Ingaba bekuyintando yakho yokuqala yokwenene okanye isantya sehlobo, ukuphela kobudlelwane kunokuba nzima kumntwana osemva nje ukuba afunde indlela yokujongana nentlungu. Ngomzuzu omnye, bahamba bephakame phezulu kumaphiko othando lwe-puppy, kwaye into elandelayo bayaphonsa elwandle lweentlungu.
Ngethamsanqa, unokusebenzisa ukuhlukana njengethuba lokufundisa wakho umntwana ukuba ayenze njani ukujamelana nentlungu, ukugatywa, ukudideka, kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezihlala zihamba kunye nokuphela kobudlelwane.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ufuna ukuphepha izinto ezinokukwenza ukuba umntwana wakho azive ngakumbi.
1. Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zakho zentsha
Melana nomnqweno wokunciphisa imizwa yengane yakho; Ngenxa yokuba ubungacingi ukuba ubuhlobo buya kuhlala ngonaphakade akuthethi ukuba umntwana wakho wayengenayo ivakalelo ngokubalulekileyo malunga nolunye uqobo lwaso. Nangona kungenakwenzeka ukuba babeza kuphila ngokuvuyisayo emva koko, umntwana wakho mhlawumbi wayecinga ukuba baya.
Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zakho zentsana ngokuthi, "Ndiyazi ukuba oku kunzima," okanye "Ndiyazi ukuba buhlungu xa ubuhlobo buphela. Gwema ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "oku akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu," okanye "ubudlelwane besikolo esiphakamileyo abaqhelekanga ukusebenza nangoko."
Unokucinga ukuba xa unendodana, i-dramatics iya kuba yinto encinci-akuyiyo yonke imeko. Insizwa inokutshatyalaliswa ngokuhlukana njengowesifazane (okanye ngakumbi, kuxhomekeke kubuntu bentombazana.
Khumbula, uthando lokuqala luhlukile kunezinye iintlobo-umntwana wakho ocinga ukuba wayeyena mntu oyedwa kuphela.
Esikhundleni sokucinga ukuba ubulili budlala indima ekubuyiseleni kwintliziyo ephukileyo, lindele ukuba umntwana wakho uza kukudinga ngaphezu kwexesha eliqhelekileyo kule nkqubela enzima kwaye uzenze ufumaneke xa kunokwenzeka.
2. Ncedisa isinqumo seNtsapho yakho
Ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho othe wagqiba ekubeni aqale ukuhlukana akuthethi ukuba abayi kuthukuthela ngako, kwaye loo ntlungu iya kuphakamisa kuphela ukuba ayingeyena oya kukhetha ukuphelisa ulwalamano.
Naluphi na indlela ukuhlukana kwenzeka, yima emva komntwana wakho.
Musa ukuzithetha ngaphandle kokuhlukana xa kwenzeka ukuba uthanda ezinye zazo ezibalulekileyo. Yaye ungacingi ukuba benze ukhetho olungalunganga. Kukho iimpazamo omele uzivumele umntwana wakho akwenze , ngoko nokuba ucinga ukuba yinto engalunganga ukuphelisa ulwalamano, makhe kube ngumntwana wakho.
3. Fumana uMgangatho ophakathi
Impendulo yakho yokuqala ingaba ngumtshizi weengxelo ezityhilayo, ezifana "unokukwenza ngcono" okanye "yena akakulunganga nakanjani." Mhlawumbi uya kubaxelela ukuba unomncinci kakhulu ukuba abe njalo zibandakanyeke okanye okanye, ulwalamano olugqithiseleyo, "kukho intlanzi eninzi yolwandle."
Njengomntu okhulile, unombono wokuba ubomi buqhubeka emva kokuba ulwalamano luphela, kodwa umntwana wakho akanalo inzuzo yaloo nto. Kunoko, khuthaza ithemba ngekamva ukwenzela ukuba bayazi ukuba abayi kuvakalelwa ngale ndlela ngonaphakade, kodwa ngelo xesha, musa ukubakhuthaza ukuba babaleke iimvakalelo zabo ezingenakukhathazeka. Inkqubo yosizi yinto eya kubanceda baphilise.
4. Yiba ngumphulaphuli oMnandi
Kungcono kunokuba uthethe nantoni na nto uvumela umntwana wakho ukuba athethe ngaphandle kokuphambana nemibono yakho. Bayafuna ixesha lokuba baphuphe ukukhungatheka kwabo, ukudideka, kunye neemvakalelo ngaphandle kokuba nabani na owenza iingcamango zabo.
