Ukujonga ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kutheni intsha ihleba kunye nemiphumo
Umdlalo. Kwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiminyaka yeshumi elivisayo, ukuba abanye abantu baye bayamkela njengenxalenye eqhelekileyo yobomi bentsha. Kodwa xa lo mdlalo unxulumene nobuhlobo obunobungozi , ukuhlambalaza ukuhlambalaza kunye nokusabalalisa amahemuhemu, akunjalo. Enyanisweni, kulabo abachaphazelekayo, ukuhleka kungabangela ubuhlungu obukhulu kwaye kungenakukwazi ukuyihoxisa - ingakumbi ukuba i-media media isetyenziselwa ukusasaza.
Ngenxa yoko, abantwana abatshitshiweyo bachaphazela kakubi. Ngokomzekelo, ukuhleka kunye neendlebe kungonakalisa ukuzithemba komntu kwaye kuthintele ukuzithemba kwabo . Kwakhona kunokukhokelela ekudakaleni, iingcinga zokuzibulala , ukuphazamiseka kokutya , ukuxhalaba kunye neminye imiba. Ingakumbi ukuhleba kunye neendlebe ziyakunciphisa abahlobo, zichithe izibhengezo kwaye zikhokelela ekuziphatheni kwendlela yokuziphatha kunye nezinye iindibano zobudlova .
Ukunceda umntwana wakho asebenze ngokuchanekileyo ngeentengiso kunye neendlebe, kubalulekile ukuqonda umahluko phakathi kwezi zibini. Kwakhona kunceda ukuqonda ukuba kutheni abantwana beqala ukuhleba kunye neendlebe zokusasazeka.
Yintoni ihlebezi?
Iimvumi ziinqununu zolwazi okanye ibali elingaqinisekisiwe. Oko kuthetha ukuthini, ukuba umntu oxelela ibali akazi kakuhle ukuba kuyinyaniso okanye akunjalo. Ininzi yexesha, abantu abasasaza amahemuhemu abazikhathazi ukuba bafumane ukuba kukho inyaniso kwizinto abazithethayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amahlebezi asasazeka ukusuka kumntu ukuya kumntu kwaye angatshintsha kancinci ngexesha ngalinye. Ngenxa yoko, banokugqwetha kwaye batshintshwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Iimvumi zingabandakanya malunga nayiphi na isihloko kwaye zihlala ziqhuba i-gamut. Ngokomzekelo, esikolweni, kubekho iindlebe malunga nokufaka iifowuni kwisebe lezemidlalo, ngamahemuhemu malunga nendlela yokugqibela eya kuthathwa ngayo kwiiklasi zembali okanye ngamahemuhemu ukuba intloko ye-cheerleader idlala ilungu leqela le-chess.
Yintoni ukuhleba?
Inkohlakalo ihluke kancinci kwi-rumor. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuhleba kuqukwa iinkcukacha ezinobungakanani zolu hlobo, oko kuthetha ukuba ulwazi luyamangalisa okanye luququzelele. Okona, ukuhleba ngokuqhelekileyo kusasazeka emva komntu kwaye kunokulimaza.
Inkohlakalo iquka ulwalamano, ubudlelwane, isondo kunye neminye imiba abantu abavumi ukuthetha ngayo esidlangalaleni. Ukongezelela, ukunyundela kubangele kubangele ubuhlungu kunye nokuthotywa komntu. Abantu babelana ngokuhleba ngaphandle kwengcamango yokuba ingabachaphazela njani umntu.
Kutheni abantwana bechitha iindlebe okanye ukuhleba?
Kukho iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo zezizathu zokuba abantwana baya kusasaza iindlebe okanye baqhube inhlebo. Kodwa ininzi intsha ihleba okanye ixhaphaza iindlebe ukuze ihambelane nabahlobo babo, njengendlela yokuziva ukhethekileyo, okanye ukuvakalisa abanye. Nanku ukujonga ngokuthe ngqo kwizizathu zokuba abantwana behleba.
Ukuze uzive ungcono. Xa abantu beziva bebuhlungu ngabo, ngamanye amaxesha bajolise kwabanye abantu ukuba bazame ukwenza bazive bengcono. Ngenxa yoko, bathetha ngabanye njengendlela yokujongela ingqalelo kubo.
Ukuziva uwamkelekile . Ukuba bonke abantu kwisangqa sabo sabahlobo bahleba okanye basasaza iindlebe, abantwana bavakalelwa ngathi kufuneka benze into efanayo ukuze bamkelwe.
Ngamaxesha amaninzi uxinzelelo lwabaontanga luza kudlala into ekusabalaleni iindlebe okanye ukuhleba.
Ukufumana ingqwalasela . Xa intsha iyayazi imfihlelo engekho mntu uyayaziyo, okanye ngaba ngowokuqala kwiqela ukuva i-rumor, yenza ukuba ibe yinkalo yokuqwalasela. Ngenxa yoko, abantwana abazama ukungena okanye ukunyuka kwinqanaba lezenhlalo bangasebenzisa inhlebo kunye namahemuhemu njengesixhobo sokufumana ukuthandwa .
Ukufumana amandla . Abanye abatsha bafuna ukulawula kunye nephezulu kwinqanaba lezentlalo. Xa abantwana bephezulu kwinqanaba lezentlalo okanye bazimisele ukunyuka phezulu, ngamanye amaxesha bafezekisa oko ngokunciphisa isimo somnye umntu.
Ukusasaza amahemuhemu okanye ukuhleba ngenye yezindlela eziphambili zabantu, ngokukodwa bathetha amantombazana , jockey kwimeko yoluntu.
Ukuziphindezela . Xa ulutsha luba nombono womnye umntu, ukuthandwa okanye imali, bangasebenzisa inhlebo kunye namahemuhemu ukuze aphumele loo mntu. Baye bathambekele ekusebenziseni ubuhle kunye namahemuhemu ukuba babuyele kumntu abavakalelwa kukuba bafanele ukulimaza. Ukwenza i-rumor okanye ukusasazeka kwezihleko ngezinye izikhathi kwanelisa imfuneko yabo yokuphindezela .
Ukukhupha umthwalo . Uphando lubonisa ukuba inzondo iyona nto ibangela ukuba abatsha basasaze amahemuhemu. Aba bafana bayaphukiswa ngobomi babo kuba akukho drama. Ngenxa yoko, baphendukela kumahlebezi kunye nokuhleba kwizinto eziphambili kunye nokwenza ubomi bube mnandi.
Ukuba wakho umntwana usetshontshiswe okanye ngaba umntu usasaza iindlebe, kukho izinto ezininzi anokuzenza ukuze akwazi ukujamelana nazo. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana wakho unokuyeka ukuhlala kwizinto abanye abantu abakutshoyo okanye ukuya ngqo kumthombo kwaye abhekane nombandela. Isibalulekileyo kukufumana indlela yokujongana nokuhleba kunye neendlebe zokusasaza okuzinzileyo kumntwana wakho.