Kungakhathaliseki ukuba isiphi isimo sakho kwisibhamu somnini, kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba unobhobho endlwini yakho, kubalulekile ukuthetha nezingane malunga nezibhamu. Abantwana banesithakazelo semvelo malunga nezixhobo kunye nangaphandle kwemfundo efanelekileyo, ukungazi kwabo kungafa.
Ngokomyinge, abantwana abangama-19 babulawa okanye bafumana unyango oluphuthumayo ngenxa yeenxeba zokuqhuma iintsuku zonke eUnited States.
Izibhamu ziyimbangela yesibini yokubangela ukufa kwezilwanyana ezinxulumene nokulimala kubantwana abaneminyaka eli-1 ukuya ku-17.
Kuqikelelwa ukuba umntu wesithathu waseMerika unompu. Ngako oko kunokwenzeka ukuba ummelwane, umhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho linompu, mhlawumbi lingakhuselekanga, endlwini yabo iphezulu kakhulu.
Akunandaba nokuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi njani ingozi okanye ukuba awukholelwa ukuba uya kuhamba eyokuhlola indlu yomnye umntu. Kuthetha okuncinci ukuba izibhamu zakho zihlala zivalelwe-nangona iimpawu zihlukeneyo-okanye ukuzingela okanye ukujoliswa kwezinto eziyinxalenye yentsapho yenkcubeko yakho.
Indlela efanelekileyo yokuphepha izingozi ezihlobene nomlilo kukuthetha nabantwana bakho malunga nezibhamu ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ukubamba iingxoxo rhoqo kuya kususa imfihlelo kwaye kubancede ukuba baqonde ukuba ziphi izibhamu, ukuba zisebenza njani, kwaye zinokuzigcina zikhuselekile njani .
AbaQala beZikolo nabancinci
Ngelishwa, abazali abaninzi bathemba abantwana babo ukuba bangaze baphephe umpu emva kokuba baxwayiswe ngokukhusela umpu .
Kodwa iziphumo ezininzi ziye zafumanisa ukuba nangona abantwana bexelelwe ukuba bangalokothi baphathe umpu, banokuthintela isibhamu xa ithuba livela. Kwaye nemiphumo ingaba yingozi.
Ngoko xa uthetha nabantwana bakho basekuqaleni kunye nabafundi besikolo malunga nezibhamu kubalulekile, umntwana wakho usele minyaka apho kufuneka uyenze umsebenzi omningi kuye-kwaye oko kuthetha ukuthetha nabantu abadala emakhaya owatyelelayo ukufumanisa ukuba kukho izixhobo ngaphakathi kwindlu.
Kungathi uzive njengengxoxo engathandekiyo yokuba, njengokuba ubagxeka ukuba uqhuba ikhaya elingaphephile, kodwa zama ukuhamba phambili-konke kukugama lokhuseleko lomntwana wakho. Enyanisweni, omnye umntu omdala uya kuqonda ukuba uyayiphakamisa into ebalulekileyo.
Kwimeko ethile, yithetha into enje, "Ngaphambi kokuba ndikhulule abantwana bam endlwini yakho, ndifuna nje ukufumanisa ukuba kukho naziphi na izinto abangenayo. Ngaba unayo izibhamu ekhaya lakho? "Ukuba zenza, gxiba ukuba yonke imipu ikhutshwe, ivalwe ngokukhuselekileyo, kwaye ingenakufikeleleka kumntwana wakho.
Kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akunakukuphela komgca wokhuselo. Amantombazana amancinci-ngokukodwa amakhwenkwe amancinci-ngokuqhelekileyo anengqondo yokuzenza ukudubula ngezibhamu, kwaye uphando lubonisa ukuba abantwana abaneminyaka engama-12 banenkinga enokuhlukanisa phakathi kwezinto zangempela kunye nokudlala izibhamu. Ngako oko, akukaze kusondele ukuba uxoxe nomntwana wakho malunga nento enokuyenza xa befumana isibhamu.
Qala ngokumbonisa iifoto zeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zezibhamu, ngoko uyazi indlela yokuzichonga. Cacisa ukuba xa athe wafika omnye-nangona ecinga ukuba mhlawumbi unokuzenza njengempu-ukuba kufuneka ahambe ngokukhawuleza kuloo ndawo aze athole umntu omdala.
Gxotha iphuzu ekhaya ngokumbuza.
Buza imibuzo enje, "Wenzenjani xa ubona isibhamu etafileni kwindlu yomhlobo wakho?" Yenza izibongo zokudumisa xa ephendula ngokuchanekileyo.
Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, wandise ingxoxo. Xoxa umahluko phakathi kokusetyenziswa kwezibhamu kwimiboniso yeTV kunye nemidlalo yevidiyo, ugxininisa ukuba ziimeko zokukholelwa, nokuba yintoni enokwenzeka xa umntu uphendulelwa-abayi kubuyiselwa ubomi baze baphinde babuye.
AbaFundi beZikolo kunye namaTweens
Xa umntwana wakho esikolweni esiphakathi, mhlawumbi uya kuva malunga neembali ezimbalwa zobugonyamelo bebhamu elijikeleze ilizwe-okanye mhlawumbi kwindawo yakho.
Sebenzisa iindaba njenge-jumping point point ukugcina intetho yavuleka malunga nokuba izibhamu ziyingozi kangakanani.
