Ukwenza isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato akulula, kwaye kufuneka uxelele abantwana bakho ukuba kungabi lula. Ukuthetha nezingane zakho malunga nomtshato-kunye neqabane lakho, ukuba kunokwenzeka-kuyimfuneko. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyiyo incoko yokuthabatha.
Indlela oya kuyo incoko kwaye izinto ozithethayo ziya kuba nefuthe elikhulu kumntu wakho abonwa ngayo umtshato, kwaye oko kungenza umehluko endleleni ahlangabezana ngayo neenguqu ezizayo kwintsapho yakho.
Ngaphambi kweNtetho
Kungaba nzima ukuyichitha ixesha kunye nomntu oza kutshatyalaliswa kungekudala. Nangona kunjalo, ngeli nqanaba, bobabini kuni kufuneka nimise iqela lokuxhasa abantwana benu. Kungcono ukuba usebenze kunye ukuze ubhale iingongoma eziphambili zengxoxo, ngoko ke bobabini niphepha iphepha elifanayo kwaye niza kunika iimpendulo ezifanayo kwimibandela eya kubuzwa ngokuqinisekileyo.
Eli lixesha lokuvuma ukuba ungalwi phambi kwabantwana, umlomo ombi omnye komnye, okanye uxinzelele abantwana ukuba bathathe icala.
Ukuba ngaba ngokwenene ungeke ukwazi ukunyamekela ukuba ube kwindawo efanayo ukuba uxelele abantwana bakho ngokuqhawula umtshato, usadingeka ukuba ube nengxoxo malunga neento ezifunekayo abantwana kunye nokwenza iifungo ezifanayo malunga nokuphathwa ngenyameko. Xa incoko malunga nomtshato isenzeka kumzali ngamnye, kufuneka ibuye iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde iphinde icatshulwe yintoni umzali.
Nini na Ukuthetha
Nika ingcinga eninzi malunga nokuba nini na apho kufuneka uxoxe nabantwana bakho.
Ufuna ukubanika ixesha elaneleyo lokubuza imibuzo kwaye ulungelelanise ngaphambi kokuba utshintsho lwenziwe, kwaye ufuna ukwenza njalo kwindawo ephumlileyo engenazo iziphazamiso.
Ngokufanelekileyo, bathetha nabantwana bakho malunga nokuqhawula umtshato emva ezimbini ukuya kwiiveki ezintathu ngaphambi kokuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nihlukane-awufuni umzali omnye ukuba ahambe ngokukhawuleza emva kwentetho.
Abantwana baya kufuna ixesha lokuba bahlengahlengise babuze imibuzo, ngoko bacinga ukuthetha nabo ekuqaleni kweveki. Ngaloo ndlela, ujikeleze ukuba uthethe ukuba bafuna ukuxoxa ngokuqhawula umtshato kwaye baya kuba neentsuku ezimbalwa ukucinga ngazo ngaphambi kokuba babuyele esikolweni.
Ngubani oza ku xelela
Oku kulula ukuxelela wonke umntu ngexesha elifanayo. Kuzama ukuxelela umntwana omdala kunye nokukhusela umntwana osapho; nangona kunjalo, ngoko ubeka umthwalo wokugcinwa ngasese kumdala.
Nangona ungacingi ukuba umntwana omncinci uya kuqonda, hlawulela yonke intsapho ngokukhawuleza ngencoko malunga nokuqhawula umtshato.
Yintoni enokuxoxa ngayo
Eli akusiyo ixesha okanye indawo yokungena kwi-nitty-gritty yeso sizathu sokuba uqhawule umtshato. Ukumangalelwa akukho apha.
Yenza umyalezo wakho ucace kwaye ulula: Siye sigqibo sokuba asinakuhlala kunye kunye. Oku kwakungekho isigqibo esilula kodwa kubalulekile ukwenza. Sobabili sithandana kakhulu, kakhulu, kwaye isigqibo sokuhlukanisa asinanto nantoni na .
