Kukho izinto ezininzi ezimangalisayo ngokuba nokuphindaphinda kwintsapho. Enye yeyona nto iyona mnandi kakhulu "yinto eyakhelwe kuyo". Kukho amaxesha amaninzi xa unomntwana oneminyaka efanayo, inzuzo, kungekhona nje ngamawele ngokwawo, kodwa nabazali babo.
Inzuzo
Ukususela ekuqaleni, amantombazana amamawele amnandi gqitha kunye nabanye abafana nabo.
Ndiyazikhumbula ngokuzithandayo njengeenyanga ezinyangeni ezintandathu, zifunda ukuhlala zodwa. Baya kuhlala phantsi, bejongene, kunye nebhokisi leemathoyizi ebantwaneni phakathi kwabo. Kwakuvuyisa ukuwajonga njengoko begqithisa iimathoyizi emva kwexesha, ukugubha kunye nokugubha iiplastiki ezithambileyo. Abazange bavakane kuphela kodwa nathi nathi.
Njengabafundi bezemfundo, baxhamla abanye abantwana abaneminyaka emibili eklasini yabo kunye nomdlalo wabo wokudlala. Ekuphuculeni, baphumelela abo bafunda nabo, ababenokukhetha ukudlala ngokufanayo , njengoko utitshala wabo ebiza isitayela sabo sokuzimela. Emva komhla wesikolo, baqhubeke bexesha lokudlala ekhaya, badala amabali anamnandi kunye nemidlalo kunye needodoli kunye nezilwanyana ezixutywe.
Abahlobo bam ngama-singleton ofanayo ubudala baya kukhononda malunga nomngeni onzima wokugcina abantwana babo bavakalise. Bazama ukufumana ixesha elifutshane xa umntwana wabo engafuni ukuba baqwalasele.
Oku akuzange kube ngumthwalo kum njengomzali wewele; bam babini bahlala behlala.
Njengoko sele bekhulile, amantombazana ayaqaphela inzuzo yokuwahlula. Ukuba nomngane owakhelwe ngaphakathi kwenza kube ngakumbi ukukhululeka ukuphonononga iimeko ezintsha, njengokuqala isikolo, ukujoyina iqela, ukuya ekampini, okanye ukuhamba ngekhefu.
Njengoko babesondela kwiminyaka yabo elishumi elineshumi kwaye baqala ukuthembela kuncinci kuMama noTata kunye nabaninzi kwiintandane zabo, bathuthuzelwa ngobungqina beqabane eliphakathi kwabo.
Iirebacks
Kodwa ukuba ne-buddy eyakhelwe ngaphakathi akusoloko ilungile njengoko ibonakala kwihlabathi elingama-2. Ukuziqhelanisa kubangela ukungcikiva, emva kwakho konke, kwaye kufana naluphi na ulwalamano, amantombazana ayedinga ukuphuka. Ukulwa phakathi kwamawele kungabinzima kakhulu, njengokuba abazali abaninzi baya kuqinisekisa. Xa amawele engenabahlobo ngaphandle komnye, ukulwa kunokukwazi ukugxila ngakumbi.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kumawele ukuba ahlakulele ubungane bangaphandle. Ngokuqinisekileyo kwakungenxa yeentombi zam iwele. Ngamanye amaxesha, kwakunzima kubo ukuseka ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye namanye amantombazana kuba abaninzi behlabathi babonwa njengento yokuthengiswa kwepakethe. Kuyinyani ukuba ukuhlukunyezwa kweentlobo kubakho kwimeko ethile, iimeko apho amawele angabandakanywa khona okanye awanakunakwa endaweni yokuba ahlonishwe iimpawu zawo.
Oko Abazali Abafanele Bakwenze
Njengabazali bephindaphindiweyo, ngumsebenzi wethu ukulinganisela inzuzo "yabalingani abakhiweyo" kunye neemfuno ngamnye zomntwana ngamnye. Qaphela ukuba iwele ngalinye okanye i-triplet lifanelwe ngexesha ngalinye kunye nabazali.
Khuthaza ngamnye umntwana ukuba ahlalisane nabangane bakhe bangaphandle. Ungalindelanga ukuvumelana rhoqo xa behlangene; Kunoko, yakha indawo kwibudlelwane beziphindaphindiweyo ngokubonelela ngamathuba okudlala kunye nemisebenzi nganye. Ukuba uvumela i-multiples ukuba ijonge ubuhlobo babo obukhethekileyo kodwa ibakhuthaze ukuba bakhulise njengabantu ngabanye, baya kufumana ibhalansi yentlalo ebabini ihlonipha ubudlelwane babo, kwaye iyenqabela ukuba ingabikho.