Ngethuba ixesha umntwana wakho ephendukela kwi-10, unokusasaza ezinye izicwangciso zokuziphatha ezisebenza kakuhle xa wayeselula. Ukuphuma kwexesha kunokungasebenzi kangangoko kwaye unokufuna ukufumana amalungelo amatsha ukuba awususe xa ephula imithetho.
Kwaye, ukuziphatha okufuna ukuqeqeshwa kunokwenzeka ukutshintsha kwakhona, njengoko umntwana wakho ehluma phakathi . Unokuba wathatha indawo yentetho yengane ngomva -ntetho kwaye wayitshintshisa intsimbi ebunzima ngokugquma.
Abaninzi abaneminyaka eli-10 bafuna izicwangciso zokuziphatha ezibanceda benze izigqibo ezingcono kwixesha elizayo. Yaye nangona umntwana wakho engasayi kuvulwa kwimpendulo yakho ngaso sonke isikhathi, kufuneka avulekele ukuzama ukubona izinto ukusuka kwimbono yakho.
Oko Okufanele Ukwazi Ngo-10-ubudala-Olds
Uninzi oluneminyaka engama-10 ubudala luqala ukuhlakulela ubudlelwane obunzima boontanga. Bahlala bekhetha ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabahlobo babo, kunokuba usapho. Ngoko ungamangalisi ukuba umntu oneminyaka eyi-10 ufuna ukuchitha ubusuku kwindlu yomhlobo wakhe, kunokuba abe ne-pizza kwaye abukele i-movie kunye nawe.
Kule minyaka, abantwana baqala ukujamelana nemingeni emfundo. Nangona abanye babo beqala ukukhanyela imfundo, abanye bangakhula ngokubuhlungu ukuba bayazikhwela ngakumbi kwisikolo kunontanga yabo.
Kuqhelekileyo kubantwana abaneminyaka eyi-10 ukuba bangabikho ukuthobeka. Abaninzi babo banelisekile ukuba bathi, "Ndingumgijimi okhawulezayo kwiqela lebhola lebhola lebhola lebhola lebhola lebhola lebhola lebhola lebhola."
Kodwa ke, abanye bazama ukuzithemba. Basenokuziva bengenakukwazi kuba bahlala behamba kunye nabahlobo babo okanye banokuxhatshazwa esikolweni.
Indlela Yokuyilungisa Iminyaka Yakho Iminyaka Eli-10
Ukuyalela umntwana wakho oneminyaka eli-10 kufuneka ube malunga nokulinganisela. Kubalulekile ukunika umntwana wakho inkululeko eyaneleyo yokwenza izigqibo yena ngokwakhe, kubaluleke ngokufanayo ukumkhusela ekukhethweni okuyingozi kunye neemeko ezingekhoyo.
Nazi ezinye zezicwangciso zokuqeqesha ezifanelekileyo kunabo abaneminyaka eli-10 ubudala:
- Dumisa - Dumisani wakho oneminyaka eli-10 ubudala ukuba ulandele imithetho, wenze ukhetho olufanelekileyo, kwaye usebenze nzima. Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Ungumdlali webhola webhasi lomgca," zama ukuthi, "Umele uziqhayise ngokuzikhuphaza kakhulu ngexesha lomdlalo."
- Ukubamba Umntwana Wakho Ukuba Ulungile - Bhekisela ekuziphatheni kakuhle ngokunika umntwana wakho ingqalelo . Yithi izinto ezinje, "Umsebenzi omhle uhleli phantsi ukwenza umsebenzi wakho wesikolo okokuqala ndakuxelela ukuba ufike emsebenzini," okanye "Siyabonga ngokukhanda lakho igumbi namhlanje ngaphandle kwesikhumbuzo esisodwa."
- Imiphumo engqiqo - Xa umntwana wakho ephula umthetho, sebenzisa iziphumo ezinengqiqo ezifundisa izifundo zokuphila. Ukuba akahlambululi igumbi lakhe, musa ukumvumela ukuba abe namalungelo akhe ade ahlambulule igumbi lakhe. Okanye, ukuba uyambamba ukwenza izicathulo eziyingozi kwi-skateboard yakhe, thabatha amalungelo akhe e-skateboard ixesha elithile.
- Iziphumo zeNdalo - Ngo-10 ubudala, abaninzi abantwana banokudibanisa amachaphaza phakathi kokuziphatha kwabo nemiphumo yemvelo ephumela. Ngoko, ukuphuma ngaphandle kwindlela enokuba yinto engcono kakhulu ongayenza. Ukuba umntwana wakho wenqaba ukugqoka ibhatyi ngosuku olushushu, makabande. Okanye, ukuba uyakhohlwa ukupakisha igrafu yakhe yebhola, makabekezele umphumo kumqeqeshi wakhe.
- Iprogram yoQoqosho loTywala - Inkqubo yoqoqosho lweedokethi ingaba yindlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokukhuthaza umntu oneminyaka eli-10 ubudala ukuba athathe uxanduva. Enoba uhlinzeka ngamathokheni ekwenzeni imisebenzi okanye unika amathokheni ekwenzeni umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo ngaphandle kokuphikisana, inkqubo elula yokuvuza ingamgcina ikhuthaze. Ungasebenzisa kwakhona inkqubo yoqoqosho lweedokethi ukujongana neengxaki ezithile zokuziphatha, njengokungahloneli okanye ukuhlaziya.
