unetyala kumhlobo wakho ukukhuthaza ububele kunye nentlonipho. Kwaye unetyala kwixhoba ukuyivala. Nazi izinto ezintlanu ongayenza ukukhusela umhlobo wakho ekuxhatshazweni .
Yitsho into
Ukuba ubungqina ubungqina bakho kumntu , kubalulekile ukuba uthethe into yokuphelisa ukuziphatha. Akufanele uhlale uthula. Kubo bonke abantu ababonela ubungqina bexhatshazwayo, ungoyena mnye unokukwazi ukuwuphelisa. Awunakukhenkceza okanye wenze into enkulu ngaphandle kwayo. Mane nje uthi "yima" okanye "ayikho epholile." Unokuphazamisa umhlobo wakho ngokubuza umbuzo ongenangxaki. Kodwa into ebalulekileyo kukuba uthetha into. Nantoni na oyenzayo, ungayihleki okanye ungene kuyo. Oku kwenza izinto zibe zimbi nakwixhoba. Yaye ikhuthaza umhlobo wakho ukuba aqhube ukunyelisa.
Yenza into
Ukuba utshilo umhlobo wakho ukuba ayeke ukuziva engathandeki kuwe, mphazamise umhlobo wakho ngandlela-thile. Yenza ihlaya okanye ukhuthaze umhlobo wakho ukuba eze nawe ukufumana into esuka kumatshini wokuthengisa. Unokuqala ukubuza imibuzo malunga nesikolo okanye iqela lezemidlalo. Injongo kukudala ukuphazamiseka ngandlela-thile ukuze umhlobo wakho ayeke ukuxhatshazwa.
Khumbula, ukuba ungenzi okanye uthethe into ethile, ukuthula kwakho kuthetha ukuba uyavumelana noxhatshazo. Ukuba umhlobo wakho uqhubeka uxhaphaza, unokuhlala uhamba kwiimeko. Ngale ndlela, awuniki umhlobo wakho umphulaphuli wokuxhatshazwa. Kwakhona, ukuhamba nje kukuthumela umyalezo onamandla kakhulu malunga nendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo ngokuxhatshazwa.
Phakamisa iingozi
Xa imeko sele idlulile, qiniseka ukuthetha nomhlobo wakho ngeengozi zokuxhatshazwa. Mkhumbuze ukuba unokungena enkingeni kuquka nokumiswa. Kwakhona, zama ukumfumana ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kuchaphazela njani ixhoba . Mbuze ukuba uya kuziva njani kwimeko efanayo. Kwakhona, mkhumbuze ukuba ukuba uyabaxhaphaza abanye abantu ngexesha udibene kunye naye, ke ubeka ingozi nawe.
Khokela ngu Mzekelo
Ngamanye amaxesha indlela engcono yokugcina umhlobo wakho ekukhethweni okubi kukukhokela ngomzekelo. Qiniseka ukuba uphatha abantu ngobubele nangentlonelo. Sukuma kubantu ababuthathaka kunani kwaye baqabane nabantwana abahlala bodwa okanye bahlala bodwa. Amaninzi amaninzi, abantwana abaxhaphazelayo bafuna ukuba bangene okanye bafumane. Ukuba umhlobo wakho uyaqaphela ukuba ukuze ube ngumhlobo wakho, kufuneka aphathe kakuhle abanye, ngoko unokuthi angakwazi ukuyeka ukuxhatshazwa .
Setha imida
Ukuba naphezu kwayo yonke imizamo yakho, umhlobo wakho usalugxina abanye abantu, kufike ixesha lokunciphisa umnxeba wakho nalo mhlobo. Oku kunokuthetha ukuba uyeka ukuchitha ixesha elide kunye kunye. Okanye, kusenokuthetha ukuba uxelela umngane wakho ukuba awufuni ukuchitha ixesha kunye. Naluphi na unxibelelwano lwakho, awukwazi ukugcina ubuhlobo nomntu ongenomusa kwabanye abantu.
Enyanisweni, ukuba umhlobo wakho uhlala ecaphukisa abanye , ngezinye iinkalo unokuqalisa ukuxhaphaza. Ixesha lokudweba umgca kwisanti kwaye unciphise umnxeba wakho kunye nalo mhlobo ade aqale ukuhlonipha. Khumbula, ukudibanisa nje nomntu onokuxhaphaza kunokukunceda ukukhanya kakubi. Nangona ungalokothi wenze okanye uthetha into ebalulekileyo, ubuhlobo bakho bubonisa ukuba uyavumelana nokuziphatha kwakhe.