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Ndifana namantombazana amancinci amancinane aya kuba mathathu ngokukhawuleza. Bamba kunye nokubanga kancinci, kodwa baninzi baluma, bayabetha, bawaxabele, balwe nayo yonke into. Nangona banesitokisi esifanayo, ngamnye ufuna ukuba udadewabo unjani. - Mindy
"Ndine B / G 22M amawele adala. Ukulwa rhoqo, kwaye intombi yam iluma kakhulu unyana wam, ndicinga ukuba uyamoyikela! Ndiye ndazama ukuphuma, ukutshiza, nokukhangela kwaye akukho nto ibonakala isebenza." - Umama wamawele b / g
"Ndibafana amawele amantombazana ajikeleza ngo-5 ngo-december. ... Baye balwela ukulwa ekhaya kodwa ngoku iyingxaki esikolweni. ... Nangona bahlukana, ukudlala ixesha kuyafana. Owesibini uba nobukhwele ... Ndathetha kakhulu nabo kodwa akukho nto isebenza ... .Ukuthi (wena) wahlula iifana ezimbini ezihlala endlwini enye? Zifuna ukutya, ukusela, ukudlala, njl. kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuphi! " - f
Sinezingane ezithoba, umncinane kunamantombazana afanayo afana ne-2 1/2 ubudala ubudala. Owona mdala kakhulu uneminyaka engama-24, ngoko ke siye sahlala kwi-lol eninzi kodwa akekho omnye wabantwana bethu abaye baxabana, ncinane, njl. Amawele amnandi kakhulu kwaye ayathandana, kodwa athandaza, adibanisa, ahlaba, aphonsa izinto omnye komnye. ... Ndiya kuqondisa kwakhona kwaye ndizama ukuziqeqesha ngenxa yokuziphatha okubi kwaye ndibavuza ngokulungileyo. Maxa wambi ndivakalelwa kukuba andiyi kuhlala kuyo. " - Julie
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwamawele kunye nokuphindaphindiweyo kunzima kakhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, banesibusiso ngamabhinqa abakhelwe ngaphakathi . Kodwa kunjalo nazo ziphantsi kokuthelekiswa rhoqo kunye nokhuphiswano. Njengokuba kunaluphi na ulwalamano, kuya kuba nexesha lesisa, ixesha elinothando, kunye namaxesha okungafani kunye nokungavumelani.
Ukulwa phakathi kweeplani kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Abaninzi bathambekele ukuchitha ixesha elingakumbi kunye nabantwana bendabuko; bangaba nesabelo kwigumbi , babe nabahlobo abafanayo, kwaye baqheleke kwibanga elifanayo. Basenokuba seklasini efanayo . Ngaphandle kolawulo lokuzalwa olushukumisayo ukuseka imida yemvelo, kufuneka basebenze nzima ukufumana ubumfihlo kunye nobunikazi.
Ngokona nxalenye, amawele kunye nokuphindaphinda mhlawumbi banandipha ukudibana kunye, kodwa kuya kuba namaxesha okuxhatshazwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iqala ngobuncinci, xa abantwana abancinci bengenazo izakhono zokunxibelelana ukuze baveze iimvakalelo zabo kunye neminqweno kwaye endaweni yoko baphumele emzimbeni. Baya kuluma okanye badonsa iinwele zabo ezininzi.
Kukho izicwangciso ezininzi zokulawula ingxabano phakathi kwephindaphindiweyo. Yintoni ephumelelayo kwintsapho enye ayiluncedo kumnye. Kodwa kukho ezinye izikhokelo ezisisiseko onokuzivumelanisa kunye nokuguqula ngokusekelwe kwiminyaka yakho yeemeko kunye neemeko.
Indlela yokuphatha amawele okulwa
Isicwangciso esisodwa kukusebenzisa ukungathathi hlangothi . Gwema impembelelo yokuthanda ngokusebenzisa iindlela ezingahambisani neendlela zokubeka imithetho kunye nezikhokelo kwintsapho yakho. Ngokomzekelo, amashadi e-chore angakwazi ukubona nokulandelela uxanduva lomntwana ngamnye. Ukubhalisa umbala okanye ukubhalwa kweelayibrari kumisa ubunikazi bezinto zokunciphisa ama-squabbles.
