Fumana indlela abantwana bakho abazi ngayo kuba yi-cyberbullies
Kwabaninzi abaselula, i-intanethi yinto engaphezulu nje kwesixhobo sophando lwesikolo, iividiyo ze-YouTube kunye nemidlalo ye-intanethi. Kwakhona inxalenye enkulu ebomini babo. Badibanisa neontanga zabo kwiinkonzo zentlalo zentlalo ezifana ne- SnapChat , Instagram kunye ne-Twitter kwaye bathetha nge-intanethi nge-Google Hangouts, i-Skype ne-FaceTime. Ukuthumela i-texting yindlela enkulu yokuba abantwana bakwazi ukuthetha rhoqo.
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ezo ntsebenziswano zingabunzima kwaye abantu abaye babecinga ukuba ngabahlobo bazityhaphaza nge-intanethi .
Enyanisweni, ngokutsho kwesinye isifundo, ukuxhatshazwa kwe-cyberbullying kunokwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke phakathi kwabangoku kunye nabangaphambili kunye nabalingani bakho abathandanayo kunokuba kungenzeka phakathi komntwana wakho kunye nomfokazi. Iingxelo zibonisa ukuba ukuxhaphazwa kwe-cyberbullying kwenzeka rhoqo ngokuphindwe kasikhombisa phakathi kwentsha eyaziwayo komnye phakathi kwabantu ababengazange babe ngabahlobo okanye ngabafundi.
Ngaphezu koko, abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba iintlobo ezithile zabafundi ziyakwazi ukuhlaselwa. Ngokomzekelo, amantombazana aphindwa kabini njengamakhwenkwe kumaxhoba okuxhatshazwa kwe-cyberbullying. Okwangoku, i-LGBTQ intsha ifumaneka ngamaxesha amane kunokuba abesilisa abathandana nabo baxhatshazwe. Akunabo kuphela abafumana ama-homlhobic slurs kodwa nabo banezo zobuntu zesini kunye nezinto ezikhethiweyo ezibonakaliswe kwabanye ngaphandle kwemvume. Ngokubanzi, i-cyberbullying ibandakanya yonke into ekusongweni, iindumko kunye neentlebo, ukwenza iifoto ezihlazo, ukutshintsha ubunikazi kunye namavidiyo ahlazolayo.
Ukongezelela, ukuxhatshazwa kwe-cyberbullying kuneemiphumo ebalulekileyo kwaye kunzima kunzima ukunqoba kunokunyelisa. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi xa abaxhatshazwayo babecinga ukuba ngabahlobo. Esinye isizathu sokuxhatshazwa kwe-cyberbullying kuyinto ephazamisayo kukuba amaxhoba ayayiva nje nje ukuba akukho nto iphunyukileyo, kodwa ivakalelwa kukuba ihlabathi lonke liyazi oko kwenzekayo.
Ngokukhawuleza, abasayi kuphinda bazive bekhuselekile emakhaya abo ngenxa yenkalo ehlala ixhunyiwe yobomi babo bemihla ngemihla.
Ngenxa yoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abazali baqonde ukuba umntwana wabo unomngcipheko omkhulu wokuxhatshazwa ngumntu osondelene nabo kunokuba baqhutywe ngumntu ongaziwayo. Nantsi oku kufuneka ukwazi malunga ne-cyberbullying phakathi kwabangaphambili abahlobo kunye nabalingani bokuthandana nabo.
Yintoni Ekhuthaza Umhlobo Omdala okanye Ukuthandana Nomlingani kwi-Cyberbully?
Xa kuziwa ekuqondeni ukuba kutheni abantwana be-cyberbully bodwa, izizathu zikwazi ukuqhuba i-gamut. Kwabaninzi, bazama ukufuna indawo yabo kwinqanaba lentlalo kwaye baya kusebenzisa nayiphi na indlela abanako ukugcina isikhundla sabo. Kwabanye abatsha, izizathu zibaninzi. Nazi izizathu ezithandathu zokuba kutheni umntu owayengumhlobo okanye umlingane wakho wokuthandana naye angayifumana i-cyberbully yakho kwentsha.
Imfihlelo yomntwana wakho yenza ibali elihle . Xa ubuhlobo buphela, abanye abatsha baya kusebenzisa iimfihlelo eziye zabelwana ngokuzithemba njengemibutho. Injongo kukunciphisa intlungu abavakalelwa ngayo ekujoliseni kwabo ukulimala kangako. Ingaba ukwabelana ngeenkcukacha zemfihlo okanye ukutyhila into eyenziwe ngumntwana wakho, abantwana basebenzisa ezi zinto bathetha ngokuzithemba ukuba bafumane ingqalelo kwabanye.
