Izihloko zoSondo zoBuchule ukuxoxa nge-Yourteenteen or Teen
Kubalulekile ukuba uqale ukuthetha ngesondo ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho ahlawule ubusuku . Umxholo weengxoxo zakho zesondo kufuneka uguqulwe kwiminyaka elishumi elineshumi elinesibini. Musa ukulinda uze ucinge ukuba umntwana wakho usebenza ngokwesondo ngaphambi kokukhupha isifundo sesini. Nazi izinto ezintandathu omele udibanise xa uthetha kwishumi elineshumi okanye elishumi malunga nesondo.
1. Xoxa ngeZiseko
Imigangatho efanelekileyo yeminyaka kunye neenkcazo zinokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana uyazi indlela ukukhulelwa kwenzeka kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ngesondo. Nangona unqanda umntwana wakho ukuba angabonakali kwi-intanethi ye-intanethi okanye kwi-media media, uya kuva malunga neontanga zakhe. Awufuni ukuba ulwazi lwakhe lusekelwe kuphela kumahemuhemu okanye imifanekiso engamanyala. Vula kwaye unganyaniseki ngokuvelisa. Emva kokumnika izinto ezisisiseko, cela into ayayiva ngayo kwabanye kunye nayiphi na imibuzo enokuba nayo ngesihloko.
Kufuneka udibanise iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zesini, kuquka u-sex oral, u-sex anal, kunye nobulili obufanayo. Nangona ezi zihloko zingenakuvelela kwixesha elidlulileyo, ziya kuba yinxalenye yengxoxo yesikolo namhlanje. Umntwana wakho kufuneka azi malunga nabo.
2. Iingxelo zeBhunga leNkcukacha yeeNkcukacha
Ngethuba lokukhula, amabini namantombazana kunye namantombazana akhathazeke ngendlela imizimba yabo iqala ukutshintsha ngayo. Abaninzi babo banenkxalabo malunga nokuba utshintsho abafumanayo luqhelekileyo.
Tshela wakho umntwana ukuba ayenze ukulindela ekutshatsheni. Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zokungaqiniseki, ukuhlazeka okanye ukudideka.
Ngaphandle kweenguqu zobushushu, abaninzi abasetyhini bavakalelwa kukuba bancinci kwaye abaninzi abaselula bafumana uxinzelelo lokuba nemisipha emikhulu. Xoxa ngemiba yomzimba kunye nendlela ukungakhuselekanga kunokukhokelela ngayo iingxaki.
Xoxa ngeZiphumo eziMandla zoLuntu
Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi kakuhle iimiphumo ezibangelwa ukulalana ngesondo. Ukukhulelwa okungalindelekanga, izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo, kunye nokuzisola zizinto ezimbalwa ezinokwenzeka. Ukongezelela, qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho uyaqonda ukuba ukuziphatha ngokwesondo kunokuchaphazela njani iimvakalelo zakhe. Xoxa indlela ukulala ngesantya ngaphambi kokuba ulungele ukufumana ingxaki.
Xa umntwana wakho okanye oontanga bakhe banokufikelela kwifowuni, kufuneka uxoxe ngemiphumo yomzwelo kunye nemithetho yokuthunyelwa kwemiyalezo ye-SMS kunye nokuthumela okanye ukufumana imifanekiso yesondo. Oku kubandakanya imifanekiso yabo kunye kunye nokuthumela imifanekiso yabanye abancinci. Imithetho iyahluka kwiindawo ezahlukileyo, ngoko kuya kufuneka wenze umsebenzi wesikolo.
4. Xoxa ngoMvume
Kanye njengokuba umzimba womntwana wakho ungowakhe, kunjalo nemizimba yabanye. Mhlawumbi ufundisa ngaye "ukuthintela okubi" ekubeni wayemncinci. Kodwa abantwana abaneminyaka esikolweni kunye nentsha kufuneka baqonde indlela oku kuqhubela ngayo ubudlelwane bokuthandana kunye nokusebenzisana. Ukuqakraza, ukuthintela, kunye noqhagamshelwano ngokwesondo bonke badinga ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba banike imvume ngokugcwele kwaye banako ukuyeka umsebenzi kumaphi na. Umntwana wakho uya kuba ngamacala omabini aloo mlinganiso, umntu ofuna ukuqinisekisa imvume epheleleyo, kunye nomntu onokukhetha ukunika imvume okanye akunjalo.
Nika umntwana wakho iskripthi esithi, "Yeka, andifuni ukwenza oko," kwaye "Hayi ukuthetha cha." Kwakhona, xubusha oko akumele akwenze xa iqabane lakhe lingamxeleli, kuquka ukuqonda ukuba imvume kwixesha elidlulileyo ayithethi imvume yemisebenzi ezayo.
Nika amandla umntwana wakho ukuba abikele ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo abayibonayo okanye ukuva malunga nento eyenzeka kwabanye. Xoxa ngeziganeko kunye noko kufuneka bayenze xa umntu ehlaselwa. Kufuneka uxoxe ukuba akufanelekanga ukusebenzisa ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo okanye umsebenzi wesondo ngokuhlambalaza okanye ukuxhatshazwa (ukuhlambalaza, ukusebenzisa amagama angqingili njengengcikivo, njl) kunye nendlela yokusabela ngayo xa oontanga benjenjalo.
5. Nika Umntwana Wakho Ngaphezu Kokubodwa Ngomntu
Kunceda abantwana ukuba bave imilayezo malunga nesondo kunye nobulili ukusuka kumntu omnye. Ukuba iqabane lakho, unina okanye umalume okanye omnye umntu omdala othembekileyo uyaziva ekhululekile ukuxoxa ngobudlelwane kunye nentombazana yakho, ingaba yinto efanelekileyo.
Ingane yakho inokuthi ivulekele ukuva ulwazi olungakumbi kumgqirha. Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba adibane noogqirha ngasese ngamanye amaxesha ukuze acele imibuzo okanye athole iimpendulo ngomzimba wakhe ukuba akanakuziva ukhululekile ukukucela. Nika umntwana wakho isikhumbuzo sokuba kulungile ukucela ugqirha nayiphi na imibuzo enokuba nayo.
5. Yenza Ingxoxo eqhubekayo
Tshela umntwana wakho ukuba unokubuza imibuzo okanye idilesi ekukhathazayo nawe naliphi na ixesha. Khupha izihloko ezinxulumene nesondo rhoqo. Xa kukho ibhayisikobho ebandakanya umsebenzi wesondo okanye ibali leendaba kunye nesityholo sokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo, xubusha imiba yesini kunye nentombazana yakho.
Ungesabi ukuchaza uluvo lwakho. Ukuba uyaluxabisa ukuyeka, xelela umntwana wakho ukuba awuvumeli ukuba ulalane ngesondo. Ukwenza uluvo lwakho lwamazwi lunokumnceda azinze zakhe iimpawu kwaye aqinise ukukhetha kwakhe.