Ukutshintshana ngeentsuku zeveki ukukhetha amalungelo okanye ukuqhuba iishedyuli, umzekelo, i-Twin A iya kuqala nakwiintsuku kwaye iTwin B iya kuqala kwiintsuku ezingaqhelekanga.
Qaphela kwaye uqinisekise iimvakalelo ; ukugweba ukuziphatha okubi, kungekhona umntu. Xoxa kunye neeplani ukucacisa iimvakalelo ezibangelwa ukuziphatha. Bancede ukuba benze umsebenzi wokuziphatha okunye ukufeza iinjongo zabo. "Ngaba wayenomona ngoodade wakho ngenxa yokuba wayenomdla wokudlala? Kuyaqondakala ukuba nomona, kodwa akufanelekile ukuthatha ithoyizi kuye. Kunoko, unokumbuza ukuba uya kubelana nawe xa eyenzile? "
Beka ulindelo lweentlonipho phakathi kwamalungu entsapho; unikezele udumo xa kuboniswa, kwaye uqeqesho kunye nemiphumo efanelekileyo xa iphulwa.
Misela imida ukubonelela ngamathuba omntu wobumfihlo kunye nezinto.
Yenza indawo ekhuselekileyo yokungahambisani kwempilo ngokuphulaphula amaqela amabini kunye nokuphendula.
Sebenzisa ixesha lokuphuma , zombini abantwana kunye nezinto ezingavumelani ngazo. Ukuba bekulwela umdlalo wokudlala, beka ithoyizi ngexesha elide baze bakwazi ukwenza ilungiselelo lokudlala kunye okanye ukwabelana ngalo. Ngamanye amaxesha, iziqabana zivela ngenxa yokuba ezininzi zifuna ukuphuka komnye. Nangona kunjalo, abakwazi ukuhlala bechaza le mfuneko. Ukubambisana kakhulu kunzima kunoma ubani! Xa ukulwa kunqumla, qhekeka. Bathumele ukuba bahlule iikona okanye namagumbi ahlukeneyo. Hlela iintsuku zokudlala ezihlukeneyo kwaye uchithe ixesha kunye nomntwana ngamnye. Ixesha elide lingaba sisixhobo kwaye akumele libe yisohlwayo.
Ukungenelela ngokuncinci. UMthetho njengombhalisi xa kuyimfuneko, kodwa vumela i-multiples yakho ukulungisa iingxabano phakathi kwabo.
Gcina nembono. Le "ezimbini" ziya kudlula. Ingxabano yeSibling iyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha inenzuzo. Nangona i-aggravation ibangela ukuba ngoku, baya kukhula ukuba babe kufuphi kakhulu. Kwaye baya kufunda ezinye izakhono zokuxoxisana endleleni.
Iingcamango Zokuvala
Ekugqibeleni, khulisa umnqweno womzali wakho wokugcina yonke into efanelekileyo kwaye ilingana phakathi kweeplani zakho. Kuyinto engenakwenzeka, kodwa umzekelo olula kakhulu ukungena xa uninzi lwabazali. Ukususela ekuqaleni, uziva unyanzelekile ukuba "wenze enye, yenzeni enye." Nangona oko kunokuba kunengqiqo xa unakekela iintsana ezisanda kuzalwa, ngokukhawuleza kuba ngumthwalo kwaye ngokungekho sikhombise ukuphindaphinda kwakho ngokulindela ilungelo. Nangona ubabathanda ngokulinganayo, ubomi abayi kubaphatha ngokulinganayo. Abantwana kufuneka baqonde ukuba kuya kuba neemeko xa umntu efumana inzuzo ngaphezu komnye, kodwa ukuba iitheyibhile ziya kuhamba ngexesha.