Ingxaki eqhubekayo yobudlelwane bomzali kunye nootataba kukuba abazali banomuzwa wokuthi ootatomkhulu nabo banqanda imida. Ngamanye amaxesha banomuzwa wokuthi ootatomkhulu ugqitha ilungelo labazali lokwenza izigqibo malunga nabantwana babo. Ngamanye amaxesha ingxaki kukuba oogogo nomkhulu baqukumbela kwiimeko ezizodwa kwaye bathi banamalungelo akhethekileyo anelungelo labazali.
Uninzi nootatomkhulu banokukhulisa abazukulu babo ngenxa yeemeko ezingaphaya kolawulo lwabo. Aba bazali nogogo kufuneka baxhomeke ngokufanayo kunye nabazali nabazali babo. Akunabo ootatomkhulu abaxutyushwa apha. Benza umsebenzi onzima kwaye bafanelwe ukunyaniseka, kungekhona ukugxeka.
Xa oogogo nomkhulu banikela ngononophelo lwezingane , okanye xa behlala nabazukulwana babo kwikhaya elongezelelweyo, amathuba okuba umda unyuke. Kodwa le miba ingenzeka nakwiyiphi na imeko enokuzala. Ukuphulwa kwemida kuyinkxalabo kwiingxabano ezininzi zeentsapho, kuquka iingxabano ezikhokelela ootatomkhulu ukuba banqunywe kubazukulwana.
Oko Abazali bathi
Amehlo am kuqala avulelwa kwisihloko semida ngumzali othumele kwenye yeendawo zakudala. Umxholo oqhelekileyo wesithuba sakhe kukuba oogogo nomkhulu kufuneka baxoshe, kuba abazukulwana babo abayena bantwana babo, kwaye oogogo nabazali abazange babize iifotshane.
Wacebisa oomkhulu oomkhulu kuGoogle "indlela yokufumana ugogo nomkhulu ukuba abuyele" okanye "umkhwekazi osebenza njengabantwana bam unabo." Iziphumo, walwa, ziza kubonisa ukuba abaninzi ootatomkhulu banetyala lokungahloneli imida.
Yiyiphi inzalabadala enokuyenza
Ndenze nje oko akutshoyo, ndaza ndabona ezinye izithuba eziphazamisayo.
Ootatomkhulu abaninzi baye babonisa ubungqina bokungqambela umgca phakathi kobazali kunye nozala babo. Kakade ke, iziganeko zaxelwa ngabazali, abanokuthi bangenakuthenjwa okanye bangabi nantoni. Sekunjalo, ndabona indawo apho abanye ootatomkhulu baye banqumla imida. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezisekelwe kwinto endiyifunayo:
- Ootatomkhulu abanako ukwenza izigqibo zomzali, ezifana nokuba balala , nini na ukuqeqeshwa kwamanzi kunye nexesha lokufunda esikolweni . Ukuphela kwebali.
- Njengoko ootatomkhulu abangenako ukwenza izigqibo zomzali, kufuneka ukhuphe ukubonisa uluvo lwakho malunga nezigqibo ezinjalo. Ukuba ucelwa ukuba uluvo, unokukunika, kodwa lugqithise ngokubhaliweyo. Ukuba ubhala i ngcamango "njengentsiphu," "iphosakele" okanye "ukunyaniseka," kwaye abazali banquma ukuya kuloo ndlela, abayi kukulibala amagama akho.
- Ukuba ungumntatomkhulu owenza igalelo lezemali kubahlali bakho bazukulu, lelo galelo alithengi igalelo elongezelelweyo kubomi bazukulu bakho. Usengumntanomkhulu. Ukuba awukwazi ukuhlala nale nyaniso, gcina kwimali yakho.
- Ungabhekiseli kubazukulu bakho ngokuthi "iintsana zam," "amantombazana," "amantombazana" okanye "amantombazana." Oku kuya kubonakala kungenasisiseko kuninzi noomkhulu. Ewe, siya kuthi, siyazi ukuba abayenawo. Yindlela nje yokuthetha. Kodwa abazali abanandaba. Abafuni ukungacacisi malunga nabantwana babo.
- Kwisihloko esichaphazelekayo, abanye abazali baya kumelana namagama amanina avakalayo njengamama, njengoMama Omkhulu okanye uMama (igama lesiFinnish nogogo). Yaye ukuba uthe waguqa uze uthi "umama" kumzukulu, xolisa kakhulu okanye umama wangempela akaze akholwe ukuba yi-slip. (Lo mbandela, njengamanye amaninzi kwabanye, uphawula ingxaki kuphela noogogo.)
- Ukuba uyayithiya igama lomzukulu wakho, akufanele uvumeleke, nangona bacela umbono wakho ngaphambi kokuba umntwana azalwe xa kusekho ixesha lokuphepha ukuxolisa. Abazali abayiboni ngokucacileyo imbono yakho ngenxa yokuba umbono wakho awunandaba. Awuyena umzali.
- Xa kwenzeka isiganeko esikhulu ukuba ufuna ukuthenga ingubo yokwazisa, bhaka ikhekhe lokuzalwa lokuqala okanye udwebe ithanga le-Halloween, uhambe ngokunyameka. Abanye abazali baya kukukwamukela ukwenza ezi zinto, kodwa abanye baya kubona njengento yokusebenzisa indima yomzali. Ityala elifanelekileyo lootatomkhulu libhekiselele kwinto yokuba oogogo nomkhulu bathatha umzukulu wabo ukubona iSanta Claus. Ndiyinkwenkwe.
- Kwinqaku edibeneyo, ukuba umzukulu uthatha isinyathelo sokuqala okanye ufunde ukupela igama lakhe ngelixa ehleli nawe, thula ngalo. Akukho nto ingayifumana ngokubonisa ukuba ugogo nomkhulu wayekho kwaye umzali wayengekhoyo kwixesha elibalulekileyo.
- Abambalwa ootatomkhulu basondela ukuba basondelane nabazukulu babo. Kwakhona, ezinye iintsapho ziya kwamkela ukusondela okunjalo. Abanye baya kuziva ukuba inkululeko kunye nokuzimela kwazo ziye zonakaliswa. Xoxa ngaphambi kokuba wenze.
- Qaphela izigxobo zokunika izipho. Ukuba unokungabaza malunga nokuba isipho esifanelekileyo, cela ngaphambi kokuba uthenge. Qaphela ngokugqithiseleyo ukubonisa abazali ngezihlandlo ezinika izipho.
Ngoku, ukuze abazali bangabikho i-scot-free, nangoba oogogo nabazali bebali. Ufuna ukuba abantwana bakho babe nootatomkhulu ebomini babo, akunjalo? Ukuba kunjalo, lungele ukuxolela ezinye izinto ezimbi. Oogogo noomkhulu abaphelelanga. Ukulinganisela ngokukhawuleza ukucaphukisa into enokuyenza kwimpilo yabantwana bakho.
Imida kunye nemali. Oko malunga nokuyihlanganisa.