Xa oogogo nomntakwabo banqatshelwe ukudibanisa nabazukulwana, banokuvakalelwa kukuba kukho ukungabi nabulungisa. Unogogo noomkhulu bave ukuba banelungelo elingokomthetho lokubona abazukulwana babo, kwaye, ukuba intsapho iya kubonakala ingasigxina, ingaqwalasela inkundla. Le mpendulo iyaqondakala. Ukunqunyulwa kwabazukulwana kungabangela uxinzelelo, ngakumbi xa kukho ubudlelwane obusondeleyo phakathi kootatomkhulu kunye nabazukulu.
Sekunjalo, oogogo nomkhulu abacinga ukuba bafuna amalungelo okutyelela kufuneka babe neengcamango ezicacileyo zeziphumo zokuzisa i-suit against parents of their grandchildren.
Iindleko zeMali
Phantse njalo umbuzo wokuqala ootatomkhulu abuza malunga neendleko. Ixabiso elilolo hlobo liya kuhlawulwa phi? Lo mbuzo awukwazi ukuphendulwa kuba imali yezomthetho ayigxilwanga. Abanye oogogo noogogo banako ukuzimela enkundleni ngokulondolozwa okukhulu. Kuninzi kuxhomekeke kwinkimbinkimbi yemithetho kwimeko apho ifakwe i-suit. Ukongezelela, ezinye iimeko zicacile ngakumbi kunabanye, kwaye abanye ootatomkhulu bafanelekile kunabanye ukujongana noxinzelelo lwabo.
Ukuba iinkonzo zommeli zifunwa, ithebhu ingaba lula kwiamawaka ezigidi zeedola. Ngaphandle kwemirhumo ehlawulwe kummeli omela ootatomkhulu, amaqela kwi-suit kufuneka ahlawule iindleko zenkundla. Kwamanye amazwe, iqela elilahlekelwa yi-suit liyakucelwa ukuba lihlawule iindleko zenkundla zenye inxaxheba.
Ezinye iindleko zingaphuma, njengeendleko zomgcini we- ad litem . Lo ngummeli okanye omnye umntu onokumiselwa ukuba amele abazukulwana. Enye inkonzo enokuthi ithwale itekethi yentengo kukudlelana. Ukongeza, ukuba i-suit yokuqala iphumelele, iimeko zinganyanzelela ukubuya enkundleni emva komhla, kunye neendleko ezingaphezulu.
Ukongeza kokuqwalasela iindleko kubo, oogogo nomkhulu kufuneka baqikelele nokuhlawulwa kwetyala elingabanjwa kwiimali zabazali. Ubunzima bezezimali kubazali bahlala beguqulela ubunzima kubantwana.
Ukulahlekelwa Kwangasese
Enye indleko yokuya enkundleni yilahlekelwa yimfihlo. Ukufakazela enkundleni kuthetha ukwabelana ngemibango yentsapho kunye nenani labantu, uthe uKaren A. Wyle, ugqwetha lommeli oqhelana neengxabano zokuvakashela ootatomkhulu, kwi-interview ye-imeyile. Okokuqala, oomkhulu noomkhulu baya kufuneka baxelele konke kummeli wabo. UWyle, ngubani umbhali we-amicus mfutshane kwimeko yeTroxel v. Granville, uxwayisa ukuba ukuzisa i-suit ifanele ukucela abahlobo kunye nosapho "ukuba bahlanganyele kwingxabano yentsapho," ukuba banolwazi olufanelekileyo. Ukongezelela, ootatomkhulu kunye nabazali banokulindela 'ukunikela ubungqina malunga nembali yentsapho kunye neentlobo zeentlobo' kwaye bahlolisiswe kule miba. Kwezinye iimeko, amaqela kwi-suit angacelwa ukuba abe nokuhlolwa kwengqondo.
