Iindlela ezi-5 zokujongana ne-Nest Syndrome engenanto

Xa ubomi bakho buninzi buchazwe njengomzali-ubuncinci-kunzima ukulungelelanisa ubomi ngaphandle kwabantwana ekhaya . Abazali abanolwazi olunzulu lwenguqu oluthile olunokuthiwa "njenge-nest syndrome".

I-syestrome engenasiphelo i-nest ibhekisela kwimvakalelo yokudabuka nokulahlekelwa ngabazali abathile xa umntwana wokugqibela ephuma ekhaya. Nangona akusiyo i-clinical diagnosis diagnostic, ingxaki isengokoqobo.

Abazali abanamava angenanto ye-nest syndrome abananto ebunzulu ebomini babo kwaye bavame ukuziva belahlekile. Basenokuzabalazela ukuvumela abantwana babo abadala ukuba babe nokuzimela njengoko kunzima ukuba bayeke.

Ezinye iibinibini zifumana amanqanaba aphakamileyo axabano xa omnye okanye bobabini abalingani banesidumbu esingenalutho. Oku kunokuqulunqa iimvakalelo zodwa kunye noxinzelelo.

Ngethamsanqa, kukho ezinye izinto ongayenza ukulungisa i-nest syndrome engenanto. Ukuba unzima ukujongana nabantwana bakho ukuphuma ekhaya, ezi zicwangciso ezinhlanu zingakunceda ukuba ujamelane nazo.

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Ukuchonga Imisebenzi Yakho

Ubekho izinto ezininzi ngokusebenzisa intombi yakho okanye unyana wakho, umhlobo, umqeshwa, mhlawumbi unina okanye umalume, umzala-kodwa kwabaninzi, akukho nto ibaluleke njengendima yomama okanye uyise.

Qiniseka ukuba unako ukuqhuba loo ilebula ngokuziqhenya; kusenokungabikho phambili ngaphambili.

Okwangoku, qwalasela iindima ezintsha ofuna ukuzizalisa ngeli xesha le nest of blank life. Ngaba ufuna ukuvolontiya? Ummelwane onobubele? Ubandakanye ilungu lomphakathi?

Ngoku ukuba uninzi ixesha kwizandla zakho, unamathuba okuhlola ezinye izinto ezinokukunika intsingiselo nenjongo. Ukucacisa iimbopheleleko ongazifuna ukuzalisa ngoku ukuba unesitenki esingenanto unokuqinisekisa ukuba uzive uncedo.

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Phinda uxhume kwakhona kunye nomlingani wakho

Unokuba ugxininise ngokupheleleyo ukuba ubomi bakho buya kutshintsha njani emva kokuba umntwana wakho ashiye, kwaye engqondweni yakho, oko kungenakuphucula. Khumbula loo minyaka ngaphambi kokuba ube nezingane, nangona kunjalo, xa kwakubini nje? Ixesha lokuba wenze ezinye iinkumbulo zibe zimbini.

Thatha ixesha lokuhamba ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngoba ngubani oza kuhlala nezingane. Cwangcisa ubusuku bobusuku ngaphandle kokucinga malunga nomntwana obusana kunye nokupheka nantoni na ukutya okufunayo ngaphandle kokuqwalasela ukuba umntu odlayo uya kukhononda ngaye.

Ukuba uninzi lwemisebenzi yakho ejolise ekuqhubeni kwimidlalo yezemidlalo kunye nemidlalo yesikolo, kungathatha umzamo ongakumbi ukufumanisa ezinye izinto onokuzenza kunye. Kungathatha ucwangciso olongezelelweyo ukufumana imisebenzi onokuyonwabela kunye.

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Phinda uxhume kwakhona kunye nawe

Ngaba unayo nayiphi na into yokuzonwabisa oye wancipha ngokukhawuleza njengoko umzali ethatha ubomi bakho? Isilwanyana esingenanto sithetha ukuba unendawo kunye nexesha lokubuyela kumgca wecala lakho, nokuba ngaba upenda, ukudala umculo okanye ukupheka.

