Amanqanaba okuyeka ukuphikisana nokufumana ukuthotyelwa
Umzabalazo wamandla yilapho umntwana enqaba ukwenza into kwaye umzali uyaqhubeka ephoqa umntwana ukuba "Yenze oku ngoku." Ibhanti eqhubekayo ingaba yimfazwe yentando njengoko umzali athi, "Ewe," kwaye umntwana uthi, " Inombolo. "Kungekudala le ngxabano iyaqhubeka, kunzima ngakumbi ukuba umntwana athobele. Kukho amanyathelo abazali abangayithatha ukuba baphinde baphinde balawulwe kwaye baphelise ukulwa kwamandla.
Iingxaki ngeMandla eMfazwe
Kukho iingxaki ezimbalwa ezinzima zamandla. Enye ingxaki kukuba xa uxabana okanye uzama ukumphoqelela umntwana ukuba enze into ethile, ngokuqhelekileyo i-tempers igxotha. Xa wena nomntwana wakho nidakalise kwaye nithukuthele, akunakukwazi ukufeza nantoni na.
Xa abantwana bekunokubamba inxaxheba kumzabalazo wamandla, kudla ukulibazisa umsebenzi wabo. Umzekelo, ukuba uthetha umntwana wakho ukuba ahlambulule igumbi lakhe kwaye ephikisana nawe, xa ehlala ephikisa, ixesha elide uchithayo angayicocisi igumbi lakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bayakuvuyela ukuchukumisa amaqhosha omzali wabo ngenzame yokuphuma ekwenzeni izinto.
Ekugqibeleni, xa abantu bangena kumzabalazo wamandla injongo ikunqoba. Ukuphumelela kuthetha ukuthatha umntwana ukuba enze into awafuni ukuyenza. Ngamanye amaxesha umzali osenokuba nzima ukufumana umntwana ukuba amthobele, umntwana umelana nokukhula. Xa abantwana bephoqelelwe ukwenza into abafuni ukuyenza, bahlala begxininisa ngakumbi kwingqumbo yabo kumzali kunokuba bafunde isifundo.
Khetha iinqwelo zakho
Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bathathe iimfazwe zabo xa kuziwa ekunikeni imiyalelo yabantwana. Ngamanye amaxesha kunengqiqo ukuvumela abantwana ukuba babhekane nemiphumo yemvelo kunokuba bazame ukubenza benze into abafuni ukuyenza. Imiphumo yemvelo kaninzi iba ngumfundisi obalaseleyo.Umzekelo, ukuba wakho uneminyaka elishumi ubudala unqabe ukubeka isigxina sakhe ngaphambi kokuba adlale ngaphandle, akunakufanelekile ukuphikisana.
Ngaphandle kokuba kubanda kakhulu, ungacinga ukumvumela ukuba aphume ngaphandle kwengubo kwaye umphumo wendalo kukuba uya kubanda.
Ukubandakanya abantwana kwiNgxaki -Sombululo
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba wena usebenza ngokukhawuleza kwimiba engaphezu kwendlela efanayo, zama ukulungisa ingxaki kunye . Khangela isisombululo esivumelaniswe ngokuvumelanayo esiya kuphelisa umzabalazo wamandla.
Ndandisebenza kunye nomzali oye wagxininisa igumbi lakhe le-adolescents lihlambuluke imihla ngemihla. Nangona kunjalo, le ntombazana yayicinga ukuba yayingenangqiqo ukucoca igumbi layo imihla ngemihla kwaye baphikisana nalo mbandela phantse yonke imihla. Ekugqibeleni, iingxaki zazisombulula kunye kwaye zifikeleleke. Unina wavuma ukugcina intombazana yakhe ivaliweyo ngeveki kunye nentombazana yavuma ukuhlamba igumbi layo ngeveki nganye. Ukumisa ukulwa kunye nolwalamano lwabo luphuculwe.
Ukunikezela Iinqununu
Kukho amanyathelo abazali abangayithatha ukunyusa ukuphumelela kwemigaqo yabo. Ngokomzekelo, khankanya ngokulindelekileyo kwaye ulenze izicelo zakho zizolile.
Xa kunokwenzeka, nikela ezimbini iinketho. Qinisekisa ukuba unokuhlala kunye naluphi ukhetho. Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna umntwana wakho abeke iingubo zakhe kwaye ukhangele iTV , uthi, "Ngaba unokubeka iingubo zakho ngoku okanye ufuna ukulinda kuze kube yinto yokuthengisa?" Kukhethwa ukukhetha ukwenza umsebenzi.
Kodwa kumntwana onqabileyo , kubonakala ngathi ukunqoba kuya kukwazi ukulinda kude kube yinto ezayo yokuthengisa.
Nika isilumkiso kwaye unikele umphumo
Ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukubonelela ngesiphumo esibi . Esikhundleni sokuphikisana okanye ukuzama ukunyanzelisa umntwana ukuba enze into ethile, hlala uzolile uze ukhuphe isilumkiso esisodwa. Ukuba umntanakho akahambisani, umphumo wokuthatha ilungelo liyakwazi ukusebenza kakuhle.
Musa ukubonelela ngezilumkiso ezininzi okanye uphinda umyalelo wakho ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Yenza nje ukuba yaziwe "Unokuthobela okanye ungalahlekelwa lilungelo." Emva koko ushiye ukhetho ukuya kumntwana.
Ngokomzekelo, endaweni yokugxeka, ukuphikisana okanye ukucela umntwana wakho ukuba alele embhedeni, nikeze isilumkiso.
Yithi, "Ukuba awuyi kulala ngoku, uya kulahlwa yikhompyutha yakho kwiiyure ezingama-24." Ukuba umntwana wakho akayi kulala, ulahlekelwa yi-elektroniki kwaye akakho ukuphikisana ngawo. Ukuba uyaqhubeka ehlala, umphumo wendalo kukuba uya kudinwa kusasa.
Kwabantwana abancinci, ukuthatha ilungelo lingabonakalisa ixesha elide emva kwexesha . Ukuba umntwana wakho wenqaba ukukhupha ixesha, kunokuzama ukumphoqa ukuba enze njalo, mnike isilumkiso. "Ukuba awuyi kuphuma ngexesha eli kwangoku, awuyi kukwazi ukuya kwindawo yokudlala kamva namhlanje." Emva koko ushiye ukhetho kuye.
Ungasongeli ukuthatha nantoni na ongayi kuyenza ngokuyenza. Umzekelo, ungatsho ukuthi uya kuthatha uhambo lwakhe ukuya kwi-Grandma indlu ngeveki ngaphandle kokuba ucwangcise ngokwenene ukuthatha loo nto. Ukuba wenza izinto ezisongelayo kwaye ungalandeli ngokuya kufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba awuthethi ukuba uthetha ntoni.