Impembelelo kuMzukulu
Umxholo ophindaphindiweyo ovakala ngootatomkhulu ugqirha lwabo lokuba abazukulwana babo baya kuziva belahliwe ngubazali nomkhulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo ukukhathazeka ngokusemthethweni; Nangona kunjalo, abazukulu abaxhomekeke kwiimfazwe zomthetho banokufumana iimpembelelo ezingathandekiyo:
- Basenokufuneka baxoxe ngezinto zomntu zentsapho kunye namagqwetha, abasebenzi bezentlalo kunye nabagwebi.
- Basenokuziva bexinzelelo lokuba bakhethe phakathi kwabazali babo noogogo babo.
- Basenokuziva benetyala kuba yiziko lembambano.
- I-suit ingabonisa ukungabaza malunga negunya labazali okanye isigwebo sabo.
- Isimo sabo siphila singagxininiswa-ngakumbi, ukuba i-suit idala ubunzima bezemali.
Isenzo sokhenketwa ngootatomkhulu ngokuqhelekileyo silandelelana nzima nakwezinye iintsapho zokuphazamiseka, njengokuqhawula umtshato, ukufa komzali okanye ukuvalelwa komzali. Igalelo kubazukulwana abaye bafumana ilahleko elilodwa kufuneka libe lukhulu.
Umthetho ufuna ukuba izigqibo zokuvakashelwa ngootatomkhulu zisekelwe kwiminqweno engcono yomntwana, kodwa akunakwenzeka lula ukukhetha ukuba zeziphi izinto ezithandwa ngumntwana.
Eminye kwiNkundla
Ukuqwalasela iindleko, iimali kunye nakwezinye iinkalo, ngamalungelo okuvakasha, ngaba ootatomkhulu kufuneka baqwalasele ezinye iindlela? Lo ngumbuzo kuphela oogogo nomkhulu abachaphazelekayo abangaphendula. Kwiimeko apho ootatomkhulu banenkxalabo malunga nenhlalakahle yabantwana babo abazukulu abanokuxhaswa kuphela ngokuqhagamshelana nabo, ukutshutshiswa kunokubonakala ngathi isisombululo kuphela. Abazali abaxhaphazayo , abasebenzisa kakubi izidakamizwa, okanye abaneengxaki zengqondo ngamanye amaxesha bagcina ukugcinwa kwabantwana babo naphezu kokungabikho kwempilo. Kule meko, ootatomkhulu banokuvakalelwa ukuba kufuneka baqhagamshelane nabazukulwana babo ukuze bahlale bebukele umgangatho onobuhle kwimpilo yabo.
Kwamanye amaxesha, ootatomkhulu banokucetyiswa ukuba bazame ukuxolelana okanye banike ithuba lokulungisa. Ezinye iingxabano zentsapho ziyaqhawula. Kungathatha iminyaka ukuseka kwakhona ubudlelwane obuhle, kodwa ootata-ntombi abathwala abantwana babo enkundleni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni isiphumo, mhlawumbi ukubeka isigxina esingapheliyo nasiphi na ithemba lobudlelwane obuhle.
Ezinye iintsapho ziya kuxhamla ngokucebisa okanye ukuxolelana. Ngokuqhelekileyo inxalenye yenkqubo yenkundla iyaqhubeka, iintsapho zinokufuna iinkonzo ezinjalo. Isithintelo esikhulu kwimpumelelo yokucebisa okanye ukudibanisa kukubunzima kokungena kuyo yonke into ebandakanyekayo. Iindleko nayo ingxaki. Ukongezelela, umcebisi okanye umlamli angabonwa, ngokuchanekileyo okanye ngokungalunganga, njengokuba ubonakalisa ibheno okanye uthathe icala.
Igama lokugqibela
Wonke ummandla waseUnited States uye wadlulisela umthetho obeka amanye amalungelo ootatomkhulu, nangona loo malungelo aphelelanga. Oku akuyi kuba yimeko ngaphandle kokuqaphela ngokubanzi ukubaluleka kootata-ntombi kubomi bentsapho kunye nentlungu engabangela xa umnxeba unqatshelwe. Sekunjalo, ootatomkhulu okhetha ukujongana namalungelo okutyelela kufuneka baqaphele ukuba le nkqubo inokuba ngumthombo wobunzima obukhulu kunye nentlungu.