Ingcali yengqondo yengqondo ijongisa ukungabikho kokuxhalaba
Ingaba unzima ukufumana umntwana wakho ukuya esikolweni? Ukunqatshwa kweSikolo yinkathazo eqhelekileyo ngoChristopher Kearney, Ph.D., ingcali yengqondo yengqondo kunye nomqondisi we-UNLV School School Refusal and Concerned Disorders Disorders. Funda indlela enokuchaphazela ngayo umntwana wakho nendlela yokuphatha ngayo.
Ukunqana kweSikolo kunye nePobia yesikolo
Ukukhanyela isikolo kukungabikho kokuxhalabisa okungaxhomekanga kwimoyiko ethile.
Ukungabikho kokwesaba, ngezinye izikhathi kuthiwa yi- phobia yesikolo , kuyahluke kwaye kusebenza kuphela kwincinane yezingane.
Kukho ukwahlukana phakathi kokukhanyela esikolweni nokuziphatha kokulahlwa kwesikolo, okuquka izizathu ezininzi ezingekho kwixhala . Ingabandakanya ukunqumla isikolo ukudibanisa nabahlobo.
Iimpawu zeNqatshulwa zesikolo
Uyakubona umzekelo weklasi lakho lokulahleka komntwana okanye uhlale ungapheliyo. Umntwana wakho unokukhononda ngezikolo kunye nosongelo esikolweni. Umntwana wakho unokuba neentlobo ezingathandekiyo, ezingenakwenzekayo zezikhalazo zangokwenyama, njengeentsimbi zesisu, intloko, intlungu, kunye nentlungu. Iimvana ezininzi ziya kuba neempawu ezicacileyo ezinjenge-diarrhea okanye ukuhlanza.
Xa Ukukhanyela KweSikolo kubonakala
Ukwenqaba kweSikolo kunokwenzeka nanini na. Isikhathi esiphezulu sengozi apho abantwana bangena esikolweni esiphakathi, abaneminyaka eli-10 ukuya kwe-13.
Umngcipheko olandelayo ophezulu naliphi na ixesha xa abantwana befaka isakhiwo esitsha esikolweni okokuqala ngqa, njengokungena esikolweni, esikolweni esiphakathi okanye esikolweni esiphakeme.
Kwakhona kunokwenzeka xa intsapho ihambela kwisithili esitsha sithili.
Ukufumana Uncedo
UCearney uthi kuyadingeka xa ukuziphatha kuphazamisa umntwana okanye intsapho yokusebenza kwansuku zonke. "Ngaba ifikelele kwinqanaba, umzekelo, apho ibakala lomntwana libuhlungu, apho kukho inkqubela enkulu yentsapho, apho abazali belahlekelwa khona umsebenzi omningi, apho intsapho inenkathazo esemthethweni, okanye kukho inkxalabo kwenzekani? " Le nqaku ingafikelelwa kwimiba yeentsuku, okanye unokukwazi ukujamelana nayo ixesha elide.
Unokufuna uncedo kwi-psychologist okanye ubuze isikolo sakho uncedo ekufumaneni iingcebiso.
Ukusebenza neSikolo
Kubalulekile ukusebenza kunye nesikolo sakho ukuqinisekisa ukuba izisombululo zakho zihambelana nemigaqo yazo. Ngamanye amaxesha amagosa esikolweni angakha isicwangciso se-504. Ukuba umntwana uphume esikolweni kwithuba elithile, ishedyuli yexeshana ingaqulunqwa, kunye nomyinge wokwenziwa komsebenzi okufunekayo unokuthethwa ngawo. Amagosa esikolweni anokukwazi ukuncedisa ngesicwangciso sokongamela ngakumbi nokuhambisa umntwana ukusuka kwelinye iklasi ukuya kwelinye.
Iingxaki eziqhelekileyo
UCearney uthi ukugqithisa kakhulu kunengxaki enkulu. "Inketho engapheliyo kufuneka ihlale isithumela umntwana esikolweni kwaye ihlale ilindele." Uyabona ukuba abazali bavalela ukuvumela umntwana ukuba ahlale ekhaya, ekhokelela kwiingxaki ezingaphezulu. Abantwana baqinisekiswa njengokuba behlala ekhaya kuthetha ukuxhalabisa okuncinci kunye nokukwazi ukuzonwabisa nemisebenzi emnandi. "Bayenqaba esikolweni mhlawumbi kungekhona ngenxa yeengxaki zonke ezixhalabisa kodwa ngenxa yazo zonke izibonelelo ezibonakalayo ezifika ekhaya."
Ukuba umntwana uthi baya esikolweni kodwa bachitha imini kwilayibrari kuneklasini, uKearney ufumanisa ukuba isinyathelo sokuqala esihle. Esikolweni, baya kuhlala befumana zonke iinkcukacha malunga nokuya esikolweni.
"Amaxesha amaninzi okuza kwenzeka ntoni ukuba baxhamle kunye nabahlobo babo kwaye ukuba kungenjalo, ubuncinane sinabo kwindawo esibafumana ngayo esikolweni."
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Ukukhanyela isikolo kuqhelekileyo kwaye kunokuphazamisa iintsapho. Ukuba ujongene nale ngxaki, khangela uncedo ukuze umntwana wakho abe nethuba elingcono lokuphumelela esikolweni.
> Umthombo:
> Kearney, uChristopher. Udliwano - ndlebe. Julayi, 2010.