Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali abacinga ngokuqhawula umtshato baya kubuza ukuba yeyiphi iminyaka engcono kakhulu kubantwana babo. Nangona kungekho nombolo "yomlingo" echaza xa abantwana bexhaswa kakhulu, ubudala bunokuqwalaselwa ngokufanelekileyo. Kodwa akuyena kuphela. Ukuba ucinga ngokufakela umtshato, zizinto ezilishumi omele uzigcine engqondweni.
Oko Kufuneka Uyiqwalasele Ngaphambi Kokuqhawula Umtshato
- Abafundi bakho banamathele kangakanani kumzali ngamnye. Abantwana abanesibini esibalulekileyo kubazali bobabini banokuba nzima kunzima ukujamelana nabo kuba baziva beyanyanzelekile ukuba bathembeke kubo bobabini. Ukongezelela, khumbula ukuba abantwana bakho banelungelo lokugcina uxhulumaniso olufanayo kumzali ngamnye owamnandiphayo ngaphambi kokuqhawula umtshato. Ngoko ukuba abantwana bakho basondelene nabo bobabini ngoku, unokudinga ukuhamba ngokuqhawula umtshato kunye nethemba lokuba uya kubelana ngolondolozo.
- Ingaba abantwana bakho baye bafumana ezinye ilahleko. Usizi luyabathinta abantwana ngokukhawuleza njengabantu abadala. Kwaye ukuba abantwana bakho basandul 'ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo (okanye nokuba isilwanyana), ukufuduka okanye ukutshintsha izikolo, ukuqhawula ngelo xesha kunokubachaphazela ngakumbi .
- Ingxabano engakanani abayifumanayo ekhaya ngokuqhelekileyo, kunye nendlela enzulu ngayo. Ukubonakaliswa kweengxabano ezinkulu ekhaya akusoloko kwenza ukwahlukana kulula kubantwana, kodwa kunokubangela ukudumazeka abanye.
- Indlela umtshato oya kuchaphazela ngayo ukuzinza kwezoqoqosho kubantwana bakho kwixesha elifutshane kunye nexesha elide. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abafazi kunye nabantwana banako ukushiywa ngemali engaphantsi kwemtshato. Njengoko unqumle ukuba wenzeni, kwaye nini, cinga ukukwazi kwakho ukuhlawula iimfuno zakho zezingane-njengendawo yokukhusela, ukutya kunye nezambatho - kunye nayiphi na imisebenzi okanye "eyongezelelweyo" abaye bajwayela.
- Ingaba baya kufuneka bathathe okanye batshintshe izikolo. Kuyacaca ukuba, ukuguqula izikolo kwakuya kubandakanya zonke ezinye iinguqulelo zomtshato eza kuhamba. Cinga ukuba abantwana bakho banamathele kangakanani kubantakwabo, okwangoku, kwaye ukufudukela kwidolophu elitsha kunokuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane.
- Ingaba banabangane abaye baqhawula umtshato weentsapho. Ukwazi ezinye i-kids isandla sokuqala oye wafumana ukuqhawula umtshato kunokubanceda abantwana bakho bazive bebodwa xa behamba kwinkqubo.
- Amandla omzali ngamnye wokujamelana nokutshintshwa kweengxaki zomtshato. Khawucinge ngendlela oya kuyenzela ngayo ukuzinyamekela kwakho ukuze ukwazi ukubonisa amandla kunye nokuzinza abantwana bakho abaya kufuna.
- Enoba uza kukwazi ukusebenzisana kunye nawe. Ukubonisa ukuzimisela ukunxibelelana kunye nokusebenza kwakho ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye kaninzi, kuya kubonisa ukuba abantwana bakho banomqondo wokuzinza njengoko uhamba ngeli xesha lokutshintsha kweentsapho ezinzulu. Cinga ukukwazi ukubeka bucala ukuzikhukhumeza, ngamanye amaxesha, ukwenza okulungileyo kubantwana bakho - nangona xa ukwenza njalo kuya kuba nzima kakhulu, ngokwemvakalelo.
- Imbali nganye yomntwana yokujongana nokutshintsha. Wonke umntwana ufumana umtshato ngokwahlukileyo. Kodwa ukuba unomntwana onenkathazo ngokuguquka, ngokubanzi, kufuneka ulungele ukuba amava abe nzima nakakhulu.
- Yabo minyaka. Ekugqibeleni, ubudala buyicinga ngokufanelekileyo. Abantwana abancinane kakhulu baya kuba nabancinci ukuba kukho, iimbongo zokuhlala kunye njengentsapho. Xa abantwana bakho banxulumana nobuni babo kunye neyunithi yentsapho oye wadala, kunzima ukwamkela olo tshintsho kwaye uqhubeke.
Akukho nanye kwezi zinto kufuneka zibhekwe njengezizathu ezicacileyo zokucatshulwa. Wena kunye neqabane lakho kuphela yinto enokwenza isigqibo malunga nento efanele wena nentsapho yakho. Njengoko ucinga ngendlela umtshato ochaphazela ngayo abantwana bakho, cinga ukuhlela iiseshoni ezimbalwa kunye neengcali zentsapho-nokuba yedwa okanye kunye.
Ingcali inokukunceda ukuba usebenze ubuhlobo kunye nokuqwalasela kwakhona umtshato okanye uthathe amanyathelo enempilo ekutshintsheni okuphambi kwakho.