Ngayo yonke into eyenziwa ngayo abantwana bakho, ngoku kukho indawo enkulu yokugcina izinto ozifunayo ukuze uzicwilise kwimisebenzi oyithandayo. Cinga ngendlela ofuna ukuyisebenzisa ngayo ixesha lakho.

Mhlawumbi ungathanda ukuthabatha umdlalo owenzela eceleni xa waba ngumzali okanye mhlawumbi kukho into ohlala ufuna ukuzama kodwa awuzange ube nexesha.

Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungathanda ukwenzani, khetha ikhefu kwaye uzame. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba akunjalo kuwe, zama enye into. Kulixesha elihle lokuhlola iimfuno zakho.

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Fumana iingxaki ezintsha

Nciphisa umqondo wokulahleka onokuvakalelwa ngayo ngomntwana wakho okhulayo ngokufumana umngeni omtsha okanye wengcali ekujongeni nayo.

Enoba uphuphe ukuqhuba umzila wendlela okanye uhlale ufuna ukuphinda uhlaziye kwigumbi lakho ekhaya, ngoku kube yithuba elihle lokungena kuyo.

Unokuba usenokuthatha into ephakamileyo, njengokuba uzinikela ngokuzithandela kwabantwana, okukunokukunceda ukuba ufumane indawo ekujoliswe kuyo ekujoliseni umzali wakho.

Nangona kunjalo, ungenzi nasiphi na isinqumo sokuguqula ubomi kwiinyanga ezintandathu zokuqala okanye emva kokuba umntwana ehamba. Musa ukuthengisa indlu yakho okanye ukushiya umsebenzi wakho ngaphandle kokuba ubenokuyilungiselela ngaphambili.

I-coaster emotionally associated with a nest syndrome engenanto inokuthi igwebe isigwebo sakho. Futhi wenze utshintsho olukhulu ngelixa uziva uvakalelwa kukuvakalelwa kukukhusela ukuba wenze isinqumo sakho esihle.

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Melana neNqweno yokuThengisisa-kakhulu

Ukuba ubeka ingqalelo ngokugqithiseleyo iakhawunti yabantwana bee-social media, biza njalo kusasa uze uchithe ixesha lakho ukukhathazeka ngendlela umntwana wakho akwenza ngayo ekholejini okanye endaweni yakhe entsha, awuyi kukwazi ukuhamba kunye nobomi bakho.

Ukujamelana ne-nest syndrome engenanto kuthetha ukuqala inkqubo yokuvumela ukuba ukhule kwaye abe ngumntu omdala ozimele. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka uhlolisise ngezinye iinkonzo zobomi bakho bomntwana. Kodwa, unike umntwana wakho ubumfihlo - kunye neendawo zokwenza iimpazamo ezimbalwa.

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Kungakhathaliseki ukuba wenzeni ukutshintsha ingqalelo yakho kwisibilini sakho esingenanto, asiyi kutshintsha iimvakalelo zokuqala zentlungu. Kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuvakalelwa kukuba ulahlekelwe kunye nokuzama ukuphazamisa okanye ukuphazamisa iimvakalelo zakho akuyi kulungisa izinto.

Kufuneka udabuke into olahlekileyo. Esinye isigaba sobomi bakho siphelile. Abantwana bakho abasayi kuhlala ekhaya kwaye ixesha liye ladlula ngokukhawuleza kunokuba usicinga.

Kulungile ukuvakalelwa. Nangona kunjalo, awufuni ukubambelela kwindawo yokudabuka.

Ukuza ngokuvumelana nesi sigaba esitsha ebomini bakho kunokuba nzima. Kodwa abaninzi abazali bafumana ukukwazi ukulungelelanisa iindima zabo ezintsha njengabazali abatsha abadala kwaye bahlakulela indlela entsha yesiqhelo.

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba i-nest syndrome engenanto iyanda ngakumbi, endaweni engcono, okanye ingayisombululi kwisithuba seenyanga ezimbalwa, khuluma nengcali yezempilo yengqondo. Iimpawu zakho ziyakhula ngakumbi kwaye iimvakalelo zakho zodwa okanye ukungabi nalutho zingadinga unyango.

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