Ubumfihlo kunye neTrust Yiya kwi-Hand-in-Hand
Xa abantwana babo befikelela kwiminyaka elishumi elivisayo, abazali abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba kutheni abantwana babo bakhawuleza badinga ubumfihlo. Funda ulwalamano phakathi kobucala kunye nokuthembela, kutheni abazali bamele bahloniphe imfihlo yabantwana babo kwaye xa kufanelekile ukuba abazali baxhomeke.
Ikhonkco phakathi koBucala kunye neTrust
Imiba yobumfihlo ibangelwa yimicimbi yokwethemba. Abafana bethu bafuna ukuthenjwa ukwenza izinto ezininzi nangaphezulu.
Bafuna ukucingelwa njengabantu abaqolileyo kunye abanokukwazi ukuphatha ukuzimela. Kuyamangalisa xa sinokunika abantwana bethu ithuba kunye nobumfihlo. Ixesha elilodwa, idayari kunye neengxoxo kunye nabahlobo yimizekelo yemimandla yabucala esinokuyenza intsha yethu.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana banokuba neengxoxo zabo ngasese kunye nabantakwabo abafuna ukuhlonishwa nabo. Oonyana banokuziva bekhululekile ukuzithemba ngoyise malunga nemiba ethile, ngelixa iintombi ziziva zikhululekile ukuzithemba ngoomama. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubudlelwane bokuthandana okanye iinguqu zemizimba abajongene nazo ngeli xesha ziyihloko.
Ezinye Izizathu Iintswelo Zifuna Ubumfihlo
Abafana abazami nje ukuzimelela ebusheni babo, banokunyamezela utshintsho olwenziwe ngokwangasese ngexesha eliyimfuneko. Intombi ehlala iziva ikhululekile ukutshintsha iimpahla phambi komama ingasayi kufuna ukuphazamisa phambi kwayo.
Unako ukuvalela umnyango wakhe wokulala okanye umnyango wokuhlambela ukuze uqinisekise ukuba umnqweno wakhe wobucala uyahlonishwa.
Izinzuzo Zokunika Abaselula Ubumfihlo
Xa sinika umntwana wethu ubumfihlo bodwa, bayazimelela ngakumbi kwaye bakhe ukuzithemba . Ukulinganisela phakathi kokwazi oko umntwana wakho akwenzayo, uthemba ukuba umntwana wakho ukuba abe nemiba yecala kwaye ukwazi ukuba ungenelela yintoni umgca ococekileyo owenziwa ngabazali imihla ngemihla.
Yithembele izilwanyana zakho.
Ixesha lokuza kuBucala boLutsha
Ngamanye amaxesha umzali unokufuna ukugqiba isigqibo sokuthi ixesha liyakuncipha. Abazali akufanele bathathe le nyathelo ukuze bafumane isizathu sokuba umntwana usemlwaneni nomnye umntu okanye esinye isizathu esichengileyo. Esikhundleni salokho, kufuneka bahlale bexhala xa umntwana osemtsha ebonisa iimpawu zokudandatheka okanye ukuzilimaza okanye omnye umntu.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ulele ngexesha lonke, ulahlekelwe ngumdla kwizinto zokuzilibazisa awayezisebenzisayo, uye waxoshwa, wayeka ukuxhatshaza, okanye ubonisa ezinye iimpawu ezibomvu, ezifana nokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okanye ukusetyenziswa kotywala , kuya kuba yithuba lokunyuka. Ukukhangela akufanele kube yinto yokuqala ekuqhubekeni ngumzali phantsi kwezi meko, nangona kunjalo.
Okokuqala, zama ukuthetha nomntwana wakho malunga nokutshintsha kwindlela yakhe yokuziphatha. Buza ukuba kutheni engasayi kudlala kwiqela lebhola lebhokisi okanye ukuxhoma kunye nomhlobo wakhe obalaseleyo ukususela kwi-kindergarten. Emva koko, phulaphula oko umntwana wakho akutshoyo. Ukuba yonke into ongayifumana ngayo impendulo i-shrug okanye "andiyazi," cinga ukuba umntwana wakho abone umgqirha. Ukuba umntwana utsho ngokucacileyo ukuba ufuna ukuzilimaza yena okanye omnye umntu, ukhohlwe ukunyuka kwaye ufumane uncedo lwezokwelapha ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuqhawula phezulu
Ukuhlonela ubumfihlo bentombazana kubalulekile ukuba uyenze ukuba ufuna umntwana wakho akholelwe ukuba uyamthemba okanye ukuba unokukwazi ukuzimela.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho ubonisa iimpawu ezinkulu zokwenza izinto, kuyimfuneko ukuba uhlasele ubumfihlo bakhe ukuze umncede uncedo lwakhe ngokukhawuleza.