Ukubuyiselwa koMzali kunye nokuSuswa Kugcina Wonke umntu ukhuselekile
Ukubetha, ukubetha, kunye nokukhangela izinto kunokuba yinxalenye yendawo yokudlala encinane kunye nokusebenzisana nezinto. Icandelo lamava abo okufunda livela ngenxa yesibangela kunye nesiphumo (kwenzeka ntoni xa ndikwenza oku?) Nokuphindaphinda (izakhiwo zezakhiwo kuphela ukuzitshisa). Kodwa xa kuziwa ukubetha amanye abantwana, kuyacaca ukuba ayamkelekanga. Yilapho ukuqeqeshwa kwabantwana kunye nokungenelela kwabazali kuyadingeka.
Kutheni abatsha ababethethayo
Abantwana abakwaziyo ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba izenzo zabo zokubetha ziya kulimaza umntu. Emva kwakho konke, ukhuthaza itshoni yakho ukuphosa ibhola, ukuguqula ibhet, okanye ukutshitshisa isandla sakho kwiindawo eziphakamileyo. Bawabetha, baqhayisa, badlale ikhekhe. Ingqondo encinane ayinakuqonda ukuba nayiphi na into ebalulekileyo yokumelana neontanga. Iintsana azibheki ukuba zenze kakubi okanye zingalunganga. Ukwazi ukuba kunokukunceda uhlawule umyalelo wakho okhulayo. Xa umntwana wakho ekhulile ngokwaneleyo ukuba wazi kakuhle, kuya kuba yinto ebalulekileyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali bayamangalisa xa bethetha umntwana wabo omnye ebetha omnye umntwana. Iyakwazi ukuphuma ngaphandle, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba umntwana uyaphumelela-kwaye uyaphumelela. Okanye, umntu unento afunayo, uyayithatha, kwaye wenza oko kubonakala ukuba yinto engokwemvelo ukuba kukho ukuchasana. Kuyabantu abadala abaphetheyo ukuyeka ukuziphatha kanye kunye nokunika uqeqesho olulungileyo ukunciphisa amathuba okuhlaselwa kwakhona.
Ukucebisa Iingcebiso Zokumisa Umntwana Ukubetha abanye
- Xoxa nomntwana wakho ngaphambi kokujoyina abanye kwiqela lokudlala malunga nezindlela ezifanelekileyo zokwenza. Tshela umntwana wakho oko ukulindele ngolwimi olulula ukuluqonda. Xa umntwana wakho ekhulile ngokwaneleyo ukuba aqonde oko utshoyo, usemdala ngokwanele ukuba aqale ukufunda ngokufanelekileyo kokungalunganga.
- Jongana nomntwana wakho kwaye ulungele ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali abawaneliswanga ngokwaneleyo ukuba abantwana abancinci badlale kunye. Baye bathetha nomnye umntu omdala okanye kwii-smartphones zabo kwaye ababonanga iimpawu zokumkisa zokuziphatha ezilimazayo. Musa ukuthembela komnye umntu ukuba abukele umntwana wakho. Umntwana wakho kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe usoloko uxanduva lwakho. Ngelo xesha, musa ukwenza i-helicopter hover.
- Phinda uqondise nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha engakhokelela ekubhakeni komzimba okanye ukushaya. Kwiimeko ezininzi, kuqala ntoni kumnandi kwaye imidlalo iphela nomntu onokulimaza. Ungesabi ukususa into engabangela ingozi okanye ukuxinzezeleka. Nangona ithoyizi elithintekayo elingazilimazi umntwana ngelo liyakwazi ukuqinisa ukuziphatha kakubi kokubetha, kwaye kufuneka idibaneke.
- Susa umntwana kunoma yiphina imeko apho abulala omnye umntwana ngamabomu. Ukuba umntwana usemncinci kwaye uqalise ukuhlalisana, cinga ukuphelisa umdlalo wokudlala kunye nokuhamba, ukulila kunye nabo bonke. Kufuneka ufundise umntwana wakho ukuba ukubetha omnye umntwana utshabalalise umsebenzi kuwo wonke umntu. Kwiimeko apho ungeke ushiye khona, hlukanisa umntwana wakho kwabanye kwaye ungamvumeli ukuba adlale nabo. Emva kwexesha elithile elifanelekileyo kwaye emva kokuba wonke umntu enqabile, unokuthetha nomntwana wakho malunga nesiganeko uze ufake kwakhona umdlalo wentlalo, kodwa qiniseka ukugcina iliso elisondeleyo kwizenzo zomntwana wakho. Nangona ezinye zeendlela eziziphetheyo ziqhelekileyo, kufuneka zijongwe ngokukhawuleza kwaye zime.
- Hlala uzinzile uze ungamvumeli umntwana wakho akubone ukuthukuthela. Udinga ukubonisa ubuso obuzolileyo kodwa obuqilileyo ukuze umntwana wakho azi ukuba ngelixa uyamthanda, awuyi kuvunyelanisa izenzo zakhe nokuba akulungele ukubetha. Gwema ukuphendula ngaphezulu. Sebenzisa i-redirection kwaye uqine "akukho ukushaya" amagama ngelixa ususa umoni kulo ndawo yokudlala inokuba yinto efunekayo.
- Yeka ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba adlale angalindelanga omnye umntwana obonisa ngokuqhubekayo ukubetha ukuziphatha. Nguwomsebenzi wakho ukukhusela umntwana wakho kunye nokuziphatha okufanelekileyo. Uyazi ukuba wenzeni ukuba umntwana wakho utshaye, kodwa unganqikazi ukunyathela ukuba ungumntwana wakho oye wawa (ngengozi okanye ayikho). Awufuni ukuba umntwana wakho aqale ukucinga ukuba kufuneka atshaye okanye abuyele (okanye uqale ezinye iimpazamo ezimbi, ezifana nokubetha ) ngokuzikhusela. Unokufuna ukuthetha kunye nokuqeqesha umntwana womnye umntu ukuba amise izenzo ezingalunganga ukuba umzali akayi kuvuma ukuba kukho ingxaki. Ukuba ukhululekile, qha ga mshelana nomzali womntwana obethayo. Cinga ukukhetha amagama akho ngokucophelela ukuze ugweme nabani na ukuba banokuzikhusela ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye banokuphelisa ubuhlobo. Emva kwakho konke, ixesha elizayo lingaba ngumntwana wakho kunye nomcimbi wokuziphatha.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Ukuba nomntwana obethayo akuthethi ukuba uya kukhula aze abe nobundlobongela okanye abe ngumxhaphazi. Nguwe nje umsebenzi wakho ukuyeka isenzo kwaye uqeqeshe kakuhle umntwana wakho ngokusebenzisa isikhokelo sothando kunye nolunxibelelwano olufanelekileyo ubudala .