Ukuxhaswa kwabantwana kuyisihloko esivame ukuhoxisa bonke abachaphazelekayo. Nangona kwezinye iimeko, oomama bahlawula inkxaso yenkxaso kubazali, ekubaninzi kweemeko, oomama ngabazali abaxhasiweyo kunye nootata abangabonisi ukuhlawula abantwana. Ngoko, indlela yokuxhasa umntwana isebenza njani, kwaye yintoni ubaba ayifunayo ukuze aziphathe ngendlela efanelekileyo yokulawula iimbopheleleko zakhe?
Inkxaso Yenkxaso Yengane Ede Kangakanani
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umyalelo ufuna umntu ahlawule inkxaso yezingane ukwenza ezo ntlawulo de (1) umntwana wakho akasencinane , ngaphandle kokuba umntwana eneemfuno ezizodwa ; (2) umntwana uba ngumkhosi osebenza ngamandla; (3) amalungelo akho omzali agqitywa ngokuthotyelwa okanye enye inkqubo yomthetho, okanye (4) umntwana wakho omncinci uvakaliswa "ukukhululwa" yinkundla-oko kukuthi, ukuvakalisa umntu omdala ngaphambi kokuqhelekileyo ngenxa yokukwazi ukuzixhasa .
Isigqibo seNkcazo yeNkcazo yeNtlawulo yabantwana
Bobabini abazali banembopheleleko yokuxhasa abantwana babo ngemali. Xa uqhawulo lomtshato lwenzeka kwaye umzali omnye ugcinwa ngokomzimba kubantwana, loo mthwalo uxanduva lomzali luzaliseka ngokuba ngumzali okhuselekileyo. Omnye umzali ke wenza inkokhelo yokuxhasa abantwana ezalisekisa uxanduva lwezezimali olungabalandeli. Kwimeko yokugcinwa ngokubambisana, inani elixhaswa ngumntu ngamnye elihlawulayo liqhele ukuba libalwe yinkantolo becinga ukuba ipesenti ngamnye umzali uncedisa kwingeniso edibeneyo yesibini kunye nepesenti yexesha ngamnye umzali enokugcinwa kwabantwana.
Uxanduva lweNkxaso yabantwana xa ungatshatanga
Ewe. Umbopheleleko wokuxhasa umntwana awukhatyathwa ngumtshato. Ukuba ungumzali, unembopheleleko yokuxhasa ngemali yakho inzala. Iimbopheleleko zakho zabazali zinokumiselwa ngokomthetho ngokuvuma kwakho ukuba ungumzali, ngenxa yokuba wamkele umntwana ekhaya lakho njengeyakho, okanye njengoko kusekwe uvavanyo lwabazali.
Imithetho kaRhulumente iyahluka ngokucacileyo kwingcaciso yomzali, ngoko ke ukuba kukho ukungabaza malunga nomzali wakho, uya kufuna ukubonisana nommeli wezomthetho kwintsapho kwimeko yakho.
Kwakhona kwenzeka ngamanye amaxesha ukuba indoda eyazala umntwana ingenakucelwa ukuba ihlawule umntwana kuze kube yilapho umama wengane efumana uncedo loluntu. Ngaloo ndlela, urhulumente angafika kubazali befuna ukuxhasa inkxaso yabantwana ukubuyisela urhulumente ngeentlawulo zoncedo zabo. Ootata abaninzi baye "baphoxiswa" ngale miyalelo iminyaka emininzi emva kweqiniso.
Iimali zeNtloko kaTata
Noko ke, ukuba uyamkela ngokusemthethweni abantwana kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo unqamle amalungelo omzali wobawo we-biological, uyise wesibini uba necala lokuxhaswa ngemali.
Ingakanani Imali Yenkxaso Yomntwana Eya Kumiselwa
Umbuso ngamnye eUnited States ufunwa ngumthetho wesigqeba ukuseka izikhokelo ezisetyenziselwa ukubala inkxaso yenkxaso yabantwana ngenxa yokuba abazali baxhomeke kakhulu kwiingeniso zabo kunye neendleko. Ngenxa yokuba amazwe anengqiqo efanelekileyo yokucwangcisa ezi zikhokelo, iintlawulo zenkxaso yabantwana zifunekayo ziyahlukahluka phakathi kwamazwe, nangaphantsi kweemeko ezifanayo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo, inkundla iza kuthatha ingqalelo imiba efana nomgangatho wokuphila komntwana ngaphambi kokuqhawula umtshato, iimfuno ezithile zomntwana, izixhobo zomzali wokulondoloza kunye nokukwazi ukuhlawula umzali.
