Fumana izibonakaliso ezifihlakeleyo zokuxhatshazwa
Ukwazi ukujonga umxhaphazi akulula kangako njengoko kuzwakala. Enyanisweni, akukho luhlobo lwabaxhaphazi esikolweni. Ubuqhophololo buza kuzo zonke iimo, ubukhulu kunye nohlobo lwabantu. Abanye abaxhatshazwayo bayathandwa kwaye bayathandwa xa abanye behlaselwe ngabahlobo abambalwa kuphela. Ngamanye amaxesha, abantwana baxhatshazela ukuxhatshazwa njengendlela yokuphepha ukufikelela ekujoliswe kuzo. Abaxhatshazwayo badla ngokuba ngabaxhoba-bulutsha ngenxa yokuba baye baxhatshazwa kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Ngenxa yoko, bafuna ukuphindezela okanye basebenzisa izixhobo zokuxhatshazwa njengethuluzi lokuzigcina.
Nangona kunjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba luhlobo luni lomntu okwenza ukuxhatshazwa, kukho imiqondiso enokukunceda ukuba unqume ukuba umntwana ungumntu onokuxhaphaza okanye cha. Ukukwazi olu lwazi kunceda ootitshala bekhangela ukufumanisa abaxhaphazayo kwiiklasi zabo. Nazi iindlela ezilisithoba zokubona abantwana abaxhaphaza abanye.
Yazi iindidi eziqhelekileyo zezixhaphazi.
Ukuxhatshazwa akukona ukulingana komlinganiselo omnye-yonke into. Enyanisweni, kukho iintlobo ezintandathu zeendlela ezixhatshazelayo ezibandakanya ukuxhatshazwa, ukuxhatshazwa, ukuxhatshazwa, ukuxhatshazwa, ukuxhatshazwa, ukuxhatshazwa, ukuxhatshazwa kweqela kunye nokuxhatshaza. Ukuba uvuma ezinye zeengcamango malunga nokuxhatshazwa , kuquka ukuba bonke abaxhaphazayo banesizungu kunye nabahlobo kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi, uya kulahlwa ezininzi zeentlobo zezixhaphazi. Uyakukhumbula ngokugqithiseleyo ukuxhatshazwa kweengqungquthela, ezisoloko ziluhlu olunzima kunabo bonke abaxhatshazwayo ngenxa yokuba ukuziphatha kwabo kudla ngokufihlakeleyo kwaye bafihlakele emehlweni abo abadala.
Qondani ukuba abafana kunye namantombazana baxhaphaza njani.
Akukho mntu oza kuthetha ukuba ukuxhatshazwa ngokwenyama kulula ukubona kunanoma yimuphi na uhlobo loxhatshazo. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, abazali nabafundisi bahlala bephosakele into yokuba amantombazana axhatshazwayo. Akunakukwazi ukusebenzisa ulwaphulo lomzimba ukwenza oko. Kunoko, bazama ukuxhatshazwa , ukuxhaphazwa ngamagama kunye nokubiza amagama .
Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukwandisa imbono yakho kwaye qiniseka ukuba uyaziqonda ngeentlobo ezintandathu eziqhelekileyo zokuxhaphaza .
Khangela iimpawu zokufaneleka.
Amaxesha amaninzi, abaxhatshazi bakholelwa ukuba imithetho ayisebenzisi kubo. Okanye, banokuvakalelwa kukuba ngenxa yokuba bahle esikolweni, bahle kwimidlalo okanye bavela kwintsapho evelele ukuba banokwenza nantoni na eyifunayo. Bakholelwa ukuba abanye bangaphantsi kwabo. Uza kubona ukunyaniseka okulukhuni kulolu hlobo lokuxhaphaza, ngakumbi xa bexhamla nabanye abaziva bephantsi kwabo. Jonga indlela aba bana baphatha ngayo abasebenzi basekuhlaleni, abagada, abalindi, abasebenzi beevenkile kunye nabanye abantu kwizikhundla ezijoliswe ngeenkonzo.
Namela ingqumbo yengqumbo okanye ugonyamelo.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhatshazwa kunzima ukulawula iimvakalelo, ngakumbi ingqumbo . Ngoko balawula kunye nobudlova ukuze bafumane oko bafuna. Baphinde bagxininise abanye abantwana ukuba benze oko bafuna ukuba benze. Kukho intsebenziswano encinci kwaye kaninzi kukho ukuphathwa kakubi. Xa ubona ezi ntlobo zokuziphatha ngendlela ehambelanayo, ukuxhatshazwa kunokuthi kube sisixhobo esi sisebenzisayo ukufumana indlela xa ungakhangeli.
Khangela ngakumbi xa umntwana ebonakala entle kakhulu.
