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Uqhagamshelwano olukhawulezayo: Ukuthandana kwentsha ... Nini intsha kufuneka iqale ukutshata?
Ukwahlukana kobudlelwane bokuthandana ngenye yeemeko ezinomdla kakhulu ezinokuthi zenzeke ebomini bomntwana. Ukudideka kunokuba nzima. Iintloni zokuba umntu aphule kunye nawe unqwenela ukuzithemba . Kwaye nokuba ngaba nguwe owenza ukuphuka, kunzima ukuphendula yonke imibuzo yontanga yakho kwaye uziva ulungile malunga nawe.
Itshintsha utshintsho lwenkwenkwezi yakho yemihla ngemihla, inike umntu omnye ongaphantsi ukuba uthethe kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ubeka intente ebomini babo. Yingakho bathi, ukuphuka kunzima ukwenza. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso eziza kukunceda uncede wakho umntwana ukuba aphule:
Nika ixesha lakho lentsha kunye nesithuba xa ugcina iliso elindileyo. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana wakho abe nentlungu ngexesha. Kodwa ixesha elide okanye ukuxinezeleka okupheleleyo yinto umzali kuya kufuneka ukuba akhangele kwaye ahlangabezane nokuzisa uncedo oluthile lootitshala .
Sebenzisa izakhono zakho zokuphulaphula. Xa umntwana wakho efuna ukuthetha , vula oko akutsho ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Akunakufuna ukuva indlela yakho yokuqala yokuphuka ihamba ngayo ngeli xesha. Ukuba kukho ingqungquthela kwingxoxo, cela. Kodwa gcina eli xesha malunga nentsha yakho.
Isibonelo esifanelekileyo siphumeze ukuziphatha. Uya kufuneka ube ngumcebisi weentlobo kwaye ungabhidli umfana / intombazana yakho ibingumntwana. Ungaphakamisi ukuziphatha okungalunganga, kwintlekisa ukukhanya kwengqondo yengane yakho.
Khangela iindlela zokwenza intembelo yakho. Ukumncedisa imisebenzi kunye neqela lakhe lentlalo kunye nokufumana umdlalo uya kunceda-ekugqibeleni. Musa ukubetha intombazana yakho malunga nokugqithisa, ukuvumela ukuba enze njalo ngexesha.
Kungekudala okanye wakho umntwana uya kufuna ukuphinda aphinde aphinde aphinde aphinde. Ezi ntshukumo kunye nokuhla kwezinto zobomi bethu bentsha kubangela uxinzelelo kwizinto zethu kwaye sinokuvakalelwa ukubeka ukuyeka ngokungavumi ukuba bethu abatsha okanye bazama ukulawula ubudlelwane babo.
Musa ukwenza oko. Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba enze ukhetho lwakhe aze abe khona xa ekufunayo. Yilokho umzali osemtsha ekuthethwa ngaye.
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