Inkundla yentsapho izama ukwenza izigqibo ngento enhle kumntwana. Nangona kunjalo, kukho amaxesha apho ijaji elona lihle lihlaselwa sisengozini yokucinga. Ngo-19 6 ukuya ku-2000, kwakulula ngokubanzi ukuba oomama bafumane ukugcinwa ngokupheleleyo kwabantwana babo ngenxa yentsholongwane engapheliyo yokuba oomama babekhulisayo. Oku kwakungenxa ye "imfundiso yeminyaka yesithandathu" ebonisa ukuba abantwana abaneminyaka emine ubudala nabancinci "banesisa" kwaye kufuneka babe kunye nonina.
Ngokufanayo, abantu babedla ukucinga ukuba abaninzi abantu abanomdla kumzali osebenzayo . Ootata abaninzi bafuna ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimpilo yabantwana babo-bafuna ukubanceda bafunde ukuphila kunye nezakhono zobomi, bakhuthaze, bazise ukuzithemba kwabo, bafundise uxanduva, kwaye bancede babe ngumdlali weqela.
Obawo namhlanje banesidingo nenkxaso xa befumana umtshato kunye neenkqubo zokugcina abantwana. Ngenhlanhla, kukho imibutho emalunga nelizwe elijolise ekuxhaseni nasekugcineni amalungelo ooyise, zombini kwiinkundla zentsapho kunye nokusetyenziswa kwezomthetho. Imibutho yamalungelo kaBawo inceda ekufundiseni obawo ngamalungelo kunye nezicwangciso zokwenza ukwabelana ngokugcinwa. Ukongezelela, ubaba-olubandakanyekileyo ulondolozo lukhuthaza abantu ukuba babe nobuhlobo obuqinileyo kunye nezingane zabo.
Coalition for American Fathers and Children
I-American Coalition yabaBawo kunye neNtwana (ACFC) yinhlangano engekho inzuzo ekuxhaseni abazali ababelwana ngayo. I-ACFC isebenza ngokusondeleyo kunye namaqela enkululeko yoluntu kwilizwe lonke kumzamo wokukhuthaza amalungelo alinganayo kubazali bobabini kwiinkantolo zentsapho kulo lonke elaseMelika.
Baye basebenze ekuncediseni ukubeka imithetho yomthetho wentsapho nokwandisa ulwazi lomphakathi malunga nomba wabantwana abafuna abazali bobabini. Imizamo yemibutho enjengale yiluncedo ekulwa kwamalungelo alinganayo kuwo amadoda namabhinqa. Ukususwa kobugcisa bendabuko buza kuncedisa bobabini abazali ukuba bafikelele ekuhlaleni ngokufanelekileyo kunye nokufikelela kubantwana babo.
I-ACFC icelomngeni umgaqo-nkqubo wasekhaya waseMelika kunye nenkqubo yomgaqo-nkqubo. Umgca wayo, "Abantwana badinga ootata-kungekhona iindwendwe," bayazibophezela kwimisebenzi yabo yokulungiswa komthetho wentsapho ngenxa yomdla wabantwana kunye noluntu. Ngokwentlangano, abaninzi oobawo bahlukana nabantwana babo bafuna ukuba nabo. Ukususela ngo-1996, i-ACFC incede ukukhuthaza amalungelo alinganayo kuwo onke amaqela achaphazelekayo ngumtshato.
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IBhunga lamaLungelo eNyana
IKomiti yeLungelo leNtwana (CRC) yinhlangano engeyona inzuzo eyasungulwa ngo-1985. I-CRC yomeleza ngamandla ukuthatha inxaxheba kwabafundi bobabini ekukhuliseni umntwana. Bazinikezele kule ngcamango yokuba umgca wabo wecatshulwa "Umzali Omhle Ungabazali bakaBawo." Ekuphishekeleni ubulungisa bezenhlalakahle kunye nezomthetho, i-CRC inokukhusela umdla ongcono kakhulu kubantwana kwiimeko zokugcina. Bazama ukulungelelanisa ukusebenzisana rhoqo phakathi kwabazali abangabikhoyo kunye nabantwana babo kunye nokukhuthaza ukulungiswa kwabantwana.
