UNxibelelwano luyintloko yokwenza impumelelo
Iintsapho ezininzi zikhetha ukugcina ukunakekelwa kwabantwana ngaphakathi kwintsapho eyongezelelweyo ukukunceda ngeendleko kunye nokunika ithuba lokuqinisa ubudlelwane. Kodwa ngaba ilungiselelo elungileyo? Impendulo emfutshane kukuba "kuxhomekeke," kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo unxibelelwano lubalulekileyo ekuqinisekiseni ukuba ilungiselelo lisebenza kakuhle kwaye lifanelekileyo. Nazi izicwangciso zethu ezingcono.
1. Beka ulindelwe ukususela ngosuku olulodwa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngumkhulu, kwaye akakwazi ukulinda ukuba ube neyodwa kunye nomntwana wakho.
Kodwa ulindele ntoni kwilungiselelo? Oku kufuneka kucaciswe ngaphambi kokuba ilungiselelo liqalise. Ngaba ulindelwe ukuba ugogo unika indawo ekhuselekileyo okanye ekhuselekileyo okanye ngaba ufuna ukuba umntwana wakho agcinwe kwisimo esiqinileyo? Ngaba unokutya okuthethileyo "okuyiyo" kunye nabanye "abangenaye?" Ngubani obonelela ukutya kunye ne-diapers? Kubantwana abancinci, kuthekani malunga nefomula okanye izinto zokutya abantwana? Ngaba kukho izinto zokukhusela ezifanele zifakwe? Ngubani ozithengayo aze azifake? Ezi zihloko mazizinqunywe ngaphambi kokuba iinkonzo zonyango ziqale.
2. Indlu yinkonzo yokunakekela abantwana eyenzeka kuyo?
Ezinye izalamane zicela ukugcina abantwana ekhaya; abanye bathanda ukubukela umntwana kwindawo yokuhlala yomntwana. Kukho ubuqili kunye noqhawulo kwimeko nganye, kwaye kuxhomekeke kwinto esebenza kakuhle kumnakekeli. Abanye abanomdla bafuna ukugcina umntwana - ngakumbi umncinci - ekhaya labo ukuze baqhubeke behlangabezana neemfuno zabo baze bakhululekile kwiindawo zabo.
Abanye bakhetha ukubukela umntwana kwikhaya lomntwana ngenxa yokuba iingubo kunye neemathoyizi. (Ngaphezu koko, igcina ikhaya labo lingabi "njengabantwana.") Naluphi na ukunakekelwa kwenzeka, qi
Xoxa ngentlawulo kunye neeyure zokunyamekela.
Ukuba nesalamane ugcine umntwana wakho engathethi ukuba ufanele ukhululeke ukuhamba uthathe ixesha elide ngaphambi kokumthatha okanye "iffy" malunga nokuba yiziphi iintsuku zokumzisa okanye kungenjalo.
Emva kwakho konke, enoba ngumalumekazi uLouise, uCousin Pat okanye umama wakho, khumbula ukubonelela ilungu lakho lentsapho ngesisa esifanayo esiya kuhanjiswa kunoma yimuphi umncedisi. Iiyure zokunyamekela mazibekwe ngaphambili. Ungalibali nokuba ubani ufuna ikhefu emva komhla wokunyamekela umntwana. Yaye, qiniseka ukuxubusha intlawulo. Amanye amalungu omndeni athola inkokhelo njengokunakekelwa kwekhaya. Amanye amalungu angabonelela ngeenkonzo ezixabisekileyo, kodwa umzali kufuneka ahlale enoxanduva lokuthenga zonke izinto zokunakekela kunye nokutya. Kufuneka ube neprogram yokugcinwa kwimeko xa kwenzeka ilungu lakho losapho ligula okanye umntwana wakho ugula kwaye akufanele abe ngabanye.
4. Hlalisa uluhlu "lwenu" kwaye "musa" ngaphambili.
Ukuba awufuni ukuba umntwana wakho aye epakini aze ahlasele emanzini, qi niqiniseke ukuba uchaza ukuba kumkhathaleli wakho. Ukuba awufuni ukuba ubukele ngaphezu kweyodwa i-movie ngosuku, oku kufuneka kuchongwe kwakhona. Ukuba umntwana wakho wamazinyo ubonise ukuba iJusi kufuneka igwenywe, xelele isihlobo sakho ukuba umntwana wakho kufuneka abe namanzi okanye ubisi kuphela. Unokukhetha i-1 pesenti yobisi kuphela? Makube nolwazi kumnakekeli. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ngelixa unokuba neenketho ezikhethiweyo kunye nemithetho, izalamane zakho kungenzeka ukuba azifumananga.
Yaye, lungele ulungelelanise. Ukuba isihlobo sinyamekela abanye abantwana ngokunjalo, akunakulungele ukulindela ukuba uya kukwazi ukuhambisana nazo zonke iintlobo ezahlukeneyo, ngokukodwa ngexesha lokutya.
5. Yenza imiphumo eyamkelekileyo yoluleko.
Uzala kunye nomzukulu-nkulu uza kwenza njani uqeqesho ? Ingaba uxhasa ixesha lokubakho, ukususwa kwezinto ezikhuthazayo okanye amathoyizi, okanye ukuphanga ngezihlandlo? Isibalulekileyo asiyikuphikisana nokuqeqesha, kodwa ukuseka indlela enokuthi iqinisekiswe nantoni na eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho. Nangona kubonakala kungadingekile ngenxa yolwalamano olusondeleyo, kubalulekile ukuba onke amalungu entsapho aqonde, akhululekile, kwaye yamkele indlela yokuphatha umphumo kumntwana.
