Oko Ukwenza Xa Umntwana Wakho Akayi Kuya esikolweni
Xa umntwana enqaba ukuya esikolweni abaninzi abazali bayazibuza ukuba benza ntoni, kodwa abayedwa. Ezinye uqikelelo lubonisa ukuba ukuya kuma-20 ekhulwini kwabantwana babonisa iimpawu zokukhanyela esikolweni ngexesha elinye ngexesha lokufunda kwabo esikolweni. Ukujongana nokukhanyela esikolweni kuncike ekuqondeni oko kukuseleyo kwaye usebenze neqela labaqeqeshi ukunceda umntwana wakho ngeli xesha elinzima.
Kutheni umntwana wakho engafuni ukuya esikolweni?
Ngaphambi kokuza necebo elichanekileyo lokujongana nokukhanyela esikolweni komntwana wakho, kubalulekile ukufumana isizathu sokuba umntwana wakho wenqabe ukuya esikolweni. I-NYU Child Study Centre ibonisa izizathu ezine ezibalulekileyo abantwana abanqabile ukuya esikolweni. Umntwana wakho angenakuya esikolweni:
- ukuba ubaleke uzive ungalunganga. Uzama ukuphepha into esikolweni eyenza ukukhathazeka, ukuxinezeleka okanye ezinye iimvakalelo.
- ukuphepha ukusebenzisana kwezentlalo okanye ukuvavanywa koluntu. Unenkxalabo kwiimeko zentlalontlu, unenkathazo kunye nentsebenziswano yoontanga okanye ukhathazekile malunga nendlela aza kuyenza ngayo kwiimeko zokuvavanya kunye / okanye malunga nokubizelwa kwiklasi.
- ufumane ingqwalasela. Ukudabuka kwakhe, ukunyamezela kunye nokuxhalabisa ngokungafani kungayindlela yokufumana ingqalelo.
- ukufumana uhlobo lomvuzo ngaphandle kwesikolo. Oku kungenza kube lula nje ngokuba uyakwazi ukubukela iTV okanye ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo ngelixa ekhaya.
Ukukhanyela kwakhe isikolo kungabakho ukudibanisa le miba, kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa eqinisekiswa, ukuziphatha kuya kuqhubeka. Ukuziphatha akugcini nje ukuqiniswa ngumvuzo, kuqinisekiswa kwakhona ngempumelelo yokuphepha kwengcinezelo.
Umzekelo, umntwana akanakho ukufuna ukuya esikolweni kuba uyazonda ukugibela ibhasi .
Ukubetha kwakhe kusasa mhlawumbi kumenza alahle ibhasi okanye amvumele ahlale ekhaya; uye waqiniswa kakubi ngokuphephelela ngokuphumelelayo ukuhamba kwebhasi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umntwana ongeke aye esikolweni ngenxa yokuxhalabisa ngokwehlukana ngokuqinisekileyo ngokuqinisekiswa ngokuhlala ekhaya kwaye uchithe ixesha kunye nawe.
Yintoni Okufanele Uyenze Xa Eya Kuya esikolweni?
- Thetha notitshala womntwana wakho nabanye abasebenzi besikolo malunga neengxaki. Utitshala womntwana wakho unokukwazi ukunika ingqiqo malunga nokuba kukho izinto ezenzayo esikolweni ezifaka ingxaki kwingxaki okanye unokukwazi ukuqinisekisile ukuba nangona ukutshatyalaliswa kwantambama kunye nokukhutshwa komlenze, umntwana wakho ukulungele kanye kanye eklasini kunye nokubandakanya kwindlela yokufunda.
- Mthabatha umntwana wakho kwikliniki yabantwana. Abantwana abaninzi baya kuba neempawu zomzimba kwakunye neengqondo. Kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba le mpawu kunye nokuxinezeleka okanye ukuxinezeleka akuhambelani nesi sigulo okanye unesizathu esithile senyama. Xa unako ukulawula loo nto, wena kunye nodokotela wezingane unokugqiba isigqibo kunye nokuba lixesha lokuzisa isazi sengqondo okanye umcebisi njengengxenye yeqela.
- Zama ukuhlala uxolo kwaye uqikelele. Enyanisweni, oku kulula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe, ngokukodwa xa ukuziphatha komntwana wakho kukuphazamisa ikhaya lakho kwaye kukubangela ukuba ukhathazeke ngezinto ezinjengeemithetho yokunyaniseka nokuba ngaba uya kulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wakho ukuba ufanele ubize olunye usuku . Kungakhathaliseki ukuba, kufuneka uhlale ulindele ukuba isikolo sisenzo esingenakuthatyathwa. Ukubandakanya iingxabano okanye ukufumbathisa akuyi kulungisa ingxaki.