Phinda ubhale ukuba uqhawulo - mtshato ayilona mpazamo- ingakumbi umntwana wakho-kwaye uya kuba usapho, ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Qinisekisa abantwana bakho ukuba baya kubona bobabini, kwaye uya kuqhubeka ubathanda njengoko wenza njalo.
Indlela yokujongana nokungaqiniseki
Umntwana wakho unokufumana imibuzo eninzi ongayikwazi ukuyiphendula. Kungenzeka ukuba kusasa kakhulu ukuba unike iimpendulo kwimibandela enjengale, "Ndiya kuhlala phi?" Okanye "Ndiza kuthatha ixesha elingakanani nditshintshe izindlu?"
Yazisa xa ungayazi impendulo kodwa uqinisekise. Yithi, "Asiqinisekanga ukuba ziphi na izicwangciso zokuphila. Kodwa siya kusebenza kanzima ukufumana into eya kuba yinto enhle kuwe. "
Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zabantwana bakho
Gwema ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Musa ukukhathazeka, siya kulungile," okanye "Musa ukukhala. Siya kuba sisapho. "Endaweni, vumela imizwa yengane yakho . Yithi izinto ezinje, "Ndiyazi ukuba oku kufuneka kuve kunene ngoku," okanye "Kulungile ukuba sibuhlungu kukuba asisoze siphila phantsi kophahla olufanayo."
Yaye ungamangalisi ukuba umntwana wakho wenza sengathi akanandaba nokuba uqhawule umtshato. Kungathatha ixesha lokuba ubunzima beli gama litshintshe ngokupheleleyo.
Umntwana wakho uya kubuhlungu ngenxa yeenguqu ezihamba nomtshato ngokwawo. Unokudabuka ngelinye ilanga kuba awuhlali kunye kwaye ujabule ngosuku olulandelayo kuba uyaqonda ukuba uya kuba neendawo zokulala ezimbini. Yenza umntwana wakho azi ukuba nantoni na ukuba ulungile, nangona ezinye zeemvakalelo zingenakuzihlaziya ngamanye amaxesha.
Yazisa abanye Abanakekeli
Ungacinga ukuxelela ootitshala bakho abantwana ngokuqhawula umtshato ngosuku ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo sokuba nencoko. Oku kuyilungiselela uthisha nayiphi na indlela yokuhlaselwa kokuziphatha, anokukunika ingxelo kuwe.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, cela uthisha ukuba abe yingqondi ngeenkcukacha kwaye akwazi ukuthetha nomntwana malunga nalo, ngaphandle kokuba akhuphe yena ngokwakhe. Uninzi ootitshala baya kuqonda ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo ekhaya.
Kufuneka uxelele nabani na abanye abanonophelo ukuba uphulaphula iindaba kubantwana bakho. Ababoneleli, abaqeqeshi, okanye abanye abadala abajongene nabantwana bakho banokunceda ukuhlola indlela iindaba ezichaphazela ngayo umntwana wakho kwezinye izicwangciso.
Funa Uncedo Lwezakhono Xa Kuyimfuneko
Ukwahlukana kungathatha inkokhelo yengqondo yabantwana . Qaphela ukuba kukho naziphi na iimpawu ukuba abantwana bakho abakulungelelanise kakuhle. Le miqondiso ingaquka:
- Abafundi basesikolweni - ukuxhalaba, ukuxhoma okanye amanyathelo okubuyela emuva ekuphuhliseni, njengokuvuka phakathi kobusuku okanye ukufumana izingozi.
- Abantwana besikolo abasisiseko - ukwesaba, umsindo okanye ukuxhalaba, iingxaki zokuziphatha ezikhulayo , kunye nokunciphisa okukhulu ukusebenza kwesikolweni.
- Abaselula - ukuziphatha okubi kunye nokuziphatha kakubi, ukuhoxiswa, ukuziphatha kakubi ngokwesini , ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi, kunye nokusebenza kwesikolo esibi.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unzima ukulungelelanisa neenguqulelo, funa uncedo lochwepheshe . Xoxa nodokotela wengane yakho okanye uqhagamshelane neengcali zempilo yengqondo.
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