Ngaba kulungile ukugatya ukutyelelwa?
Ngaba udidekile ngokuxhasa abantwana kunye nokuhanjelwa? AWUKHO wedwa. Enye yezinto eziqhelekileyo xa kuncedwa abantwana kunye nokuvakasha. Nangona kunjalo, le micimbi mibili ihlukene ngokwenene, kwaye abazali baya kuba bulumko ukuba baqaphele ukuhlukana phakathi kwabo. Ingaba ungumzali ongekho phantsi okanye umlondolozi oyintloko onemibuzo malunga nokuxhasa abantwana, ukuvakashelwa, kunye namalungelo akho omzali, nali iimpendulo ozifunayo:
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Ukususela kwinqanaba lenkundla, ukuxhaswa kwabantwana kunye nokugcinwa kwabantwana kunemiba emibini eyahlukileyo. Ukusifingqa, ukuxhaswa kwabantwana kuyimbopheleleko yomzali kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngumzali okanye ithuba lakhe lomzali. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iinqununu zokugcinwa kwabantwana, zisekelwe ekukhuseleni okulungileyo komntwana. Nangona iimeko ezininzi zidlalwa, ukhuseleko kunye nokuvumelana ngokuqhelekileyo ziphezulu kwiluhlu.
Ngokuxhomekeke kwimithetho yokugcinwa komntwana eyamkelwa ngumbuso othile, inkundla inokubaluleka kakhulu ithuba lokuvumela abantwana ukuba bahlale banxibelelana kakhulu kunye nabazali bobabini njengoko babenandipha ngaphambi kokuhlukana okanye ukwahlukana. Ngako oko, inkundla inokukhuthaza ukutyelela ngokukhawuleza okanye ukwabelwana ngolondolozo kungakhathaliseki ukuba umzali ofuna ukuhlawula inkxaso yenkxaso yakhe yenzelwe ukuhlawulwa kwayo.
Oku kudla ngokukrakra kubazali abaye balinda ngaphandle kweentlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana ezingakafiki.
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Nantsi enye inqaku eliqhelekileyo lokukhungatheka: ukungabikho kokuvakasha. Yintoni umzali okumele ayenze? Qhubeka ubeka eceleni ixesha kunye nokunyamezela i-post-no-show ebuhlungu kunye nokuphazamiseka?
Ngelishwa, xa umzali ongekho-myalelo ukhetha ukungahambelani neshedyuli yokuhanjelwa kwenkundla, umzali wokulondoloza unamathuba ambalwa kakhulu.
Unga:
- Thatha yakho yangaphambili enkundleni uze ucele ishedyuli yokuvakasha ehlaziyiweyo
- Yenza umzamo wokuvula imizila yokunxibelelana kunye nowe-ex ukuze ufunde ukuba kutheni engathathi nxaxheba kwiindwendwe ezihleliweyo
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Masijamelane nayo: akukho mntu unoku (okanye kufuneka) ukunyanzela umntwana ukuba atyelele umzali wakhe. Nangona kunjalo, kukho ukulungiswa komthetho ukuxhasa ukunyanzelisa komntwana ekukhanyeleni ukuhanjelwa. Nanini na xa umntwana wakho wenqaba ukuthatha inxaxheba kwindlela yokutyelela ecwangcisiweyo kunye nawe, kufuneka:
- Xoxa nomntwanakho malunga nokuba akafuni ukuthatha inxaxheba ekutyeleleni
- Qinisekisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyamthanda
- Cacisa umxholo wokuhambela kunye nokuba kutheni ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabazali bobabini
- Njengokugqiba kokugqibela: thetha kunye nokude wakho ngokuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba athathe ikhefu okanye anciphise ubude bokutyelela.
Kuthiwani Ukuba Umzali Okhuselekileyo Ufuna Ukungafuni Ukuvumela Amalungelo Wokuvakasha?
Umzali okhuselekileyo ubanjwe kwishedyuli yokutyelelwa yinkantolo. Umzali anganqwenela ukuvumela i-ex ukuba asebenzise amalungelo akhe okutyelela kwezi zizathu zilandelayo:
- Uloyiko lokulimala okukufutshane , njengokwenkcenkceshelwa okanye ukungahoywa komntwana
- Umntwana akafuni ukutyelela umzali ongekho phantsi
Ukufumana ulwazi oluninzi malunga namalungelo okuvakasha kunye nokugcinwa kwabantwana, bhekisa kwizibonelelo ezongezelelweyo okanye uthetha nommeli oqeqeshiweyo kwimeko yakho.