Bafuna ukuphindezela . Ngamanye amaxesha xa ubudlelwane buphela, abantwana baya kuba buhlungu ngenxa yokuqhekeka kobuhlobo abaya kwenza nantoni na ukuba bafumane. Le nqweno yokuphindezela ingabandakanya ukudala ibali okanye ukusabalalisa iindlebe kunye neentlebo.
Banoba nomona ngomntwana wakho . Akunakuphika ukuba inzondo ihlala iyingcambu yokuxhatshazwa. Ngendlela elula, umntwana wakho unento enye umntu ayifunayo. Ingaba oko kusemgangathweni kwiqela labo lezemidlalo, kwibanga kwiklasi ethile okanye nokuba nolwalamano nolunye olubalulekileyo, umntu ozama ukuxhatshazwa kwe-cyberbullying uzama ukuyichitha. Ingcinga yabo jikelele kukuba, ukuba andinakukwazi ukuyenza, andifuni ukuba nayo.
Bafuna ukuphucula ukuma kwabo kwintlalo . Amaxesha amaninzi, abantwana baya kutshintsha umhlobo kunye ne-cyberbully ukuba bacinga ukuba kuya kubakhokela isikhundla kwiqela okanye iqela lezingane ezidumile. Abajolisi kuphela kumntwana wakho kwi-intanethi, kodwa unokunika uxinzelelo lwabaontanga ukuba bahlanganyele ekubizeni amagama , ukuxoshwa kunye nokuxhatshazwa ukuze baqinisekise ukuma kwabo kwiqela.
Bafuna ukulawula umyalezo malunga nokuphela kobudlelwane . Xa ulwalamano luphela, abantwana bahlala bekrakra ukuba baye kwicala labo. Akunabo kuphela abaxhalabileyo malunga noko abanye baya kucinga ngabo, kodwa nabo abafuni ukuba umngane wabo wangaphambili okanye umlingani wakhe wokuthandana naye abe njengexhoba. Ngenxa yoko, abanye baya kuphendukela kwi-cyberbullying njengendlela yokulawula umyalezo abanye abafumanayo kunye nokusebenzisa imeko yabo.
Abazimisele ukuyeka ukulawulwa komnye umntu . Abanye abantu baya kusebenzisa i-cyberbullying ukuze bahlazise kwaye bahlukumeze omnye umntu. Xa oko kwenzeka, luphawu lokuba ulwalamano lube luxhaphaza kwaye umntu okhuselana nomntwana wakho nge-cyberbullying akafuni ukuyeka ukulawula kwabo. Njengomzali, kufuneka uhlale uqaphele izibonakaliso ezongezelelweyo zokusetyenziswa kakubi . Ukulawula abantu ngamanye amaxesha kuya kumaxesha amade ukugcina ubudlelwane. Kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba wenza okusemandleni akho ukukhusela umntwana wakho kwingozi engaphezulu.
Ziziphi iiTactics Ngaba Abalingani Bamandulo Nabalingani Abalingani Basebenzisa?
Ukuthoba . Eli qhinga libandakanya iqela labaselula abaxelela ulwazi ngomntu omnye ngokukodwa. Ngokomzekelo, xa intombazana iqhubana nenkwenkwe, inokuthi idibanise namanye amantombazana athetha ngeso sithandwa sakhe ukuze agcobe kwi-intanethi. Ngenxa yoko, banokuthi bathethe ngezinto ezivela kwiimfihlelo zakhe ngendlela abanga ngayo. Injongo yaloo ndlela yokuxhatshazwa kwe-intanethi kukumhlazisa aze amjezise ngenxa yokuphosakela kwakhe.
I-Catfishing . Olu hlobo lwe-cyberbullying lubandakanya ukudala ubunikazi be-intanethi kwi-intanethi ukwenzela ukunyenga umntu ukuba abe nobuhlobo obusenyongweni. Abantwana bathatha inxaxheba xa befuna ukufumana iinjongo zokuvuma iimvakalelo zothando kumntu oyinyumba kwaye emva koko baveze ezo zivumo kwi-intanethi. Ngamanye amaxesha, baya kusebenzisa ulwalamano lobuqhetseba ukukhanga umntwana kwindawo eyingozi okanye ehlazo. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho azi ukuba ukudibana nabantu abawaziyo kuphela kwi-intanethi akusisigqibo esiphephile.
Ukuzenza . Xa abantwana basebenzisa ukuzenza ngokuzenzekelayo kwi-cyberbully, bavame ukuzenza umntu ojolise kuwo. Ngenxa yoko, baya kufaka iphrofayili engalunganga epheleleyo nemifanekiso yomntwana wakho ukwenza ukuba ibonakale iyinyani. Emva koko, baya kufaka izimvo ezingcolileyo, izisongelo, ukuhleba kunye nezinye izinto ezinentsingiselo ukwenzela ukuba umntwana wakho abe nengxaki kwabanye. Injongo kukubangela abanye bacinge ukuba umntwana wakho uxanduva lwezithuba kwaye uyonakalisa idumela lakhe.