Indlela yokukhusela iingxaki zokuziphatha
Ukuseka izikhokelo ezimbalwa ezilula zihamba ngendlela ende ekuthintela nasekunciphiseni iingxaki zokuziphatha nomntwana wakho:
- Ukwakhiwa kwexesha lomntwana wakho . Enye yezona ndlela ezilungileyo zokunceda umntwana wakho abe noxanduva ngakumbi ngokumnika isikhokelo esithile malunga nendlela yokuchitha ixesha lakhe. Misa isimiso ngoko uyazi ukuba kufuneka enze umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo ngaphambi kokutya okanye ukuba kufuneka ayenze imisebenzi yakhe ngaphambi kokuba abukele iTV.
- Yakha iseshati yokusebenza ekhonza njengesikhumbuzo semithwalo yakhe . Emva koko, kunokuba umgxeke ukucima igumbi lokuhlala okanye uthabathe udoti, umkhumbuze ukuba ahlole ishadi lakhe lomsebenzi. Gwema iingxaki zamandla ngokumnika amathuba okufumana umsebenzi wakhe ngokuzimeleyo.
- Ukubonelela ngemiphumo emihle eya kumkhuthaza ukuba alandele imithetho . Inkqubo yoqoqosho lweedokethi ingaba yindlela ephumelelayo yokufumana abantwana abaneminyaka eyi-10 ukuba babe noxanduva.
- Ukuseka imithetho yasekhaya ecacileyo . Nangona uneminyaka eyi-10 ubudala kufuneka uqhelane nezilindelo zakho, kuyaqhele ukuba abantwana baxubushe, "Andizange ndikwazi oko!" Kule minyaka. Xa unalo uluhlu olubhaliweyo lwemithetho, umntwana wakho akayi kuba nzima ukuphikisana.
- Yenza kucace ukuba amalungelo kufuneka azuzwe . Amalungelo eneminyaka yakho eyi-10 anokuquka izinto ezifana nokubukela iTV, ukudlala kwithebhulethi, kunye nokuvunyelwa ukuya kwikhaya lomhlobo. Vumela kuphela umntwana wakho ukuba abe namalungelo xa eziphatha ngokufanelekileyo.
Iingxaki ezibalulekileyo zezoKhuseleko omele uzibhekise kuzo
Abaninzi abaneminyaka eli-10 bafuna ukuba njengabantwana abakhulu. Kodwa, abakulungele ukujongana nemingeni emikhulu okanye iingxaki ezinzulu. Ngoko kubalulekile ukujongana neengozi ezinokuthi umntwana wakho unokujamelana nazo.
Nazi izinto ezibalulekileyo zokukhusela okumele udibanise nazo:
- Qaphela ukusetyenziswa kombane wakho kombane. Abaninzi abaneminyaka eyi-10 badlala imidlalo yevidiyo, sebenzisa iipilisi, kwaye banokufikelela kwiifowuni. Ungamvumeli umntwana wakho ukuba enze ama-akhawunti aseburhulumenteni amvumela ukuba akhulume nabantu abangabaziyo kwaye amvumele ukuba abukele izinto ezindala okanye adlale imidlalo engafanelekanga. Abantwana kule minyaka bazama ukukhetha ukhetho xa kuziwa kwi-electronics ngoko kubalulekile ukubeka esweni ukusetyenziswa kweekhompyutheni yomntwana wakho ngokusondeleyo.
- Ukudibana nabazali bomntwana wakho. Qhaqhelana neentsapho zakho ezineminyaka eli-10 ubudala ziya kuchitha ixesha kunye nazo. Qhagamshelana nabazali ngaphambi kokuba umntwana ahambe endlwini yomhlobo okanye adibane nabazali ngaphambi kokuba umntwana ahambe kwi-sleepover. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba yiyiphi imigaqo yeminye iindwendwe kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uya kujongwa.
- Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ukhule ngokwaneleyo ukuba ahlale ekhaya yedwa. Abazali abaninzi baqala ukushiya abantwana babo kwikhaya eliphakathi kweminyaka eli-10 ubudala. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho ephendukela kwi-10, akuthethi ukuba ukhule ngokwaneleyo ukuba ahlale ekhaya yedwa. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho unokukwazi ukujongana noxanduva phambi kokuba unike inkululeko.
Ukukhulisa Uvuyo, Unempilo Eneminyaka eli-10 ubudala
Ngethemba kukuba, xa uneminyaka eyi-10, umntwana wakho ufuna imiphumo embi engaphantsi kwayo. Kodwa ukuba unzima, ungakhathazeki. Unokufuna nje ukuqhuba ukulawula iingxaki ezithile zokuziphatha.
Ukuba ukhathazeke ngokuziphatha okungavamile okanye ukukhubazeka kokuziphatha , funa uncedo kwizakhono. Thetha kumntwanantwana wengane yakho malunga nayiphi na inkxalabo enayo malunga nokuziphatha kwakhe okanye izicwangciso zakho zokuziphatha.
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