Umbutho unesiqendu kuwo onke amazwe e-US kunye neziqendu zamazwe ngamazwe ukuxhasa abazali abahlala phesheya, nokuba kunye nabantwana babo. Ngokomzekelo, iBhunga lamaLungelo eBantwana laseMaldinoni linikeza iinkonzo ezinxulumene ne:
- Ukufikelela kunye namaziko okudlulisa
- Utshintshiselwano olulandelelweyo kunye nexesha lokuba ngumzali (ukuvakasha)
- Ukubonelela ngeenkonzo zangaphambili kunye neposi
- Imfundo yabazali kunye nentsapho
- Imfundo noqeqesho lwabazali kunye nabagcini
- Ukucebisa ngeentsapho, ukubonisana kunye nokudibanisa
- Iinkonzo zokufikelela ukunakekelwa kwabantwana kunye nexesha lokubazali lomzali (ukuhanjelwa)
- Umzali / umntwana kunye / okanye ukuvakatyelelwa kubantwana kumakhaya ahlukeneyo
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Inhlangano yabazali bakaZwelonke
Ekuqaleni kuthiwa ngu "Obawo kunye neMindeni," iNhlangano yabazali bakaZwelonke (i-NPO) iqela elingenzi nzuzo elikhuthaza ilungelo lomntwana lokumthanda nokunyamekelwa ngabazali bobabini. Umbutho ukhuthaza ulwabiwo olwabelwana kunye kwaye usebenza ukukhusela amalungelo afanayo, kunye nokuxanduva olulinganayo, kubazali bobabini. Imibutho ejolise ekunyamekeleni ngokulinganayo kwabazali bobabini abanokubonakala bengagxininise kumalungelo kayise, nangona kunjalo, ngokuzama ukulingana baqinisekisa ukuba oomama noobawo banamalungelo afanayo.
I-NPO inamalungu amaninzi ekuboneleleni ngamathuba okuvolontiya kunye nezibonelelo ekuxhaseni intsapho yokubuyisela inkundla yenkundla. Unokuqala iqumrhu lakho lokubambisana okanye ujoyine enye yangoku, okwangoku ikhona kule ilandelayo ilandelayo:
- Colorado
- Florida
- Jojiya
- Idaho
- EKentucky
- EMassachusetts
- EMichigan
- EMissouri
- EOhio
- Pennsylvania
- Utah
- EVirginia
- EWashington
- Wyoming
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Ukwahlukana kukaTata
Ukwahlukana kukaTata kufundiswa ootata kwimibandela yokuqhawula umtshato, ukugcinwa kwabantwana kunye nenkxaso yabantwana. Iwebhusayithi inikeza izixhobo ezinkulu, njengendlela yokubala yokuxhasa abantwana, inkxaso yoqabane, kunye neengcebiso zomthetho.
Oomata bafuna ulwazi kunye nenethiwekhi yenkxaso malunga nomtshato kunye nokugcinwa kwabantwana kunokuhlola i-Divorce Divorce mahala kunye ne-podcast rhoqo kunye noMmeli uJoseph Cordell. Kwakhona iforamu edibanisa oobawo kwiimeko ezifanayo. Ezinye izongezo ezibonelelweyo ziquka:
- Izikhokelo zesehlukaniso ezibanceda abagadi ngenkqubo yokuqhawula umtshato kunye neenkalo zemali amadoda abhekana nazo.
- Ikhowudi yommeli kumadoda ukufumana umtshato kunye nabagcini bamagqwetha ekugcinweni kwabo.
- Amanqabana amancinci adumile afaka iingcebiso ezivela kwabanye abantu abaye bafumana umtshato ngaphambili. Izifundo ziquka ukuzala, iteknoloji, izihloko ezihlukeneyo kunye nokunye.
- Iincwadi ezinjenge-"Divorce Full Force: Isikhokelo seeGay" kunye ne "Imfazwe Yakho: Isikhokelo sikaBawo sokunqoba abantwana."
