Ukuba ufumanise ukuba umntwana wakho unomngcipheko, mhlawumbi uyazibuza ukuba yintoni ixesha lokubuyisela liza kuba njalo. Ubunzima bokukhula kunye nophuhliso lwabantwana kunye nentsha ngokuqhelekileyo kuthatha ixesha elide ukuphilisa ukusuka kwingqungquthela kunabantu abadala. Ingqungquthela engathatha iintsuku ezimbalwa ukuba umntu omdala angaphilanga ukususela kuthatha iiveki ukuba umntwana oneminyaka esikolweni abuyele.
Ngeli xesha, nantsi ongayilindela:
1) Umntwana wakho uya kuba nexhala
Umnikezeli wakho wezokwelapha uza kukuxelela ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukuchitha ixesha angenzi nto. Kule nto, akukho nto ithetha nto. Umsebenzi wezobugcisa uya kuncitshiswa, inxalenye ekuthintela ukufumana ingqungquthela yesibini ngexesha lokubuyisela.
Akukho nto iquka nayiphi na ingqondo yengqondo, ngokukodwa ukusetyenziswa kweendaba zobugcisa. Xa umntwana wakho ephethe umkhuhlane, bahlala bebukela ithelevishini xa bebuya. Akunjalo ngomxube! Azikho iikhomputha, akukho zixhobo eziphathekayo, akukho ukuthumela imiyalezo, akukho ukufundwa kwincwadi -ngento efuna nayiphi na indlela yokucinga.
Into ongayenzayo: Yamkela ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuthuka. Mkhumbuze umntwana wakho ukuba inxalenye yenkqubo yokubuyisela, kwaye ukusetyenziswa kwengqondo yabo kukukho. Ungakwazi kwakhona ukujonga imisebenzi efanelekileyo ukuyenza ngokusisigxina .
2) Umntwana wakho uya kuba neengxaki
Ukubuyiselwa kwengxubusho akunakwenzeka ngokuthe ngqo.
Ukuphucula kudla ngokuphindaphindiweyo amabini amanyathelo, enye emva, kunokuba kuqhutywe phambili ngokuqhubekayo kokuphuculwa rhoqo kuze kube lula umntwana wakho. Nangona wena kunye nomntwana wakho landela isigqirha soogqirha ngokupheleleyo, unokulindela iintsuku ezimbalwa apho iimpawu ziza kubuya kwaye ziholele umntwana ukuba athathe iintsuku zokuphumla ezongezelelweyo.
Into onokuyenza : Landela i-oda lakho logqirha ekubuyiseni. Iintsilelo zingadanisa, kodwa ukulandela izikhokelo ezinikezwe ngugqirha wakho kuya kubangela ukuba uphinde wabuyiselwe.
3) Lindela ukubuyiswa okuNcinci, Ukubuyiswa komsebenzi wesikolo
Akunangqiqo kubaninzi abantwana abaneengcamango zokuchitha iintsuku ezimbalwa ekhaya baze bagxilwe esikolweni.
Umzekelo, usuku lokuqala esikolweni lunokuba ngumhla wesiqingatha ongenamvavanyo kwaye akukho msebenzi wesikolo. Ukuba umntwana wakho angakwenza oko kungabikho ukwanda kweempawu, ngoko banokuthi baqhubele phambili kwimini epheleleyo kungekho mvavanyo kunye nomsebenzi wesikolo. Imini nganye ngaphandle kokunyuka kweempawu kuya kubangela ukwandiswa komsebenzi wesikolo de kube umntwana wakho aphinde abuyele emsebenzini wesikolo.
Into onokuyenza: Uninzi lwagqirha luya kudala isicwangciso sokubuyela ngokukhawuleza kumsebenzi oqhelekileyo. Landela isicwangciso esinikezelwa ngumboneleli wakho wezokwelapha.
4) Ukubuyela kweMntwana wakho kwiMidlalo kuya kuNcipha kwaye kuphumelele
Ingqungquthela yindlela yokulimala kwengqondo. Ingqondo yinkampani yokucwangcisela umzimba wonke. Ukubuyela ngokukhawuleza kwintsebenzo epheleleyo yomzimba kuya kufuneka.
Oku kuya kunceda ukunqanda umntwana wakho ukuba angabikho ngxubusho yesibini ngexesha lokubuyisela. Ukufumana ingqungquthela yesibini ngexesha lokubuyiselwa kuya kubangela ixesha lokuphucula ngokukhawuleza, kunye neengozi yokwanda komonakalo ongunaphakade.
Into onokuyenza: landela izikhokelo zokubuyela ngokukhawuleza nokukhuselekileyo ukuze udlale. Qinisekisa ukuba ulandele naluphi na amanyathelo okukhusela okunciphisa ithuba lokuxubusha kwesibini.
5) Uya kuQhagamshelana rhoqo ngeSikolo soNyana wakho
Ukulandela umgaqo-nkqubo wokuvuselela ugqirha kunye nokujongana neentsilelo eziqhelekileyo ukufumana ukubuyisana kwengxaki kuthetha ukuba uya kubakho ukuthetha rhoqo nesikolo somntwana wakho. Uya kufuneka uxelele isikolo somntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza emva kokuxilongwa kwengxaki yomntwana wakho.
Izithili ezininzi zezikolo kunye nezikolo kulo lonke uhlanga ziye zavelisa imigaqo-nkqubo yokuxubusha ekuphenduleni uphando kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo ibonisa ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukubuyisela okufanelekileyo.
Oko Unokukwenza: Xa ukwazisa isikolo somntwana wakho malunga nesingxubusho, fumana ukuba ngubani omele uqhagamshelane naye esikolweni kunye nokuba bafuna kaninzi kangakanani ukuva kuwe. Isikolo siya kufuneka siyazi indlela yokubuyiselwa komntwana wakho, kubandakanywa iintsuku xa umntwana wakho efumana ukunyuka kwiimpawu zengxubusho.
Uya kufuna kwakhona ukuba isikolo siceba ukugxotha izabelo eziphosakeleyo ngexesha lokubuyisela okanye ukuba ziceba njani ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba enze umsebenzi emva kokubuyisela. Omnye umngcipheko oya kuwuphephelela ukuba isikolo somntwana wakho sifune umsebenzi olahlekileyo ukuba senziwe emva kokuba babuyele esikolweni okanye kungekudala xa banako ukwenza ezinye izabelo zesikolo. Ukuba nokuphinda kabini emsebenzini ukuba ubanjwe kulukhuni, kwaye kunokukhokelela ekubuyiseni kweempawu zengxubusho kunye nokuphucula okucothayo.
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Nangona i-retro ekhuselekileyo ingathatha ixesha elide kubantwana okanye kwintsholongwane, ukulandela izikhokelo kuya kubakho ukuphucula ngokukhawuleza nangokuthe ngangoko. Ukunyamezela kunye nokuhambelana nokulandela isicwangciso sakho somboneleli wezonyango kuya kukhokelela kwisiphumo esihle kakhulu. Qiniseka ukuba ubunzima obubuhlungu ngexesha lokubuyiselwa lufanelekile ukulimala kwengqondo yomntwana wakho ukuphilisa.