Olu hlobo lugxininiso luvame ukufaniswa noEddie Haskell.
U-Eddie Haskell wayengumntu onobuqhetseba kwikhefu ukuya ku-Beaver oza kubingelela abazali bakhe ngabahlobo ngokunyamekela ukuziphatha kakuhle kunye nokuncoma. Kodwa, xa abazali bebengekho, u-Eddie wayengengumntwana onyanisekileyo. Wayesoloko ekholisa kwaye ecinezela abahlobo bakhe. Okanye, wayexhatshaza umntakwabo u-Wally u-Beaver. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali kunye nootitshala bayothuka xa befunda ukuba lolu hlobo lomntwana luxhaphaza ngenxa yokuba wayehlala ehle kwaye enobubele.
Gxininisa ubunzulu xa umntwana engxaki kunye negunya.
Ngelixa ezinye izixhaphazi zincinci kunye nezoxhatshazo, abanye abaxhatshazayo banemiba ngokulandela imithetho kunye nokuphulaphula amanani.
Ngokomzekelo, abanye abaxhaphazayo baya kufumana iingxoxo kunye nootitshala, abaqeqeshi, abacebisi nabacebisi nabazali. Kananjalo banokuthi bathethe, bakhuphe amazwi kwaye bahlale bengenakuhlonela umntu onamandla. Ukuba umntwana uzimisele ukwenza ngokunyanisekileyo kumntu omdala okanye umntu ogunyazisiweyo, nabo banokuba nobudlova kunye neontanga zabo.
Ungayibalali abalandeli okanye amalungu amacandelo.
Amaninzi amaninzi, ukuxhatshazwa ngokumalunga nokufikelela okanye ukugcina isikhundla kwizinga lokuhlalisana esikolweni. Ngenxa yoko, abaninzi abantwana abalungileyo baya kunxinxela abanye ngenxa yoxinzelelo lwaontanga . Kananjalo banokunyanzela ukuba bafumane ingqalelo okanye bazive ngathi bayingxenye yeqela okanye iqhosha . Kwamanye amaxesha, abaxhatshazwayo baya kufumana aba balandeli ukuba benze umsebenzi wabo ongcolileyo. Yaye la bantwana bavumelana ngenxa yokuba besaba ukuba yiithagethi ngokwabo. Okanye, bayathobela kuba beva ukuba yindlela kuphela yokuhlala kwiqela.
Qaphela abantwana abangabandakanyi abanye.
Enye yezona ndlela zinkulu kakhulu zobudlova, ukuxoshwa, ukungabandakanyi okanye ukukhupha ezinye iifana . Ukuba umntwana uhlala engafuni ukuba ngumhlobo nabanye abantu, akafuni ukubandakanya wonke umntu okanye ukukhetha kunye nokukhetha abantu ukuba badibanise nayo, oku kubonisa ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kungabangela umba. Esinye isibonakaliso sokuxhatshazwa ngumntwana ongenamkeli ukungafani komnye umntu. Iintsholongwane ezingenabantwana zixhaphaza abanye abahlukileyo.
Beka ingqalelo xa abantwana bebonakala bejikelezwe ngedrama.
Kuthetha amantombazana , abahlobo abaqhetseba kunye neentshaba zivame ukudala umdlalo omkhulu. Ukongezelela ekuxhatshazelweni kwabanye, kubonakala kubonakala ukudala uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba phakathi kwamaqela abahlobo. Kwakhona banamathuba okusasaza iindlebe , ukuxhatshazwa kwe-cyberbullying kunye ne- slut ukuhlazisa abanye. Nangona uninzi lwale ndlela yokuziphatha lwenziwa ngaphandle kwamehlo abukele abantu abadala, umdlalo owenzayo uya kubonakala. Ngenxa yoko, ukuba ubona umdlalo omkhulu phakathi kweqela esikolweni, yenza uphando oluthile ukuze ufumane ingcambu yengxaki. Uninzi lwexesha, uya kufumana umxhaphazi ekupheleni.
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Njengoko utitshala, kunokuxakeka ngezinye amaxesha ukujongana nokuxhatshazwa rhoqo. Kodwa ukuba ubeka imozulu yokuhlonipha kwiklasi lakho ekuqaleni, uza kubona ukuba ukuxhatshazwa kwemiba kwenzeka kaninzi kangangoko. Ukongeza, abafundi bakho baya kufunda ngakumbi kwaye benze okubhetele ngakumbi kwigumbi lakho lokufundela ukuba benokuqiniseka ukuba awuyi kukunyamezela ukuxhatshazwa. Baya kugxininisa ekufundeni endaweni yokukhathazeka ngokujoliswe kuko kuba bayazi ukuba unayo phantsi kolawulo.