Umfanekiso wesibini isibini esasesikolweni esikolweni phakathi kweeklasi. Ekuboneni kokuqala, zibukeka ziqhelekileyo. Enyanisweni, zibonakala ziphantse kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba ubheka ngokufutshane uza kubona ukuba into ephosakeleyo.
Unxibe imikhono emide kwimihla yamanzi (ukufihla izibonda ezandleni zakhe apho wambamba khona xa ecutha). Uye wayeka ukugubungela iinwele zakhe ezimhlophe kwaye ngoku uyigqoke kwi-ponytail elula.
(Intsapho yakhe iyitshela ukuba ubonakala engcono ngale ndlela, kodwa ngokwenene akafuni ukuba iinwele zakhe zegolide zibe zide ukukhawuleza.
Xa ifowuni yakhe igqithisa ngomyalezo obhaliweyo, uyayibamba kwaye uyifunde. (Unayo yonke amaphasiwedi akhe kwaye ilinda zonke iinkcukacha zakhe, kunye nemiyalezo evela kubazali bakhe.) Umyalezo kwifowuni yakhe uvela kumhlobo. Ufuna ukuza emva kwesikolo. Utshilo ukuba athi akakwazi ukuxhoma ebusuku. (Kufuneka achithe ixesha lakhe kunye naye ngoku.)
Ekugqibeleni, abahlobo bakhe bayeka kwaye bayeke ukubiza nokuthumela imiyalezo. Ngako oko, uvakalelwa yodwa, ekhulile kwaye evalelwe. Sekunjalo, akayazi into enokuyenza kwaye akukho mntu ujikelezayo ukumnceda. Uvalelwe ekuxhatshazelweni kunye nolawulo olufanelekileyo ngaphandle kweengcamango malunga nendlela yokuphuma.
Kukho amabali angenakubalwa njengale nto eyenzekayo ezindlini zesikolo sethu kwisikolo ngalunye. Enyanisweni, abasetyhini abasetyhini abaneminyaka eli-16 no-24 basengozini enkulu yobudlova obusondeleyo.
Kanti le mibali ecashileyo yokuxhaphazwa ihlala ingabonakali. Abantu abaninzi abaselula nje abazi indlela yokukhusela ulwalamano olutsha olutsha, okanye indlela yokujonga ukusetyenziswa kakubi. Kwaye nokuba bayenzile, abaqondi ukuba benzani ukuyivala.
Yeyona Nkulu Yeyona Nkinga?
Ngokomnye uphando, phantse omnye wabaselula abathathu abaye bebudlelwane bokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, ukuphathwa kakubi ngokomzimba, okanye ukutshutshiswa kobundlobongela.
Kwaye abafundi abayi-1.5 yezikolo eziphakamileyo esiphantsi kwamava ngamazwe ngamaxhoba emzimbeni ngamnye ngonyaka. Ezi manani zingaphezulu nje kweengxelo. Bamele ubhubhane.
Inani elinoyikisayo labantu abatsha baya kulwa noxhatshazo lwentsebenziswano ngenye indlela ngaphambi kokuba bangene kwikholeji. Kodwa ininzi ininzi ayinayo ingcamango yokujonga ukusetyenziswa kakubi, kwaye nangona kunjalo, abanokwazi ukuyiphatha. Enyanisweni, ama-57 ekhulwini kwabafundi beekholeji bathi ukudlwengulwa kobudlova kunzima ukuchonga, kwaye iipesenti ezingama-58 aziqondi indlela yokunceda umntu ojongene nayo. Ngenxa yezizathu, kubalulekile ukuba inqanda yokuthintela ulwalamano olutsha lwenzeka ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba abantu abatsha bafumane ingxaki ngokuthandana .
Ukuthintela ubundlobongela obuselula obutsha , abazali kunye nootitshala kufuneka bahlakulele ukuqonda okujulileyo kunye ne-truer yinto ekhoyo yobundlobongela obusandul 'ukutshatyalaliswa kwentsha, ngokukodwa phakathi kwabasetyhini nabaselula abaselula. Nazi iindlela ezithoba zokukuqalisa.
Ukuphelisa Ngaphambi kokuba kuqale
Xa kufikelele ekukhuseleni ubundlobongela obuselula obutsha, injongo ekugqithiseleyo kukumisa ubundlobongela ngaphambi kokuqala. Ngenxa yoko, inqandelelo inqamlekileyo iqalisa ngokufundisa abancinci nabaselula malunga nendlela yokwakha ubudlelwane obuhle nabanye. Kwakhona kubandakanya ukufundisa ezibalulekileyo izakhono zobomi ezifana nokuqina kunye nezakhono eziqinileyo zonxibelelwano.
