Indlela Yokuxoxisana Ngezesondo kunye Nomntwana Wakho kwaye Uphile Ngokuthetha Ngayo
Ukuba awuzange uqale ukuthetha nentombazana yakho ngesondo, okanye nokuba unayo, yinto efanelekileyo ukulungiselela ngengxoxo ingqondo. Ingane yakho iya kufuna ukukwazi kangako ukwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo malunga nezo zesini kwixesha elizayo. Ngenxa yokuba kunokukhathazeka okuncinci ukuthetha ngamantongomane kunye neeblotshi zesenzo socansi, ukwazi ukuba kufuneka uthini kwaye ukuthetha ngaphambi kwexesha kunokunceda njani izinto zibe lula kuwo wonke umntu.
ZoMatshini
Ingane yakho ingasidinga ukwazi izinto ezisiseko, kodwa akayi kuvuma. Ukuba uthetha ngokuchasana phakathi kwamakhwenkwe namantombazana kunye nezitho zabo zokuzala ekubeni umntwana wakho esincinci, unokuba ngumncinane ngaphambi komdlalo. Kubalulekile ukuba baqonde ubuntwaba kunye nendlela elungiselela ngayo umzimba wabo wokuba nabantwana kwikamva. Buza oko bakufundile ngomzimba wabo nangokwesini kwinqanaba lempilo okanye oko bakuzwile kubahlobo. Ukubuza imibuzo evulekile kukuvumela intetho, kungekhona inkulumo yomzali omnye. Kubalulekile ukuba intombazana yakho azi ukuba yintoni na into yokuziphatha ngokwesini kwaye yintoni enye into eyenza umsebenzi wesondo. Sebenzisa iiwebhsayithi okanye iincwadi xa uthetha ngezenzo zabo ngokwabo akunakukhathazeka. Nangona kunjalo unako ukudlulisela umyalezo kakuhle, nje kuphela xa ulwazi lunikezelwa.
Iinkolelo Zakho kunye nemilinganiselo
Ukwabelana ngesondo lukhulu ngaphezu kwesenzo ngokwalo. Uluntu lwethu lunemiyalelo emininzi, imimiselo, kunye neengxaki malunga nokuziphatha ngokwesondo.
Cinga ngendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo ngesondo. Ziziphi iimpawu zokuziphatha ngesondo owaye wakhula nazo? Inkolo yakho ithetha ntoni ngale nto? Ziziphi iinkolelo ofuna ukuzenza kubantwana bakho ngesini? Zininzi zale nkolelo malunga nesondo zigcinwe ngesizathu-ukukhusela intombazana ekukhulelweni okungafunekiyo, ukulibazisa ukwenza umsebenzi wesondo kuze kube yilapho enomlingani omdala ozinikeleyo okanye ngenxa yesiko lenkcubeko ethile okanye iqela lenkolo .
Ukwazi oko uvakalelwa kwaye kutheni uvakalelwa kukuba kuya kukuvumela ukuba ugqithise isimo sakho sengqondo ngokubhekiselele kwesi sifundo ngempumelelo.
Amaqiniso
Kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezifunekayo abantwana ngokuphathelele isondo ngexesha leminyaka eliselula. Ezinye zezinto ziquka:
- Unokukhulelwa okokuqala ulala ngesondo.
- Ukurhoxiswa akusebenzi kakuhle ekukhuseleni ukukhulelwa.
- Ingaphezulu kwesiqingatha sabo bonke abafundi besikolo esiphakamileyo abazange balalane ngesondo.
- Ngokomnye uphando, ababini kwisithathu abaselula ababenqwenela ngesondo bayeza kulinda.
- I-CDC ifumene ukuba i-1 kwintombazana engama-4 inesifo esinikwe ngesondo.
Akudingeki ukuba ube "sexpert," kodwa ukwazi ezinye zezi ngxelo kunye neenkcukacha ziya kunceda wakho umntwana ukuba aqonde ingozi yesenzo sesondo. Ukongezelela, ngakumbi ongayifunda malunga nokukhulelwa kokukhulelwa - ukuyeka ukuzikhusela nokukhulelwa komzimba - nendlela yokuphepha ukufumana isifo sesandulela ngesondo, ngcono. Ukuba unokuba ngumlingani kunye nesisombululo kwintombazana yakho, uya kuziva ekhululekile xa ekhuluma nawe malunga nesihloko. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ukuxoxa ngokulawulwa kokuzalwa kunye nokukhuselwa kwe-STD nentombazana yakho akuthethi ukuba ukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba alalane ngesondo. Uphando lubonisa ukuba intsha enokufikelela kwiinkcukacha ezichanileyo malunga nesondo iyancipha okanye iyanciphise ukuziphatha kwabo ngokwesondo, ngokukodwa ukuziphatha kakubi.
Izinto ozilindeleyo
Injongo yabaninzi bethu, nokuba ngaba ngabazali okanye ngababoneleli benonophelo lwempilo, kukunciphisa umsebenzi wesondo lwabantu abaselula. Ngokusasazeka kwezifo ezithathelwana ngesondo kunye nokwanda kwezinga lokukhulelwa kwentsha, intsebenziswano yesini eselula ifana nemiphumo emibi esinokuyiphepha. Ukuba ufuna umntwana wakho angalalanga ngesondo, zithetha njalo. Ukuba umda wakho kukuba ulindele ukuba umntwana wakho akayi kulala ngesasesikolweni esikolweni esiphakeme, okanye ehlala ekhaya, okanye usemncinci, ngoko kufuneka wenze ukuba ulindelekile. Kuboniswe ukuba abatsha abafumana umyalezo ocacileyo ovela kubazali babo malunga nokuba imida ingakanani malunga nokuyeka ukulala ngesondo - injongo yethu yokugqibela.
Ukuba wakho umntwana ufumana usuku oluthile olwamkelekileyo kwaye ufuna ukuthetha, uzive ukhululekile ukujongana nayiphi nayiphi na imiba yesenzo sezesondo kunye nokulindela. Ukuba akunjalo, kulungile ukuthetha malunga nantoni na into ebonakalayo ilawulwayo ngexesha. Ukuba kukho inqaku malunga nokukhulelwa kwentsha, sebenzisa njengentsimbi yokubamba ukukhulelwa. "Intetho" ayifanele ibe yintetho enye enkulu kodwa ingxoxo evulekileyo malunga nale ngongoma ebalulekileyo.
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