Enye yemibuzo yokuqala abantu abahlala bayibuza amawele, "Ngubani ozelwe kuqala?" Ukuba unamawele, unokuzibuza ukuba njani okanye ukuba umyalelo wabo wokuzalwa ubachaphazela njani.
Ukuqonda Umyalelo Wokuzalwa
Kuye kubekho inomdla omkhulu ekufundeni ukuzalwa kolawulo kunye nefuthe layo kuluntu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyo yonke imbali, kuye kwaba nezihlandlo xa ukubeka ukubeka umntwana kwintsapho kwakubaluleke kakhulu.
Ubuzibulo bamazibulo babethetha ithuba lokuzuza inzuzo yentsapho, kunye nezikumkani zonke, kunye nomthwalo wokuxanduva lwamalungu entsapho.
Iingcali zenzululwazi zenzile uphando oluthile olunomdla ukuhlolisisa indima yolawulo lokuzalwa ekuphuhliseni ubuntu. Ezinye izifundo ziye zachaza ukuba abantwana bokuqala banokuzithemba ngakumbi kunye nee-IQ eziphezulu, ngelixa iidlwengulo zihlala zikhululekile kwaye zingenakuziphendulela. Nangona kunjalo, uphando olusandul 'ukugqithisileyo luye lwagqiba ukuba umyalelo wokuzalwa awunawo umphumo ongapheliyo kumntu, nangona kubonakala ngathi uphumelele kwi-intelligence, kwaye elinye iphepha likhalazela ukuqhubeka komyalelo wokuzalwa njengengqungquthela ye-zombie.
Iimpawu zeeNkqubo zokuLawula iAllian
Isazi sengqondo sengqondo u-Alfred Adler, owayephila ngexesha likaSigmund Freud, uchaza impawu ezicacileyo ukuba uchaze indlela isikhundla somntwana ngayo ngaphakathi kwintsapho.
Itheyibhile engezantsi ichaza ingcaciso elula yeengcamango zakhe eziguqulelwe kwi-website ye-Adler Institute:
| Isikhundla | Imeko Yentsapho | Iimpawu |
| Endala | Ulawulo lomntwana olandelayo. Ngaba kufuneka ufunde ukwabelana. Ukulindela kwabazali kudla ngokuphakamileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo unikwe uxanduva kwaye kulindeleke ukuba umise umzekelo. | Ingaba ngummeli okanye unqongqo. Ilungelo lamandla lilungelo lakhe. Unokuba luncedo xa ukhuthazwa. |
| Isibini | Ngaba unesithuthuthu, ohlala ekhona ngaphambili. | Ngaba ukhuphisana kakhulu, ufuna ukufumana umntwana okhulileyo. Unokuba ngumvukeli okanye uzame ukuphuma wonke umntu. Ukhuphiswano lunokuthi lube lukhuphiswano. |
| Ephakathi | Ngaba "unqabileyo" ngaphakathi. Mhlawumbi uzive uhlonywe ngaphandle kwesikhundla sobaluleka kunye nokubaluleka. | Kulungile-nokuba nomsindo, "thabatha okanye ushiye" isimo sengqondo. Unokuba nobunzima bokufumana indawo okanye ube ngumloli wokungabi nabulungisa. |
| Mncinci | Uninzi oomama nooyise kubantwana abadala. Akuzange ube nededron. | Ufuna ukuba mkhulu kunezinye. Unokuhlala "umntwana." Ukuphangwa kaninzi. |
Umyalelo wokuzalwa kunye namawele
Umyalelo wokuzalwa wamawele awunqunyelwe ukuba, nokuba njalo. Umyalelo wokuzalwa kwezingane ususelwe kwisikhundla sabo esibelethweni, esinokutshintsha ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Kwezinye iimeko, yintoni umntwana ozalelwe kuqala kuxhomekeke kwindlela umama anike ngayo; umyalelo unokutshintshwa ukuba unina unesigqeba seCesarean kunokuba ufikelele ngesini.
Ngoko uchaza njani ukubonakaliswa kweempawu zokuzalwa zobuqu kwiibinzana eziphindwe ngabanye? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho imizekelo emininzi yamacwecwe apho i-twin yokuzalwa iyinkokeli ephezulu kunye nesibini ezalwe ngumlandeli ophantsi.
Oko Iingcali Zikushoyo
Ngelishwa, akukho uphando oluthe ngqo olukhoyo kulo mbandela. Nangona kunjalo, iingcali ezininzi zokuzalwa zivuma ukuba amawele athambekele ekuzilungiseni ngokwabo indawo yabo yonke intsapho. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba banomntakwabo omdala, bobabini baya kubonisa iimpawu zesibini ezelwe. Ukuba ngaba ngowona mdala, baya kuthatha ezinye iimpawu zokuzalwa. Iingcali zengqondo zivuma ukuba amawele atshintshana ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwimpilo yabo, kwaye ngaloo ndlela ingase ibe yinto ekhoyo phakathi kwamacandelo okuzalwa.
Ngaphandle kweempawu zobuntu, impembelelo yokuzalwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokuphindaphindiweyo yinto edlalwa yinto engokoqobo, ngakumbi ekukhanyeni kwezifundo zakutshanje.
Abazali beeninzi, kunye noluntu, basebenzise izilingo zokuziphatha ngokusekelwe kwimimiselo yokuzalwa yemveli; ekuphenduleni, abantwana ngabanye baziphathe ngokuzaliseka kwezilindele.
Isiprofeto Sokuzizalisa
Umzekelo, unina unokuthi, "Oo, i-Twin A yazalwa kuqala. Ngayo yonke into uqala ukuyenza yonke into. Wayengowokuqala ukukhwela, kwaye uya kuba ngowokuqala ukuhamba!" Ulindele ukuba iwele lakhe intombi lihambe phambi koodadewabo kwaye lichitha ixesha elide lokuqeqesha nokukhuthaza le ntombi kule ngakhono. Ekuphenduleni kwisiprofeto sakhe esizalisekisa, i-Twin A iyahamba kuqala.
Njengoko amawele ekhula, abazali babo balindele ukuba "izibulo" zabo zikhangele udade "omncinci" wakhe, ukuseka i-Twin A enendima ebalulekileyo kulwalamano, nokugxininisa impawu zakhe zobuntu ekubunjeni komntwana omdala.
Iseluleko sabazali abaninzi
Abazali beziphindaphinda banomthwalo obalulekileyo wokukhuthaza abantwana babo ngabanye ngaphandle komyalelo wokuzalwa. Ukufezekisa oku, banokukwenza oku kulandelayo:
- Yenza isicwangciso esilungeleleneyo, esingathathi hlangothi esilindele ukuba umntwana ngamnye azalise ubuntu bakhe
- Gwema ukulandelwa komyalelo wokuzalwa
- Ukunciphisa ukubaluleka komyalelo wokuzalwa; ukuba kuyimfuneko, khetha ukungafumani umyalelo wokuzalwa ka-multiples
- Ukuphazamisa abanye, kubandakanywa intsapho eyongeziweyo, ootitshala kunye nabantu abangaziwayo, ngokugqithiseleyo ukubaluleka komyalelo wokuzalwa
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> Stein HT. I-Adlerian Inkcazo yoBuhlobo bokuzalwa.