Slut Shaming . Ukuhlambalaza i-Slut kwenzeka xa amantombazana ejoliswe kwi-Intanethi ngendlela abagqoka ngayo, inani labantu abaye bahlala nalo kunye nomgangatho wabo wokuziphatha ngokwesondo. Nangona iindlela zokuxhatshazwa zingahluka, iintsholongwane kunye neentombazana zisetyenziselwa ukusebenzisa amajelo eendaba ezentlalo ukuze babelane ngezithombe kunye neevidiyo ezicacileyo. Ngokomzekelo, zenza iifoto zenye intombazana ngaphandle kolwazi lwakhe kwaye zithumele i-intanethi ngeengcamango ezintle, izivakalisi zentlobano zesini okanye izimvo ezingenangqondo malunga nemizimba yazo. Kananjalo banokubandakanya ukubiza amagama kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesini. Kwaye ukuba ithegethi ewake yathumela ukuthunyelwa kweefayili ngeefayili nazo zinokuthi zenziwe zikarhulumente ngokuziphindiselela.
I-Subtweeting kunye neVaguebooking . Le fomu ye-cyberbullying iyingqiqo kodwa ingabonakali. I-cyberbully ayithethi igama lomntu kwii-tweets zakhe, ngoko ke igama elithi subtweeting . Okwangoku, wonke umntu uyazi ukuba uthetha ntoni ngokubandakanya ixhoba. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqeqesha abafundi abasebenzisa i-cyberbully ngale ndlela kunzima. Abalawuli bakuthola kunzima ukubonisa ukuba ngubani umfundi othetha naye. Abanye ootitshala kunye neenqununu baye bakwazi ukufumana abanye abafundi ukuba babonise abo ba kholelwa ukuba iifayile zi malunga nokuba i-cyberbully ikhutshwe. Kodwa ingaba ngumngeni kwaye ixesha lidla.
I-Shaming yoluntu . Xa umntu ehlaziyiweyo esidlangalaleni, i-cyberbully isebenzisa impazamo okanye ukhetho olungalungileyo iluncedo elenziwe ukwenzela ukuba lihlazole kwi-intanethi. Nangona uhlazo loluntu kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwe-intanethi zifana kwaye zibandakanya ukuhlazisa umntu nge-intanethi, umahluko kukuba abanye abaninzi abantu bajoyina ngokuphawula okanye ukwabelana ngezithuba. Ukongezelela, ukuhlazola uluntu ngokuqhelekileyo kwamkelwa ngabantu abaninzi ngenxa yokuba bakholwa ngumntu wokuphela kokufumana umvuzo.
Ukuphuma . Ukuphuma kuyenzeka xa ulutsha lisebenzisa amajelo asekuhlaleni, ukuthumela imiyalezo okanye enye indlela ye-elektroniki yokunxibelelana ukwabelana ngolwazi lwesondo okanye umntu ozithandayo ngokwesondo. Olu hlobo lwanxibelelwano lunokuba luncedo kumntwana osemtsha, ingakumbi ukuba akayikulungele abanye ukuba bazi. Ngamanye amaxesha, abantwana baya "kukhupha" umntu oba ngowesini. Kodwa banethemba lokuqala amahlebezi okanye ukuhleba malunga nentombazana ukwenzela ukutshintsha ezinye iingcamango zabantu.
Yintoni Ongayenza Ngayo?
Uninzi lwabantu aluqapheli ukuba abantwana basengozini yokuxhatshazwa kwe-cyberbullying kubahlobo kunye nabalingani bomtshato. Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuba abazali baqaphele ukuba ulwalamano oluphukileyo lunokubakhokelela ekuqhubeni i-cyberbullying. Ngenxa yoko, qiniseka ukuba uyazi nayiphi na inguqu kungekhona kwimisebenzi yakho ye-intanethi, kodwa uqaphele ukuba ngabaphi abahlobo abangasayi kuza. Ezi zinto zingabonakalisa ukuba kukho into engalunganga ebomini bakho.
Ukongezelela, qiniseka ukuba uyazi indlela yokujonga iintshaba , kuthetha intombazana kunye nabahlobo abanetyhefu . Kwakhona qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi iimpawu zobuhlobo obuhle . Ngokwenza ezi zinto, awukwazi nje ukunceda ukukhusela i-cyberbullying ekubeni ungathathi ingcambu ebomini bomntwana wakho, kodwa ukhusele umntwana wakho ebuhlotsheni obubi.