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50/50 Iindlela zokudibanisa zePhysical Custody Options

"Sinokugcinwa ngokubambisana." Abazali abahlukaniseneyo nabazali abahlukeneyo baye baphonsa la mazwi ngeenxa zonke iminyaka, kodwa akukho shedyuli enye kunye nencazelo yekota. A

I-Custody ingaba yinyama, yomthetho okanye zombini. Xa abazali bekwabelana ngokugcinwa komthetho, bobabini bathetha ngezigqibo ezinkulu malunga nobomi bomntwana, njengemfundo, ukukhuselwa kwezenkolo kunye nokunyangwa kwezokwelapha. Xa abazali begcinwe ngokusemthethweni, abantwana babo bachithe inani elilinganayo lexesha elihlala nganye emakhaya abo, nangona akudingeki ukuba ibe yi-50/50 ehlukeneyo. A

Ezi shedyuli ezithandathu zokugcinwa kwexesha zibonelela ixesha elilingana nelinganayo nabantwana kunye nabazali bobabini. Unokwenza ulungelelanise kwaye uhlengahlengise iishedyuli ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho zentsapho ezikhethekileyo. Kubalulekile ukulungelelana nomsebenzi osebenza kuwo wonke umntu kwaye uthathe izinto ezininzi ngokuqwalasela, ezifana neesehedyuli zomsebenzi zabazali bobabini, iishedyuli zesikolo zezingane zakho, imisebenzi yazo yangaphandle, kunye nokuqhuba ukucinga ukuba uhlala ngaphaya kweekhilomitha ezili-30 . Zonke ezi zicwangciso kufuneka zikunike ithuba elihle lokuqala.

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Inketho # 1: Iiveki ezongezelelweyo

Abantwana bahlala kwindlu yomama ngeveki enye, kwaye utshintshele indlu kabawo ngeveki ezayo nale shedyuli. Iintsapho ezininzi zikhetha ukwenza utshintsho ngoLwesihlanu, kodwa unokukhetha nayiphi na imini yeveki isebenza kakuhle kuwe.

Njengokuba kukho iishedyuli zokugcinwa kwamanye amazwe, oku kufuna ukuba abantwana bakho babe neendawo zokulala zokuhlala kunye neendawo ezihlala kuyo kumakhaya onke: Gcina ii-wardrobe ezihlukeneyo, amathoyizi kunye ne-elekthronikhi eyintandokazi kwindawo nganye kunokwenzeka. Awufuni ukuba abantwana bakho bazive njenge-vagabonds, badonsa izinto zabo ezizithandayo kwakhona phakathi kwezindlu zenu ngeveki.

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Ikhetho # 2: Ukutyelelwa kweMidikeek

Iintsapho ezininzi zongeza ukhenketho lwangaphakathi lwangama-52 kwiveki yazo yokuhamba, ngoko ke abantwana abazange bahambe ngeveki epheleleyo bengaboni umzali. Ishedyuli eboniswe apha inokuthi ukutyelela phakathi kweveki kwenzeke ngeLwesibini, kodwa unokukhetha nawuphi na umsebenzi osebenza phambili kwintsapho yakho.

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Ikhethi # 3: I-Midweek Night Night

Ngeli shedyuli, abantwana banokuhlala olunye usuku ngeveki (ngokuqhelekileyo ngoLwesihlanu), kodwa bayonwaba phakathi kweveki phakathi kobusuku nomnye umzali. Iveki phakathi kweso sihlandlo sobusuku livela ngeLwesibini kwikhalenda eboniswe apha, kodwa oku akukrothiweyo kwityeba ukuba ubusuku obunye busebenza bhetele kunye neeshedyuli zezantlalo kunye nezentlalo okanye iishedyuli zakho zomsebenzi.

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Inketho # 4: Ukujikeleza kwe-2-2-3

Ngoluhlu lwesondlo, abantwana bahlala kunye noMzali A iintsuku ezimbini, ngoko kunye noBzali B ngeentsuku ezimbini, bese uchitha iveki yeentsuku ezintathu ezinemihla ngemihla kunye noMzali A. Ngeveki ezayo, i-flips kunye nezingane zihlala kunye noMzali B iintsuku ezimbini, emva koko uMzali A ngeentsuku ezimbini, ngaphambi kokuchitha iveki engama-intsuku emithathu kunye noMzali B. Oku kuvumela abazali ukuba babe nezinye iiveki kunye nabantwana.

Ukuphazamiseka kukuxinzeleleka kwabantwana bakho, ingakumbi ukuba umfana okanye wena kunye no-ex wakho akahlali ngokusondelene. Ukufudukela kwenye indlu yomzali nganye iintsuku ezimbalwa kunokuphazamisa. Kungabonakala kubantwana bakho ukuba lixesha lokushiya kwakhona ngokukhawuleza xa behlala kuyo. Yaye yonke iya kuchitha ixesha elininzi kwindlela ukuba wena kunye no-ex uhlala kude kakhulu.

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Inketho # 5: I-3-3-4-4 Ukujikeleza

Abantwana bachitha iintsuku ezintathu kunye noMzali oyi-A, iintsuku ezintathu kunye noMzali B, emva kweentsuku ezine kunye noMzali A kunye nale shedyuli, ilandelwa enye imihla ezine kunye noMzali B. Inzuzo kukuba abantwana bahlale behlala kwiindawo ngeeCawa ukuya kweLibini, kwaye kwenye indawo yokuhlala ngoLwesithathu ukuya kuLwesihlanu. Usuku kuphela oluguqukayo ukususela ngeveki ukuya kwiveki yimigqibelo, unike umhla weveki kumzali ngamnye. Ukuba ixesha elide lomzi ngamnye ngumzali linokuba lincinci elincinci kubantwana.

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Inketho # 6: Ukujikeleza kwe-2-2-5-5

Le ndlela ifana ne-3-3-4-4 ishedyuli, kodwa abantwana bahlala noMzali oyi-A ngeentsuku ezimbini, ngoko uMzali B iintsuku ezimbini, ulandelwa iintsuku ezintlanu kunye ne-A parent kunye neentsuku ezintlanu kunye nomzali B. Njenge-3 -3-4-4 ukujikelezwa kwexesha, le shedyuli ivumela abantwana ukuba bachithe iiCawa kunye noMvulo kwindawo yokuhlala eyodwa, kunye neLwesibini kunye neLwesithathu kwenye. Iintsuku kuphela eziguqukayo ukusuka ngeveki ukuya kwiveki ziLwesine, iLwesihlanu kunye neMigqibelo.

Naluphi na ucwangciso lokugcina ulunyuliweyo, khumbula ukunika wonke umntu kwintsapho yakho ixesha lokulungisa phambi kokuba wenze utshintsho. Ukwenza isicwangciso esisemthethweni ngokusibhala kwisicwangciso esisemthethweni sobantwana kunokuncedisa wonke umntu ukuba anamathele kwishedyuli kwaye akhumbule iinkcukacha zayo ezigqithisileyo. Cinga ngokuphindaphinda isicwangciso ngasinye rhoqo ngexeshana ukuqinisekisa ukuba uyaqhubeka ukuhlangabezana nazo zonke iimfuno zakho. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, vumela abantwana bakho ilizwi ekucwangciseni nasekuxubeni ukuba baneminyaka eyaneleyo.