Yisiphi Isinyathelo Esilandelayo?
Emva kokuba ufumene ingxaki, amanyathelo akho alandelayo kufuneka abuyele umntwana wakho esikolweni kwaye afune uncedo olufanelekileyo kumcimbi ophantsi. Ukunyanga loo ngxaki, nokuba ingxhala, ukuxinezeleka, ukuchasana nokuphazamiseka kwengxaki okanye into ethile, ngokuqhelekileyo iya kufuna uncedo lomcebisi wangaphandle kwaye imbuyisele esikolweni kuya kufuna ukuba intsebenziswano yesikolo ifune ukusebenzisana.
Inxaxheba Yentsapho Ekujonganeni Nokunqatshwa KweSikolo
Emva kokuba usuqalile ulwalamano nesikolo kunye nomcebisi wangaphandle, lixesha lokujonga oko ungakwenza ekhaya ukuze uncede umntwana wakho abuyele esikolweni.
Okokuqala, kufuneka uhlalutye kwakhona izinto eziphambili. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho akayi kubeka iimpahla zakhe ukuya esikolweni, unokufuna ukuba uqikelele ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba agqoke iimpahla zesikolo okanye abe esikolweni. Ndisebenze nenani leentsapho ezithumele abantwana ezikolweni kwiipajama zabo kuba bekuphela kwendlela yokubakhupha emnyango ekuseni. Ezinye izinto omele uzenze:
- Misela isivumelwano sokuziphatha nomntwana wakho ukubonelela ngembuyekezo yokuya esikolweni kunye nemiphumo yokungabikho.
- Fundisa iindlela zakho zokuphucula abantwana ezifana nokuphefumla okujulileyo kunye nezinye izakhono zokulawula uxinzelelo.
- Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba akubize kwaye ahlole ngexesha elimisiweyo lomhla.
- Nika umntwana wakho ngomfanekiso wakho okanye enye into encinci yokuthuthuzela.
- Beka iinkqubo ezininzi ezingenakwenzeka.
Ukusebenza neSikolo sokwakha iSicwangciso
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokusebenza nesikolo ukubuyisela umntwana wakho kumzila. Izinto ezimbalwa zokuqwalasela:
- Buza isikolo ukuba sikhuphe okanye sinciphise umlinganiselo womsebenzi owenziwe ngumntwana wakho oza kuyenza ukuze athathe.
- Ukuphuhlisa isicwangciso se- 504 ukuba umntwana wakho akanalo iinjongo zokufunda ezibalulekileyo ukwenzela ukuba afanelekele i- IEP. Isicwangciso se-504 sisingatha indawo ekufunekayo xa umntwana ekhubazekile echaphazela imfundo yakhe, kodwa akakwazi ukufunda.
- Yenza isicwangciso sokufumana umntwana wakho emotweni kwisikolo. Ukuba umntwana wakho unenkathazo yokuhlukana, utitshala unokufuneka adibane nawe kwindawo yokupaka ukuhambisa umntwana wakho esikolweni. Kwezinye iimeko, kunokuba ukwanele ukuba umntu adibana nawe emnyango.
- Xoxa ngenkqubo yosuku oluthile ukuze uqale. Ukuba ukukhanyela kwesikolo kunzima ngokwaneleyo, unokufuna ukuqala ngokulindela okuphantsi. Kungalungile ukuba ucinge ngelanga eliyimpumelelo ukuba umntwana wakho wenza ngokoqobo esikolweni. Ekugqibeleni, unokwakha, iyure ngeyure de kubekho ixesha elifanelekileyo.
- Yenza ubuchule. Ukuba awukwazi ukumfumana eklasini, mhlawumbi uzimisele ukuhlala elayibrari, kwindawo yokutya okanye kwindawo yokutya. UDkt. Christopher Kearney , umlawuli weKlinikhi ye-UNLV School Refusal and Refression and Distress Clinical Disorders, ubhekisela kulo njengokuba ubeka isiseko. "Ubuncinane bavuka baze bahlale bekulungele ukuya esikolweni, kwaye kulula kakhulu ukubabuyisa eklasini eliqhelekileyo ukususela kuloo ndawo," utsho.