Ngokwemigaqo yomthetho, ibinzana elixhomekeke kumzali libhekisela kumzali ogcina umntwana wakhe (okanye abantwana) ixesha elininzi. Ngaloo ndlela, umzali okhuselekileyo unembopheleleko yokunyusa umntwana, nangona umzali ongeyena okhuselekileyo unokubandakanyeka kakhulu okanye abazali bavumelene ukuba basebenzisane njengabazali-co-parent.
Ngubani ocingwa njengomzali okhuselekileyo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba abantwana bakho bahlala kunye nawe ngenxa yesininzi sithuba, mhlawumbi uvele uzibona njengomzali okhuselekileyo. Kodwa kuthekani ngeenkundla? Impendulo inokumangalisa yona: akubona bonke abazali abagcinwe kuphela ngabantwana babo ngokusemthethweni babonwa njengabazali abaxhamlileyo emehlweni enkundla. Ngokomzekelo, kwiimeko apho umama ongakhulisa umntwana ngokwakhe, kunye noyise ngokuzithandela angenakuvulwa, iinkundla zinokulindela ukuba zifake iifayile zokugcinwa kwabantwana ukuze zivunywe ngokusemthethweni njengomzali wokulondoloza.
Oku kuthetha ntoni kuwe? Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungumzali osisigxina emehlweni omthetho, kufuneka uhlolisise imithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana kwimeko yakho kwaye ufune ingcebiso kummeli womthetho weentsapho.
Izinzuzo
Enye yezona zinzuzo ezinkulu zokuba ngumzali okhuselekileyo unokuba nexesha elininzi kunye nezingane zakho.
Nangona ukwabelana ngeshedyuli yokutyelela ngobubele yakho, mhlawumbi uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nezingane zakho kunokuba wakho umdala, ngenxa nje yokuba ngumzali okhuselekileyo. Oku kuthetha ukuba ufumana abantwana bakho rhoqo, baxakeke kakhulu kwimisebenzi yabo yemihla ngemihla, bancedise ngomsebenzi wesikolo, bakhulise iminqweno yabo, kwaye banikele izikhokelo njengoko bejamelene neengxaki zabo ezinkulu.
Yiyiphi impumelelo? Unokucinga ukuba kwakuya kubakho 'umbulelo omkhulu' oholele indlela yakho, kunene? Ngelishwa, njengokuba usuyazi (konke kakuhle), ukuba ngumzali ongabodwa ungumsebenzi onzima. Ngaphezulu, ukuhlala ngokuthe ngqo kunye nomthombo wothando olungenammiselo kuthetha ukuhamba kunye nezingane zakho ezinsukwini zabo ezibi kakhulu, xa 'ziphuma' zixelele ukuba 'zithiyile' ngokupheleleyo, kwaye uvavanye yonke imida owababeka yona. Kodwa ... nantsi into. Bayixabisa. Bona into oyenzayo-yonke into yokubingelelwa-kwaye nangona kungathatha iminyaka ukuba bathethe ngamazwi abo ukuba kuthetha ntoni kubo, bayifumana.
Inkxaso yoMntwana
Uninzi lwexesha, umzali okhuselekileyo unelungelo lokufumana inkxaso yenkxaso yabantwana. Nangona kunjalo, oku kuya kuxhomekeka kwizikhokelo zenkxaso yomntwana kwimeko yakho, umvuzo ngamnye umzali ufumana, kwaye nokuba ukhetha ukufaka ifayile yokuxhasa abantwana.
Indlela Yokuba Umzali Okhuselekileyo
Ukuze uqinisekiswe ngokusemthethweni ngumzali wokukhusela, uya kufuneka ufake ifowuni kwinkundla yentsapho. Ummeli wokugcina umntwana unokukunceda ngenkqubo kwaye unokukunceda ekuphuhliseni isicwangciso sokuphumelela ukugcinwa kwabantwana enkundleni. Ukongezelela, abanye abazali baye baphumelela ukufakela i-custody ngokwabo, eyaziwa ngokuba yi-fil se se.