6. Ukuthetha ngokuphathelele umntwana wakho kwisihlobo sakho.
Ingaba umntwana wakho ulele kuphela kwicala lakhe lesobunxele okanye uhlala efuna ingubo yakhe ye Scooby Doo xa elala ? Ingaba intombi yakho ifisa ukubeka izicathulo zakhe ngaphandle kwenkxaso okanye uvumele unyana wakho abeke ibhotela kweso sinkwa? Imikhuba kunye nezithethe zibaluleke kakhulu kumntwana, kwaye makumkele unonophelo lwentsapho yakho ukuba azi ezinye ezininzi ezikhethwa kuzo ukunceda ukuqinisekisa ukuphumelela kunye noqhagamshelwano.
Ufuna umntwana wakho azive ekhululekile ngendawo yokukhathalela, kwaye ufuna ukusabalalisa nayiphi na imeko ukuba ibe yingxaki nje kuba umkhulu akayiqondi into eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho okanye ayifunayo. Yabelana ngemisebenzi ozithandayo kunye nemizila kunye nokulala, ixesha lokulala , kunye nokutya okukhethwa kukho.
7. Yenza ukuba izalamane zibe nje xa zingekho kwindawo yokunyamekela abantwana.
Musa ukuzisebenzisa ngentsapho yakho yothando ngokulindela ukuba ubukele umntwana wakho kwimisebenzi yosapho nakwezinye iziganeko. Mkhulu umkhulu ukuba abuyele ekubeni ngumkhulu, kungekhona "umnakekeli" ngexesha leeholide kunye nezinye iindibano ezikhethekileyo. Mhlawumbi awufuni "ugogo umgcini" ukuba anikezele umntwana wakho, kodwa ukuba uyambona ekubhinqeni kwelinye iqela, ungayigcina. Emva koko, ngaphandle kokuba kukho isizathu sempilo sokuba kutheni singayi kunikwa, amalungu osapho axabisa ulwalamano lwabo olukhethekileyo njengentsapho kwaye kungekhona njengomncedisi.
8. Musa ukuvumela ukungqubuzana komntu okanye kwintsapho kutyumle ubuhlobo bomnakekeli.
Wena njengomzali unokufuneka unwebe umgudu othethekileyo ukuqinisekisa ukuba "intsapho" ayifiki phakathi kwento enye enye ilungiselelo lokunakekela abantwana. Ngamanye amazwi, zama kwaye ugweme okanye unciphise intshutshiso yentsapho kunye nayiphi na imeko engabangela uxinzelelo phakathi kwakho, umntwana wakho kunye nesihlobo esinikela ngononophelo.
Eli lungiselelo ludinga ukunyuswa okhethekileyo, kwaye awufuni ukuba intsapho idlale ngoMgqibelo ukwenzela ukuba umatshini ongamkeliyo abekwe ngaphandle xa ufuna uncedo ngoMsombuluko kusasa. Ingcinga enhle ukuba nencoko kunye nesisombululo sakho sokugcina ulwalamano, ukhululekile, usapho kunye nendlela ozibophezele ngayo ukwenza lo lungiselelo lusebenza. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba ilungiselelo lingabonakali lisebenza, akufanele uloyike ukuwuphelisa, kodwa khumbula ukuba intsapho isapho kodwa nangona amalungu engabakhonzi njengomnakekeli wakho. Nangona ukunyaniseka ngumgaqo-nkqubo obhetele, kufuneka uguqele ukuba uziva ulwalamano oluhlukileyo kunokube ngcono nakweenxa zonke kwaye kukuvumela ukuba ugcine ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nosapho ngaphandle kokulahla ukunakekelwa komntwana kumxube.
9. Qiniseka ukuba utshele yakho intsapho!
Musa ukunyamekela intsapho, kwaye qiniseka ukubulela isihlobo sakho esinikezela ngononophelo lwezingane rhoqo. Khumbula ukuba "ukuba usapho" akusisizathu sokunyamekela umntwana wakho, kwaye uxabisa ubudlelwane obukhethekileyo kunye nokunyamekela. Cinga ngezinto onokubonga ngazo - kwaye akudingeki ukuba uhlawule imali eninzi. Mhlawumbi wena nomntwana wakho unokuncedisa ukhula kumyezo okanye iintyatyambo zonyaka.
Kuthekani ngokuqeshisa i-movie ethandekayo okanye ukulungisa inja?
10. Hlaziya kwakhona ilungiselelo kunye nophuhliso lomntwana wakho ngezinye izihlandlo.
Hlala phantsi ngezinye izihlandlo kwaye uxoxe nomntwana wakho kunye nokukhula kunye nophuhliso lwakhe. Thetha malunga nayiphi na inkxalabo kunye neenjongo. Cwangcani kunye kunye nayiphi na imfuno ezayo okanye imisebenzi ekhethekileyo. Khumbula, ukunyamekela ngenyameko kunokubonelela ngesondlo sokunakekela abantwana ngokuzaliswa ngothando kunye nokunakekelwa.