Ukulungiselela Umntwana Wakho Ukuba Unokuhlukunyezwa Ngokobulili
Yiyiphi imizekelo yokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo eyenzeka kubantwana esikolweni?
Thina sonke sidalwa sezesondo, ukususela ekubelekeni ukuya ethuneni. Njengokuba iintsana kunye nabantwana baselula, kunokukunceda ukufunda ezinye izinto ezisemgangathweni ngokwesini, njengamagama afanelekileyo kumalungu omzimba. Njengoko bethu abantwana bahlakulela ngesondo, baya kuba nolwazi ngakumbi ngemizimba yabo, malunga nezesini kunye nezo zesini.
Ekupheleni kwesikolo sokuqala, ukuvuswa kwesondo kubonisa ezinye iindlela ezingathandekiyo. Abafana ngokukhethekileyo baqala ukuthetha ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngemizimba yamantombazana, benza iziphakamiso ezinyanyekayo kunye nentuthuko engafunekiyo.
Le nxalenye engenabuhlungu kodwa yendalo yentuthuko yabantwana, kwaye izalwa ngaphandle kokoma kwabo ulwazi oluninzi. Njengomzali, unokubangela enye yokuziphatha kakubi ngokupasa ngokunika umntwana wakho ithuba elifanelekileyo, kwimfundo yasemakhaya ngocansi, kwimfihlo kunye nemida. Unokulungiselela umntwana wakho kwizinto ezintle kakhulu ezinokubambana naye esikolweni. Nayi imimiselo embalwa yokuhlukunyezwa ngokwesini esenokufumaneka kwiindawo eziphambili, eziphakathi, eziphakamileyo kunye nezikolo eziphakamileyo:
- Ukuthintana okungafunekiyo, okungafunekiyo ngokomzimba, njengokuthintela, ukukhupha, ukumbamba okanye ukutshiza
- Amazwi okuthuka ngesini ngohlanga, ubulili, amandla, okanye iklasi
- ukuziqhayisa ngokuxhatshazwa ngokwesini kwabanye
- ukuziphatha ngendlela esongelayo, engabandakanya amagama angamahlazo ahlazolayo, ukubiza igama lomntu oyedwa, ukubiza iikiti, ukulinganisa, okanye ukuhlazisa ikhwelo
- graffiti ngamagama abhalwe kwiindonga okanye kwiidesiki; umzekelo oqhelekileyo ngu: "ngexesha elifanelekileyo, biza ..."
- kulandelwa ngapha nangomnye umfundi / utyunjwa
Ngokwe-American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), ama-81 ekhulwini kubo bonke abafundi baye bafumana ukuziphatha kakubi ngokwesondo ngexesha leminyaka yabo yesikolo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, lo mgaqo uhamba ngaphaya kwezinto zemvelo zoluntu kwaye unyakaza ekuqhubekeni kokunyelisa . Kutheni abatsha bexhala abanye ngesondo? Zininzi izizathu. Kungenza bazive benamandla. Bangazenza ngenxa yokuba bafuna ukubonakala besondo. Basenokufumana ukuhleka kwenkohlakalo. Basenokukhangela ukunciphisa iimvakalelo zabo zokungakhuseki kunye nokuzithoba.
Unokukunceda wakho umntwana ukuba ajongane noxhatshazo ngokwesondo ngokubanceda baqinisekise ukuzithemba kwabo babandezelekayo. Bafundise ukuba baxhamle amehlo, kwaye baqinisekise. Bancede ukuba bakhe ukuzithemba. Bakhuthaze ukuba babe nobuhlobo obunempilo.
Khumbula, kwakhona, ukuba ukuba ungumntwana uxhatshazwa, banokuba bahlupha. Yiba yinkxaso yenkwenkwe yakho. Qinisekisa ukuba akusiyo iphoso labo lokuba lijolise ekuxhatshazweni. Sebenza nabo ukuba banqume indlela ukuxhatshazwa okufanele kulandelwe ngayo.
Kwaye ngaphezu kweyiphi enye into, kuba khona kubo.