Kwakhona kufuneka bafunde indlela abangavumelani ngayo nabanye ngendlela enempilo nangenhlonipho.
Uncedo Abaselula Qaphela Izimpawu Zesixwayiso
Ukuxhatshazwa nokuxhatshazwa ngobudlelwane obusondeleyo kubandakanya okungaphezulu nje kokubetha, ukukhaba, ukubetha, nokubetha. Enyanisweni, ulwalamano oluninzi oluxhaphazayo luqala ngezibonakaliso ezinqamlekileyo ezininzi abazenzayo ngothando. Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zokulumkisa zikhwele, ukuthumela imiyalezo kunye nokubiza ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye ugxininise ekusebenziseni yonke imzuzu yamahhala kunye kunye. Ekuqaleni, kulula ukukholelwa ukuba ezi ziphatho zibonisa ukuba unomnye umntu onakekelayo. Kodwa enyanisweni, ezi zinto zilawula izenzo ezisoloko zikhokelela kwimigudu engaphezulu yokulawula.
Fundisa abantwana bakho ukuba nayiphi na isenzo sokulawula okanye ubundlobongela ngumqondiso wesilumkiso. Ubuhlobo kufuneka buphele nangona omnye umntu ecela uxolo kwaye uthembisa ukuba akaze aphinde ayenze. Ukulawula ukuziphatha kunye nodlova kwintsebenziswano ngokuqhelekileyo akuphuculanga okanye ukuhamba. Kunoko, umjikelo uvame ukuziphinda.
Ukuxhobisa abaMbane kunye neZigqibo malunga nendlela yokufumana uncedo
Akukho nto embi ngaphezu kokubukela umhlobo ukuba ahlaselwe yinkwenkwe okanye intombi yakhe kwaye engazi ukuba benzani. Akukuphela nje ukusetyenziswa gadalala kumxholo onzima kakhulu ukuxoxa nomhlobo, kodwa intsha imele iqaphele ukuba ukuhlala cwaka xa umntu enyamekela ukulimaza akuthandi kakhulu. Ewe, sisihloko senu. Akakhululekile ukuthetha ngaye. Kodwa kufuneka kwenziwe. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba wenzeni xa ebona umntu exhatshazwayo okanye ephathwa kakubi.
Yiba ngumthombo wolwazi othembekileyo
Melana nomnqweno wokuvumela intetho yendawo yokupakisha, imibutho yokulala, ithelevishini, kunye neencwadi zikaJudy Blume ukuba zibe ngumthombo wakho wolwazi kuphela. Kunoko, qalisa ingxoxo malunga nobudlelwano. Sebenzisa umboniso kwi-movie, inkcazo evela kwincwadi okanye ibali leendaba ukuze uqalise ingxoxo. Thetha malunga nento enempilo kunye nento enempilo ebubudlelwaneni. Yaye ungadingi kwizinto ezinzima ezifana nesondo . Yaye qiniseka ukuba uphulaphule into okuthetha ngayo umntwana wakho. Kwakhona, xubusha ukubaluleka kwentlonelo kulwalamano. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba ufanele uhlonipheke kwaye, ngokufanayo, kufuneka ahloniphe abanye.
Xoxa ngobudlelwane obuhle kunye nobubi
Uninzi ulutsha lujonga ukutshata kunye nolwalamano ngokusebenzisa i-lens romantic. Ekuqaleni, bayonwabile, bayonwabile kwaye bazaliswe nethemba. Nika inkxaso kwezo zilindeleko, kodwa uzilungiselele ukuba uhlalisane kunye nokuhla kweentlobo zobudlelwane. Qinisekisa ukuba bayazi ukuba nangona ukungavumelani kuyinto eqhelekileyo, ukuphatha ngendlela ehlukumezayo okanye engahloniphiyo akuqhelekanga. Ngokufanayo, ubundlobongela, ukusetyenziswa kakubi, ukubiza amagama kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo akuqhelekanga. Kwakungenalo impilo kumlingani ukunyanzelisa intombazana ukuba ijoyine i- SMS . Emva koko, qiniseka ukuba ubaxhobise ngeengcebiso malunga nendlela yokuphuma kwiimeko ezimbi. Ngokomzekelo, banokuthi: "Andikhululekile ngalokhu."
