Ngenhlanhla, ukukhulelwa kwentsha kuye kwehla eUnited States kwiminyaka embalwa edluleyo. Amaziko okuLawula nokuLawula izifo iingxelo zokukhulelwa komntwana osebuncineni ziphantsi, kodwa isizathu asicaci kakuhle.
Ezinye iingcali ezityhawula ukuba abantwana bayalibazisa okanye banciphise umsebenzi wesondo. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba abatsha bafunda ngokubanzi malunga nokulawulwa kokuzalwa kwaye baqhuba ngakumbi ngokukhusela ukukhulelwa.
Kodwa ukukhulelwa kwentsha kuya kwenzeka. Kwaye nangona abazali abaninzi bengathanda ukucinga ukuba umntwana wabo akaze akhulelwe, kuya kwenzeka nasiphi na intsapho.
Kukho izinto ezinobungozi nangona kunjalo ukwenza ukuba intsha ikwazi ukukhulelwa ngaphezu kwabanye. Ukuzifundisa malunga nezinto ezinobungozi kunokukunceda ukuba uthathe amanyathelo okunciphisa ingozi.
Izinto zobungozi ngabanye
Abaselula abanamava alandelayo banokubangelwa ngumngcipheko omkhulu wokukhulelwa kwentsha:
- Ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kunye notywala
- Ukungabi nolwazi ngolwabelana ngesondo okanye ukukhulelwa komzimba
- Ukungabi neenjongo zekamva
- Ukuzithoba
- Ukusebenza kakubi kwesikolo
- Ukulala ngokwesini
- Ukuba lixhoba lokuxhaphazwa ngokwesondo
- Isimo sengqondo esichaphazelekayo ekusebenziseni ulwaphulo
- Ukukhathazeka ngokuba nomntwana
Izinto Zengozi Zentlalo
Abahlobo bamatsha banokudlala indima enkulu kwisigqibo sokulala ngesondo. Nazi ezinye zeengxaki zentlalo ekufuneka zikhangele kuyo:
- Uxinzelelo lwabaontanga balala ngesondo
- Ukuthandana kwasebuncinaneni
- Ukuthandana nabantu abadala
- Abahlobo abasebenza ngokwesondo
- Ulwalamano olubi olungontanga
Izinto Zengozi Zentsapho
Nangona ungeke uhlale ulawula yonke into malunga nosapho lwakho, ungathatha amanyathelo okulungisa ezinye izinto ezijongene nobungozi. Nazi izinto ezinobungozi ezinokubeka umntwana wakho engozini yokukhulelwa kwentsha:
- Ukunyamekela kwabazali
- Ukunxibelelana ngokukhawuleza phakathi kwabazali kunye nentsha
- Ukunyanelana kweentsapho ezingalunganga
- Iintsapho zabazali abangabodwa
- Ingxabano engaphendululwanga phakathi kwamalungu entsapho
- Imbali yentsapho yokukhulelwa kwentsha
Ukuthintela ukukhulelwa kwentsha
Nangona ungeke ukwazi ukukrazula zonke izinto ezinobungozi ebusaneni bakho, unokuthatha amanyathelo okunciphisa amathuba okuba umntwana wakho ukhulelwe. Into ebalulekileyo ongayenza ukuthetha nentombazana yakho ngesondo .
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba isigidimi sakho sisinye sokuziyeka, okanye ukulibazisa isondo kuze kube sexesha elifanelekileyo, uthethe ngokulawulwa kokuzalwa. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho unobungqina malunga nokuthintela ukukhulelwa okungakhethi.
Thetha ngexabiso lakho kunye nezinto ozilindeleyo. Ukuba ukwenza kucacise ukuba awuvumeli ngesondo ngexesha lesikolweni esiphakamileyo, umntwana wakho osemncinci angasenakukwazi ukulala ngesondo.
Kodwa kufuneka ucacise ukuba umntwana wakho unokuza kuwe ngemibuzo okanye kwiinkxalabo. Into yokugqibela oyifunayo kukuba umntwana wakho azifihle izinto kuwe.
Gcina iingxoxo ezivulekileyo kwaye uvumele umntwana wakho ukuba abuze imibuzo. Kwaye uninzi lwazo zonke, ncedisa wakho umntwana ukuba abe ngumntu odibeneyo. Abaselula abanomdla, imisebenzi, kunye neenjongo abanamathuba amaninzi okuba bathathe isondo ngokusasa.
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