Phantse wonke umzali uye wafumana ixesha elincinci elincinci lapho umntwana engabongiyo kubonakala khona. Ingaba umntwana wakho uthi, "Ngaba yonke loo nto ndiyifumana yam usuku lokuzalwa?" Emva kokuvula imfumba yezipho, okanye uva, " Andizange ndibe nantoni na emnandi" njengoko ugoduka ekhaya ukusuka ngosuku olumnandi epakini, awuyedwa.
Nangona kuqhelekile ukuba zonke iintsana zibe nexesha apho ukuqonda kwabo kubonakala khona, ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba isimo sengqondo somntwana ongenamdla asiyi kuhlala sigxina.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba, ukuba umntwana wakho uziphathe ngokungathandeki kunokuba ungathanda, ezi zicwangciso zokuziphatha ezinokukunceda umntwana wakho abe ngumbulelo omncinane:
Ngomonde Kodwa Qinisekisa Isimo sengqondo sokungaxolisi
Xa uva umntwana wakho uthetha okanye wenza into ebonisa isimo sengqondo esingenabongi, phawula. Gwema ukuthetha into enje, "Yeka ukuba yi-brat." Kunoko, xela ngaphandle kokuthuka.
Yithi into enjengokuthi, "Ukunyamezela ngokungafumani izipho ezingaphezulu kunomdla. Abahlobo kunye nosapho bakho babenomusa ngokwaneleyo ukukuthenga isipho xa bengenakukuthenga into. "
Qhubeka ngokubhekiselele kwiziganeko ezibonisa isimo sengqondo sokungabongiyo ukukunceda umntwana ukuba afunde ukuziphatha angabongi.
U velwano
Abantwana badinga uncedo ekuqondeni indlela iimpawu zabo ezichaphazela ngayo abanye abantu. Unokwenza oko ngokufundisa ngenene uvelwano.
Thetha nomntwanakho malunga nendlela amazwi akhe okanye ukuziphatha kwakhe kukuchaphazela ngayo.
Yithi izinto ezinje, "Xa uthe wungaze wenze nantoni na intoyoko, ibuhlungu imvakalelo yam. Ndizama ukuqinisekisa ukuba senza izinto ezininzi zokuzonwabisa, njengokuba uye epakini okanye udlala imidlalo."
Xa ufunda iincwadi okanye ubukela i-TV ndawonye, hlala kwaye umbuze indlela abalinganiswa abathile abanokuziva ngayo. Buza imibuzo enjengale, "Xa le nkwenkwe ithe loo nto ithetha izinto, ucinga ukuba umzalwana wakhe uzive njani?" Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba abone kwaye atyhale amagama.
Vumela kuphela Amalungelo xa Bafumana
Ukutshiza umntwana wakho ngezinto eziphathekayo ezingapheliyo kunye neendulgences ezingenakubalwa ziya kumtshabalalisa . Abantwana abanakubulela ngezinto abanayo ngaphandle kokuba banikwe ithuba lokufumana amalungelo abo. Ilungelo lekhonkco, njengexesha leskrini kunye nemihla yokudlala, ukuziphatha kakuhle.
Ungaze udibanise isityholo kunye nomvuzo. Ukubambisa umntwana wakho kuya kuba nomoya ongenamdla. Ukuthi, "Nasi ibhaluni, ngoku kulungile," isityholo. Umvuzo, ngakolunye uhlangothi, uthi, "Ulungile ngokwenene. Ufumene ibhaluni."
Inkqubo yomvuzo , nangona kunjalo, iya kumnceda ukuba azive kakuhle malunga nokufezekisa kwakhe kwaye uya kuxabisa amalungelo akhe ngakumbi xa ewafumene.
Thatha Amanyathelo Wokukhuthaza Ukubulela
Kukho amanyathelo amaninzi ongayithatha ukukhuthaza ukubonga kubantwana. Enye yezinyathelo ezibalulekileyo ongayithatha kukumzekelo oyisibonelo sokubulela.
Thetha rhoqo malunga nazo zonke izinto onokubonga ngazo ngalunye usuku. Bonisa ukubonga ngezinto ezinokuthi zithathwe kalula, njengokubona umboniso omhle okanye umoya ococekileyo wokuphefumula.
Misela imikhwa yentsapho ekhuthaza ukubulela. Yakha intonga yokubonga apho wonke umntu ebhala into enye abayibonga ngayo yonke imihla.
Emva koko, ngosuku oluthile, njengoNyaka omtsha, funda zonke iiflethi zephepha.
Okanye, yenze umkhwa ukuthetha ngokubonga imihla ngemihla ngexesha lokulala okanye ngasetafileni yokutya. Buza wonke umntu, "Yintoni eyona nto iyona nto ingcono kakhulu namhlanje?" Emva koko, xubusha ukuba kutheni unombulelo ngezinto ezilungileyo kumhla wakho.
Gxininisa ekuncedeni abanye
Yenza abanye banomkhuba wokuqhelekileyo. Thatha umntanakho xa unceda ummelwane osekhulile okanye umnike ithuba lokukunceda wenze isidlo umntu ofuna uncedo.
Yenza umntwana wakho abandakanyeke emsebenzini wothando . Mfundise ukuba akakaze mncinci ukuba ancede abanye abantu.
Ukunceda abanye abanesidingo kuya kunciphisa umbono wobomi bakho. Kuya kunceda inceba, okunciphisa amathuba okuba umntwana wakho akayi kubulela.
Thetha ngokubonisa ububele rhoqo. Yenza umkhuba wemihla ngemihla ukubuza, "Yintoni into endiyenzayo kumntu namhlanje?" okanye, "Unceda njani ukwenza ihlabathi libe ngcono namhlanje?" Xa umntwana wakho enza izenzo zobubele, uya kuba nokugxininisa kwizinto anokunika zona, kunokuba ucinge ukuba ufanelwe.