Masijamelane nayo; umntwana omazayo akahlali kumnandi ukuba abe ngeenxa zonke. Yaye ngelixa umntwana omncinci angabonakali ukuziphatha okungavumelekanga, akukavunyelwanga nakwamanye abantwana kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kwabanye abazali. Xa uthethile, umntwana ohlunguyo uyinkxalabo eqhelekileyo kwisikolo esandulela isikolo, usuku lwamaxesha kunye nezicwangciso zomboneleli, ngokukodwa kwiminyaka encinane.
Izizathu zeBantwana Bite
- Intlungu ebuhlungu. Xa iintsana ziluma, zihlandlo ezininzi ngenxa yokuba zixhala kunye nokukhawula zikhupha intlungu.
- Ukuhlola ihlabathi. Iintsana kunye nomncinci zisebenzisa imilomo yabo ukuhlola ihlabathi. Zininzi izinto abazithabathayo ekupheleni komlomo.
- Ukufuna impendulo. Abantwaba bazama oko kubangelwa ngabaontanga nabadala. Ukuba bayaluma umhlobo kwaye bakuve ukukhala, bangase bathuke ngokuphendula kwabo, abazi ukuba ukuhlunguza kwabo kubangela ubuhlungu omnye umntwana.
- Ukunyamekela. Ukudibanisa kungabangela ukuziphatha okufunayo kubantwana abancinci kunye nabantwana abadala. Xa umntwana eziva enganyanzelwanga, bangaluma ukuze baqwalaselwe. Xa umntwana sele eqwalaselwe, banokuqhubeka nokuziphatha, nangona ingqwalasela ingalunganga kunokuba ifaneleke.
- Ndiziva ndikhungathekile. Ukubetha kunye nokubetha ziindlela zokuzibandakanya abantwana. Ukuba umntwana uziva ephazamisekile okanye engekho ekulawuleni kwaye akakwazi ukuchaza ngokufanelekileyo iimvakalelo zabo, banokuthi benze ngokubetha.
Ngoko, umzali angenzani ukukhubaza ukuziphatha okubi komntwana omazayo?
Indlela yokuMisa ukuBamba
- Khuthaza ukusetyenziswa kwamagama. Ezinye iindlela zokubonisa ukukhungatheka okanye umsindo kufaka ukumbamba isilwanyana esinyene okanye ukubetha umququ. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukunciphisa imisebenzi okanye ukunika umntwana ikhefu kunokukunceda ukukhusela ukukhungatheka okubangelwa ukukhala kunye nezinye izinto ezimbi.
- Nika umntwana wakho ingqalelo. Nika umntwana wakho ngokwaneleyo ixesha lakho yonke imini ukuze angalindi nje ukuze athathwe ingqalelo. Ingqalelo ngakumbi kubaluleke ngakumbi xa umntwana wakho ehamba utshintsho olukhulu lobomi, njengokuhamba okanye ukwamkela umntwana womntwana. Ukuba umntwana wakho ulungele ukulila, gcina kunoma yimuphi umdlali kunye nokunyathela xa utshintsho lubonakala lubusa.
- Iziphumo ezihambelanayo. Ukuba ubona umntwana wakho eluma, Ulawula umphumo ofanelekileyo njengokutshatyalaliswa kweyotokethi okanye ixesha lokuphuma.
- Nika ingqwalasela encinci kumntwana omncinci. Bonisa umntwana owenza ukubetha okubambayo akayi kumnceda.
- Ungalokothi ulime umntwana wakho . Melana nesilingo sokuluma umntwana othakazayo njengendlela yokuba "ubonise" iimpazamo zabo. Sebenzisa indlela efanelekileyo endaweni yoko. Awufuni umntanakho utshele uthisha wakhe ukuba uyabetha ngenxa yokuba ngaba abazali bakhe benza!
Ngaphandle kwimizamo enqabileyo yokukhusela, iziganeko ezihlabayo zisenokwenzeka. Xa umntwana wakho ebetha, xelela ngokucacileyo umntwana wakho ukuba ukuziphatha akuvunyelwanga ngokuthi, "Hayi asilumi!" Chaza ukuba ukubetha kubuhlungu omnye umntu. Emva koko ususe umntwana wakho kwimeko uze unike umntwana ixesha lokuzincama.
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