Fundisa Intsha Ukuba Yiyo
Ukufundisa abantwana kunye nentsha ngokukwazi ukuchaza ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo zabo, izimvo zabo kunye neminqweno yenye yezinto ezilungileyo umzali anokuzenza. Njengoko abantwana bakho bekhula, khangela amathuba okuba bafunde ukuxelela iingcamango zabo neemvakalelo zabo. Yaye xa unako, ubaxhobise ukuba bathethe izinto abazifuni ukuzenza. Ngokomzekelo, baxelele ukuba kuyamkeleka ukuba kubuze umntu ukuba ahambe ekhaya xa ehlambalaza, engahloneliyo okanye athetha. Baya kuthetha into efana nale: "Ndingathanda ukuba uhambe ngoku." Kuyamkeleka ukuba bachithe ukubandakanyeka kwezentlalo ezifana nokuya kwintengiso okanye iqela. Ukusebenzisa izakhono zokubambisa kwangethuba kunceda kubalungiselele iimeko ezinzima phantsi kwendlela njengoko uxinzelelo lwaontanga, ukuxhatshazwa kunye nokuxhaphazwa kobudlelwane.
Xoxa Ngezinto eziMpilo kunye neeMpilo ezingenampilo
Enye yeendlela zokuziphatha zokuqala ukuxoxa ngukumahluko phakathi kokulawula kunye nentsebenziswano. Akuqhelekanga ukuba abantwana bafune indlela yabo. Kodwa kufuneka bafunde ukuba akunakuze kube njalo. Chaza ukuba uzama "ukulawula" imeko ngokuxhaphaza, ukuxoxisana, ukufuna izinto okanye ukuxhatshazwa kakubi. Esikhundleni saloo ndlela, indlela engcono yokuphila, iya kuxoxisana, ukuxazulula iingxaki , okanye ukusebenzisana. Ngokufanayo, ukuba umntu ebomini, nokuba ngumfana oyintombazana okanye intombazana enentliziyo , uzama ukulawula imeko kunokuba asebenzisane ukuze afumane isisombululo, kufuneka abone ukuba le nto ayimpilo. Okunye ukuziphatha okuza kuxoxwa ngoluhluko phakathi kwabantu abathandekayo nabanikelayo . Unempilweni yokuba nesisa novelwano . Kodwa akunempilo kumntwana wakho ukwenza izinto enethemba lokwenza umntu onjengaye.
Yakha "Akukho Mfihlo"
Ulwalamano olubi luhlala lukhokelela kwiimfihlelo. Ngokomzekelo, abatsha abantu bayazi ukuba into eyenzekayo ayilungile, kodwa endaweni yokuthetha ngayo, bayigcina imfihlo. Chaza ukuba intsha yakho imfihlelo ibonisa ukuba into ethile "iyafihlakeleka" kwabanye kwaye ukufihla izinto ayiphilile. Okona, ukufihla ukwahlula abantu kwiintsapho zabo kunye nabahlobo. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba ubudlelwane obubandakanya ukufihla amaninzi kaninzi luqulethe nezinye izinto ezinokulimaza ezifana nokuphathwa. Fundisa abantwana bakho ukuba omeleleyo akuthethi ukuzama ukulungisa iingxaki zabo. Kunoko, ukuqina kubonisa ukuba nesibindi sokuxelela umntu ngezinto eziqhubekayo ebomini babo.
Yazi Ixesha Eliza Kubandakanya
Naliphi na ixesha uqaphela utshintsho oluncinane kwimpilo yomntwana wakho, njengokutshintsha kwimoya, iindlela zokulala okanye iindlela zokutya, kufuneka uqaphele. Kwaye ukuwa kweebakala, abahlobo abancinciweyo abahlala ecaleni okanye ukulahla kwangoko umdlalo ozithandayo kubangele ukukhathazeka. Ngokuqhelekileyo ezi nguqulelo zibonakalisa iimpawu zokulumkisa kwangaphambili ukuba into eyenzekayo ebomini bakhe ephazamisayo. Buza ukuba izinto zihamba njani kwaye ubone oko akutshoyo. Akunakho ukuvula ekuqaleni, kodwa enomdla ngokufanayo ebomini bakhe, unokuqala ukuthetha. Yaye ukuba umntwana wakho usetshatyalaliswa, ungazami ukujongana neemeko ngokwakho. Izicwangciso ezifanelekileyo kakhulu zokufumana intombi yakho (okanye unyana) ngaphandle kobudlelwane obuxhaphazayo kubandakanya iqela labantu kuquka nawe, ubugcisa besikolo, ngamanye amaxesha namapolisa.