Ngenxa yokuba kwiindawo ezininzi abagwebi bayavunyelwa ukuqonda ngokubanzi ekubekeni le ntlawulo, kubalulekile ukuba ubaba ongekho okhuselekileyo ukuba athole ulwazi oluninzi kwitafile kunye nenkundla phezulu phambi kwenkokhelo ukuba enze intlawulo efanelekileyo.
Indlela yokufumana iinguqulelo zenguqu iziphumo zokuba ungasebenzi okanye ubuyela esikolweni
Oku kuxhomekeke kumgwebi nakwiimeko. Kodwa ngokubanzi, intlawulo yokuxhasa abantwana ayiyi kuncitshiswa xa uyise eyeka umsebenzi wexesha elizeleyo aze abuyele esikolweni. Ukuba akazange asebenze aze athathe umsebenzi ophantsi ohlawulayo, ukuqwalaselwa kwakhona kwemali yenkxaso yabantwana ngenxa yoko kuyafaneleka.
Iziphumo zokungabi Nokwenza iNkxaso yeNtwana njengoko iyalwe
Ukungabi ngokukhoyo kwiimbopheleleko zakho zokuxhasa abantwana kuthiwa "yingxaki enkulu." Uyamema ukubandakanyeka kokusemthethweni ebomini bakho kunye nemali xa ungahambisani neembopheleleko zakho zokuxhasa abantwana. Ukongezelela, inokulimaza ukuthembeka kwakho kwinkundla kunye namagosa enkqubo yokunyanzelisa ukuba ufuna ukwenza kamva ukwenza utshintsho kwisicwangciso sakho somzali, amalungiselelo okugcina okanye ezinye iinkalo zobume bezomthetho kunye nezingane zakho kunye nomlingane wakho wangaphambili.
Umyalelo wenkundla ungeniswe njengenxalenye yomtshato wakho kunye nenkqubo yokugcinwa kwemali ichaza ishedyuli kunye neshedyuli yokuhlawula, kunye nezinye iimeko ezingakhokelela ekuqaliseni izibophelelo zakho. Ezi meko zinokumisela ukuba ubuninzi bokuphakanyiswa okutsha kunokuba bongezelelwe kwiimbopheleleko zakho zenkxaso okanye nantoni na ongayenza ngempompo njengefa okanye i-inshurensi yokuhlala.
Ukungaphumeleli ukudibana neshedyuli kubonakala ngathi uyayichaza umyalelo wenkundla kwaye unokukufaka entolongweni, okubangela ukulungiswa kwemvuzo wakho, ukukhawuleza ukubuyiswa kwemali yakho, ukuthatha impahla, ukumisa ilayisenisi yakho yelayisenisi okanye ilayisenisi yokuqhuba okanye neminye imiphumo emibi.
Ukulungiswa ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kakhulu kuba kubandakanya umqeshi wakho obambelela, ininzi okanye yonke imali yakho engenayo kwaye uyayithumela kwilizwe. Xa ukuhlawula imbopheleleko yakho emva kubandakanya umqeshi wakho, kunokudala imiphumo emibi engalindelekanga emsebenzini.
Nangona isiGaba III se-Federal Consumer Protection Act sichaza umqeshi ukuba abulale umqeshwa ukuba abe nokulungiswa kwanoma yiyiphi inkokhelo enye, unokuba neengxaki kumqeshi wakho ukuze uhlolwe rhoqo. Abanye abangaphaya kwezinto zokuncedisa abantwana (njengeentlawulo zerhafu okanye ezinye iitalato) kunokubangela ukuba ukhishwe. Ngoko ke ngokucacileyo into ofuna ukuyikhusela phantse nayiphi na indleko.
Ukuba unobunzima bokuhlangabezana neimbopheleleko zakho zokuxhasa abantwana, unokucinga ukudala ibhajethi engaphezulu, ukunciphisa iindleko zakho, ukufumana izindleko ezincinci, ukufumana imoto engabizi okanye uxoxisana nababolekisi ukunciphisa iintlawulo zakho zentlawulo yenyanga. Ezi zinokubonakala ngathi zinyathelo ezinzulu kwaye zinokutshintsha ngokuqinisekileyo ubomi bakho, kodwa indlela yokuphila ehamba phambili ingaba yindlela ukuze ukwazi ukuhlangabezana neembopheleleko zakho kwaye unikezele ngononophelo lwabantwana bakho.