Bakhuthaze ukuba bavulele kuwe, kodwa bayazi ukuba kuyinto evamile ukuba umfana engathandi ukuthetha nabazali bakhe ngobomi bothando. Ngako oko, khuthaza ukuba bameme abangani kunye kwaye bathethe nabani na oziva bakhululekile ukwabelana ngengcamango.
5. Thetha NgeTeknoloji
Ngelixesha lemidlalo yoluntu, intsha iyazama ukuhlaziya ubuhlobo bayo kunye nokwabelana ngolwazi malunga nobomi babo. Ncokola nentombazana yakho ngokuthatha ixesha lokukhangela iteknoloji kwiintsuku (okanye mhlawumbi iiveki) emva kokuhlukana, ngoko abathumeli naziphi na izibuyekezo ezizozisola ngazo .
Ngokukodwa, ubaxwayise ngokugqithisa okanye ukuthumela iinkcukacha zangasese zokuhlukana okanye nantoni na eyabelana ngayo ngexesha lolwalamano.
Umntwana osemncinci udla ukukhula ukuze aqonde indlela yokuphatha ngokukhawuleza ukuxabana, ngoko baya kukufuna ukuba ubakhokele ekubeni wenze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo malunga noluntu malunga nolwalamano (kunye nokupheliswa kwayo).
6. Ukubonelela ngokuphazamiseka Okuncinane
Akukho nto efana nokudala ukuphazamiseka xa ungafuni ukuba umntwana wakho acinge ngezinto ezithintekayo. Bakhupha ngaphandle kwidolophu edolophini. Uyakubona ibhayisikobho, ufumane i-mani-pedi, wenze enye yokuthenga, okanye uye kumdlalo we-baseball.
Cinga ngezinto ezithandayo izinto ezithandwa nguwe, zize zilungele zonke iintsuku. Akukona nje kuphela ukuba intsha ingabikho kwimidiya yoluntu, kodwa iyakhumbuza umntwana ukuba ubomi buhle kakhulu, nangona kungekho nkwenkwe okanye intombi.
7. Buyela kwixesha eliqhelekileyo
Emva kokuba umntwana wakho sele eseneentsuku ezimbalwa ukuzenzela, khuthaza ukuba babuyele kwimigangatho yemihla ngemihla. Imihla yokuzonwabisa iyayiphazamisa, kodwa inokuyenza imisebenzi yasekhaya , imisebenzi , ukuphuma kwintsapho kunye nemidlalo.
Ungadinga ukwenza utshintsho oluthile olunjenge-comedy romance kwi-movie yobusuku lungathumela intombazana yakho entliziyweni, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo yinto efanelekileyo yokugcina ubomi buqhelekileyo ngokusemandleni.
8. Yilungiselele i-Roller Coaster
Emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala zeemidlalo, ukukhala kunye nomsindo ovuthayo, izinto kufuneka zizinqabise-kude kube yintsapho yakho intsha. Ingane yakho iya kuba ihamba ngezigaba zokuziva ulungile malunga nokuphela kobudlelwane kwakhona ngokutshabalalisa malunga nokuhlukana. Musa ukumangaliswa xa behamba ezimbalwa kwezi zigaba ngaphambi kokuba amaqondo abo ahambe kakuhle.
9. Khangela Uncedo Xa Kuyimfuneko
Kusenokuba usoloko ube ngumntu ongcono kakhulu wokunceda wakho umntwana ukuba aphumelele ukuhlukana kakubi. Ngamanye amaxesha, kufuneka ufumane umboneleli wezempilo ochaphazelekayo, ngokukodwa ukuba baye bahamba ngeeveki ezimbini okanye babonisa imiqondiso yokuba ukuhlukana kubathintela ngaphezu kokuqhelekileyo.
Ukuba ubona iimpawu zokudakumba, ukutya iingxaki, okanye ukulala kakhulu okanye ukuncinci kakhulu, kusenokuba yithuba lokufikelela kwi-professional. Cela ukuthunyelwa kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo osebenza ngokuthe ngqo kwi-thérapies yesibini kunye nokwenza isigqibo.
10. Gcina Ugxile kwiNtsholongwane Yakho
Ngethuba le nkqubo yonke, khumbula ukugcina into eyodwa engqondweni: akusiyo ukuhlukana kwakho. Ngelixa usenokuba uyamthanda intombi yakho okanye intombi-okanye mhlawumbi umdelele umntu-zama ukugcina iimvakalelo zakho njengokuba kunokwenzeka. Uthando oluntshwankathelo ludaka, kwaye awufuni ukubanjwa kwindawo ekhohlakeleyo xa ezo zimbini zidibanisa indlela.