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Madad America
Amadoda aseMerika, awaziwa ngokuba ngabaDadre Against Discrimination (DADS) anika ootata ukuba bathathe iindleko zabo kwiintsapho zabo ngokusebenzisa iindlela zokugcina abantwana. Ngomgca wethegi, "I-Fathers Are Are Family", "intlangano kazwelonke ikhuthaza amalungelo ooyise kwimibutho yomthetho kunye neyolawulo kulo lonke elaseUnited States. Umbutho unama-ofisi angama-17 kuwo wonke umhlaba apho unokufumana ulwazi ngamalungelo akho njengobawo, indlela yokujongana neengxaki zokugcinwa kwamanyathelo njengomzali kunye nokunye.
Kukho iphepha lokuncedisa kwi-intanethi malunga nemibutho eyongezelelweyo e-US njenge-Co -ition Coalition ku-MA kunye ne-National Congress yabaBawo kunye ne-Children. Oomata banokufumana ulwazi malunga nogonyamelo lwasekhaya kunye nezigxeko ezingamanga kubantu, khetha abameli, iimpapasho kunye nenkxaso ye-intanethi.
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Uhambo lwaBamalungelo bamaBawo
Ukuhamba kwamaLungelo kaBawo kuhlanganiswe amalungu athandekayo anika amandla ootata ukumela amalungelo abo nokufundisa inkqubo yenkundla yentsapho kunye nenkqubo malunga nokubaluleka kooyise kuluntu. Zinamahluko amaninzi kulo lonke elaseMelika, e-US, eCanada, nakumazwe ngamazwe aququzelelwe kumaphepha ahlukeneyo asekuhlaleni.
Fumana ulwazi malunga neembuthano ezizayo, amathuba okuzithandela kunye neendaba. Kukho izixhobo ezinjengeencwadi, amaxwebhu karhulumente kunye neefom, kunye neengcebiso zokuxhasa abantwana. Ngokomzekelo, iphepha labo lithetha ukuba abantwana abanomlinganiselo olinganayo kunye noqhagamshelwano olunentsingiselo nabazali ababini abafanelekileyo:
- Ngaba iFESHI iyakwazi ukuyeka isikolo
- Ngaba iFESHA iyakwazi ukubaleka ekhaya
- Ngaba iFESHI iyakwazi ukukhulelwa okanye ikhuphe isisu
- Ngaba i-LESS iyakwazi ukuzibulala
- Ngaba iFESHA inokufuna, okanye ukudala ubudlelwane obuhlukumezayo
- INGABE iFET iyakwenza ulwaphulo-mthetho
- INGABE iFESHI iyakwazi ukubuyela kwiziyobisi okanye utywala
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Inethiwekhi yamaLungelo kaBawo
Inethiwekhi yamaLungelo kaBawo isekela ingcamango yokuba ngamnye umntwana unabantwana ababini abafuna ukufikelela kuwo. Olu lwazi lukhululekile lubonelela ngolwazi kumadoda kunye nemicimbi yentsapho, iindaba zorhulumente, i-alimony kunye nenkxaso, kunye nokunye. Kukho necandelo elinikezelwe ukudibanisa i-congressal ofisi kunye nezikhokelo malunga nendlela yokubhalela abameli kwaye usebenze kuluntu.
Oomata abafuna ukuxhaswa kwabazali bangasebenzisa inethwekhi ukuba baqonde ukubaluleka kobawo malunga nophuhliso lwabantwana babo:
"Kuninzi inkolelo yenkohlakalo yokuba ootata ngabemi beklasi," watsho uYoe Kelly, owasungula i-National and Non-Profit. "Asibaluleke ngakumbi kunamama, okanye ngaphantsi.
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Oobawo 4 abantwana
Obawo-4 abantwana, ababizwa ngokuba ngabaBawo bamaLungelo okuLingana (FER) ngumthombo wesizwe ootata ekusekeleni amalungelo afanayo. Kukho iinkonzo zeofisi, izifundo ze-intanethi kunye neenzuzo ezongezelelweyo zamalungu. Obawo banokufunda indlela yokuseka umtshato, ukucacisa amalungelo okuhanjelwa, kunye nokuzimela enkundleni.
I-FER inikeza ulwazi ngolungelo lomntwana lokuba nokufikelela kumgangatho wabazali babo bobabini kunye nokubonelela ngamalungiselelo amaxwebhu aphantsi, ukunciphisa iindleko ze-DNA, iinkonzo zengcaciso yeehalayali, kunye neenzuzo ezongezelelweyo kumalungu omntu ngamnye kunye nosapho.
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