Ukuba ungeqeshwanga, thabatha ukuhlawula umvuzo, ube neebhilikhi ezinkulu zezokwelapha, okanye ube nesinye imeko esilulayo, kubalulekile ukuba uqale inkqubo ngokukhawuleza ukuba ufumane inkxaso yenkxaso yakho yomntwana. Uza kuqala ngokuqhagamshelana ne-ofisi yokunyanzelisa i-ofisi yesicelo sakho sokuxhasa abantwana kunye nokucela ukuba ufake ifowuni efanelekileyo ukuba uguqule izibopho zakho zokuxhasa abantwana.
Kungumnqweno ukuqala le nkqubo kungekudala into ephawulekayo iguquka. Kwiimeko ezininzi, umthetho uvimbela ijaji ukuba ihlawule ngokukhawuleza intlawulo yokuxhasa abantwana, nangona ukunciphisa kunengqiqo emva kwe nyaniso. Yaye uya kuhlala kwi-hook yeemali ezifunekayo phambi komhla wokuqalisa komyalelo wokuncedisa umntwana.
Ukutsala emva kweentlawulo zakho zokuxhasa abantwana yinto enokuyicingisisa ngoku. Ukungayithobeli le mbopheleleko ebalulekileyo kunokuba nemiphumo emibi kakhulu kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu kuninzi nezinye izinto ongakhetha ngazo xa amaxesha enzima azinzima. Ngena nje ngamehlo akho evulekile.
Izinketho zakho Ukuba uMama wabantwana uyala ukuhlawula iNkundla-iNkxaso yoMyalelo
Umthetho we-Federal ufuna ukuba ugqwetha likarhulumente okanye wesithili likuncede ukuba uqokelele iintlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana. Uninzi lwamazwe lune-bureaucracy-ngokuqhelekileyo kuthiwa into efana ne-Ofisi yeeNkonzo zokuPhucula - ekhoyo ukuqokelela le ntlawulo, kwaye kufuneka uqale apho.
Ukuba Iimeko Zakho Zitshintshile
Inkundla kuphela inokutshintsha inkokhelo yokuxhaswa kwabantwana, kwaye ngoko nayiphi na inguqu kufuneka ifakwe kwijaji. Ukuba bobabini bomtshato bavumelana ngokutshintsha, ngokuqhelekileyo yinkqubo enhle kakhulu. Xa ungavumelani, isicelo siya kungeniswa ngummeli wakho womthetho weentsapho. Iqabane elifuna ukwenza utshintsho kwisichaso somnye sinomthwalo wokubonisa oko kwatshintshile kwaye kutheni umlinganiselo ofanelekileyo (phezulu okanye ophantsi) kufuneka ufuneke. Utshintsho lwexeshana lunokuba ngumphumo wongxamiseko lwezonyango, utshintsho kwimo engqesho okanye ubunzima bexesha elifutshane loqoqosho kwicandelo lomzali ofumanayo.
Utshintsho olusigxina ekuncedeni abantwana luhlala luqwalaselwa xa utshintsho lwengeniso ngenxa yokutshata kwakhona, nokuba umzali unenguqu yomsebenzi ochaphazela ukukwazi ukuhlawula okanye umntwana ochaphazelekayo unemfuno emitsha kunye neentlobo ezahlukeneyo kunokuba kucatshangwa xa inani lemvelaphi libekwe.
Ukuxhaswa kweNkxaso yabantwana Ukuba i-Ex Ex yakho ayiyikuHlonipha iNkcazo okanye iMiyalelo yokuTyelela
Le ngenye yezikhalazo ezinkulu kunabantwana abangabikho. Ngelishwa, impendulo ayikho. Iintlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana kunye nokutyelelwa ziqwalaselwa ngumthetho ukuba zize zihluke ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba wakho umdala akahambisani nommiselo wesigxina ngokubonelela ukuvakasha njengoko kufuneka, uya kufuneka ubuyele enkundleni ukunyanzelisa umyalelo wenkundla. Unembopheleleko yokuxhasa inkxaso yabantwana bakho, kungakhathaliseki nayiphi na imiba yokutyelela.