Qhubeka uxoxa ngokubaluleka kokungathinti izibhamu, ingakumbi ukuba ufumana isibhamu kwikhaya lomnye umntu. Yenza icacile ukuba nangona umntwana wakho enokucinga ukuba uyaziphatha njani isibhamu ngokuphepha, ukuthabatha isibhamu kunokubangela ukubulala.
Umntwana wakho naye ubeka umngcipheko wokuba nomhlobo ofuna ukubonisa izixhobo ezisendlwini yakhe. Ukuma kubahlobo ngumxholo ococekileyo, ngoko ke ucacisa indlela ophakathi kwakho onokuphuma ngayo kwimeko ngaphandle kokubangela nantoni na.
Phakamisa ukuba uthetha into enjengale, "Oku kuyinto engathandekiyo. Makhe siyenze into enye. "Ukuba umntwana wakho unomhlobo onikezela ukumbonisa isibhamu, umqeqeshe ukuba athi into enje," Mhlawumbi kamva. Makhe siyenze into ngaphandle. "
Umntwana wakho akafuneki ukushumayela okanye ukufundisa abahlobo ngokukhusela kompu. Ufuna nje ukususa kuloo meko.
Ukuba uvumela umntwana wakho ukuba azingele okanye abe nompu we- BB , qiniseka ukuba uthinteka ngokunyanisekileyo ekumfundiseni iziseko zokhuseleko. Kwaye udale umthetho ocacileyo othi akavumelekanga ukuba azisebenzise ngaphandle kokuba uyongamela.
AbaPhakamileyo beZikolo
Nangona kwezinye iindawo zeli lizwe, abatsha bayagqithisa izibhamu ukuba bafune ukuzingela emva kwesikolo, kwezinye iindawo, abatsha bathatha izibhamu ukuze babesongele abanye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uhlala phi okanye ukuba izibhamu zijongwa njani kuluntu lwakho, kubalulekile ukubamba ingxoxo rhoqo nentombazana yakho ngokukhusela kompu.
Abaselula banokuba nefuthe ngoko ke ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi indlela yokusingatha isibhamu ngokukhuselekileyo, isigqibo sesibini sesahlulo senze konke ukwenzela ukuba kunokulimala kwenzeke. Ngoko kubalulekile ukugcina izibhamu zivalelwe nokuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho akasayi kuthinta izibhamu zakho.
Kungaba nzima ukukhupha umxholo weebhamu kunye nentombazana yakho. Indlela efanelekileyo yokuqala ingxoxo enzima kukubuza imibuzo enjengaleyo, "Ngaba abantwana esikolweni bathetha ngezibhamu?" Okanye "Ngaba ucinga ukuba nabani na bakho bahlobo bakho baye bathatha umpu?"
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuvelisa imbambano yobundlobongela bombundu esikolweni. Thetha malunga nokwenza ntoni xa omnye umfundi ezisa isibhamu kwisikolo-oko kukuthi, xelela utitshala, umcebisi-ncebiso okanye inqununu ngokukhawuleza.
Kufanelekile ukukhankanya ukuba unokuhlala exelela umntu omdala ukuba omnye umfundi ucinga nje okanye usongela ukuzisa isibhamu esikolweni. Khumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba, ngokwenza oku, bangasindisa ubomi kunye nokukhusela imeko ebuhlungu.
Thetha malunga nayiphi na inkxalabo yezokhuseleko umntwana wakho enokuba nayo. Buza ukuba kukho amaxesha apho uloyiko lokuba umntu angenisa isibhamu kwiqela okanye ukuba umntu abe nesibhamu esikolweni. Ukuthetha ngokukhathazeka kwengane yakho kunye nokumnceda ukuba aphuhlise isicwangciso esiya kumkhusela angakwazi ukuzolalisa ezinye zezoyika.
Imiba yeGugu kunye nemiGaqo yokuCinga
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uvakalelwa njani ngemipu, nantsi imiba omele uyiqwalasele:
- Izibhamu - Ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba uvumele umntwana wakho ukuba athathe izibhamu ze-toy isigqibo somntu siqu. Kodwa nangona ungazithengi izibhamu zepayipi, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba umntwana wakho azenzele iikhrayoni, iintonga okanye isiqwenga sesiliva kuyisibhamu uze ucinge ukuba ufuna ukuphendula njani ukuzenza udlale ibhamu. Ungasetha imithetho efana neyo, "Akunakuzenza ngathi udubula abantu."
- Amajelo obundlobongelayo - Iimidlalo ezininzi zevidiyo kunye neemafilimu zithandana nobudlova bebhamu. Ngoko qwa lasela oko umntwana wakho abukele. Ukubeka esetyenzisweni ukusetyenziswa kwamabonwakude kunye nokunciphisa inani lobundlobongela umntwana wakho.
- Ukugcina isibhamu - Ukuba unompu, gcina uvalelwe. Musa ukuyifihla kwindawo 'eyimfihlo' kuba kukho ithuba lokuba umntwana wakho ekugqibeleni uyifumane. Kodwa ukufihla izihluthulelo kwikhabhinethi yompu, kodwa ke, ungashiyi umpu wakho ungalindelanga xa uphatha okanye uyicoca.
Izibhamu kunye nobundlobongela akuzona izihloko ezilula ukuxoxa nomntwana wakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uneminyaka engakanani. Njengomzali, ufuna ukukhusela umntwana wakho kuzo zonke izinto eziyingozi apho apha emhlabeni. Ngokugcina ingxoxo ivuliwe malunga nezibhamu, nangona kunjalo, yile nto uyenzayo-ukukhusela umntwana wakho.
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