Kubuhlungu obukhulu kodwa kukho iindlela zokuwusebenza
Ngaba wakha wafumana le ndaba? Xa umntwana wakho oneminyaka eli-1 ubudala elele, ebuhlungu, okanye elambileyo, abayikulilela ukuba uwangaze i-boo-boo's. Cha. Bakhala ngenxa yomntwana! Ngoko uphinde uphinde uxhamane njani nomntwana wakho? Unokuyeka njani ukuvakalelwa kukuba umntwana wakho uyamthanda umntwana ongabantwana ngaphezu kwakho?
Zama esinye seziphakamiso ezilandelayo ukukunceda ukwenza izinto phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho.
Siyabonga Ukuba Ufumene Omntu Othanda Umntwana Wakho
Unethamsanqa ukuba umntwana wakho unomntu omdala abamthandayo kwaye uthembele kangako. Ulwalamano lwabo lunokuba ngumthombo wothando kunye nenkxaso enokuhlala ixesha lokuphila. Cinga zonke izizathu zokubangela ukuba uyabulela umntanakho xa uvakalelwa kukuba unomona. Umntwana wakho uyakuthanda kwaye inhlanhla uthathe umntu ozithandayo umntwana naye.
Ziqhelise ukuvakalelwa ngomntwana wakho. Bhala phantsi izizathu ezihlanu zokuba kutheni benza umsebenzi ocolileyo. Emva koko, qiniseka ukuba wabelane ngalokhu nomntwana wakho. Kutheni ungasasazi uthando lonke. Kuya kwenza ukuba i-sitter yakho ivuyiswe ngakumbi kwindima yabo.
Sebenzisa i-Quality Quuddle Time kunye Nomntwana Wakho Xa Unakho
Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana benze isinamathiselo ekhuselekileyo kunina. Unceda ukwakha isiseko esisemgangathweni sempilo ebomini. Ekuqaleni oku kwenzeka, bhetele.
Ingaba umntwana wakho ubheka kuwe ukuze aduduze kwaye afune ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo xa umntwana ehamba naye?
Ngaba unayo ixesha elininzi lokubamba ngothando? Ukuba kunjalo, akudingeki ukhathazeke ukuba bayamthanda umntwana ongcono ngaphezu kwakho ngoba unokuhlangabezana ngokucacileyo neemfuno zabo. Mhlawumbi nje isigaba abaya kuso.
Ukuze uqiniseke ukuba kunjalo, qhubeka unomgudu owenzela ukulungelelana nomncinci wakho.
Ukunyamezela nokuthandana kunokwenza izinto ezimangalisayo kumntwana kunye nonina. Ngaphezu koko, kulungile ukukwenza oko emva komhla omude. Yenza yonke into enzima ukuyisebenzela.
Ukuphinda uhlaziywe ngokwakho njengoMncedisi oyiNtloko, ukuba kufuneka
Ukuba umntwana wakho akulahla emva kweeyure emva kokuba umntanki uhambe unomsebenzi wokukwenza. Uya kufuneka uhlaziywe ngokwakho njengomncedisi oyintloko. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale le nqubo iyaqhubeka ngokuthe ngcembe ukuphepha ukukhathazeka kokuhlukana okanye ukwenza ukuba azizwe elahliwe ngumntwana obathandayo.
Okokuqala, kufuneka uchithe ixesha ukuhlalutya ubuhlobo phakathi komntwana wakho kunye nomntwana wakho. Umntwana wakho uyazi iindlela kunye nendlela yokumnceda ngayo. Zichitha ixesha kunye nabo bobabini ukuze ubone ukuba izibonakaliso zithunyelwa njani ngenxa yokukhathala, ukulambile, okanye ukukhathazeka. Beka eceleni nawuphi na iimvakalelo zecala okanye umona onokuba nazo kwaye zijolise nje kumzuzu wamanje.
Funda yonke into enokuyenza kumntwana wakho malunga neemfuno zomntwana wakho. Ungazami ukuthatha ulawulo kuye. Yenza indawo ephantsi yoxinzelelo kunye nokudlala okhethekileyo ukuze umntwana wakho ujonge ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe bobabini.
Thatha ixesha lokuyeka ukuba nomntwana wakho
Emva kokuba udibanise nomntwana obanika abantwana ithuba lokubanika usuku. Thatha uxanduva malunga nazo zonke iimfuno zomntwana wakho ezifana nokutya, ukudibanisa, ukuphucula nokudlala.
Oku kunokuziva kunzima ekuqaleni, kodwa ungakhathazeki, bonke aba omtsha baziva ngale ndlela. Khangela iindlela zokwakha isiqhotyoshelo ezifana nokukhwela kunye nokufunda kunye. Bese uphinda lo msebenzi njengoko kufuneka.
Yiba Nomonde Ngenxa Yokuba Izinto Azizange Zenzeke Ngobusuku
Olu tshintsho lunokuthatha ixesha elithile ukuze uzame ukubekezela. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba uza kuba neminye iminyaka engama-17 (ubuncinci) kunye nomntanakho ekhaya ukuze unamathele ezo zibophelelo zabantwana. Emva kwakho konke, nguwe kuphela unina, kwaye ngumsebenzi wakho ukukhokela umntwana wakho ekubeni ngumntu omdala ngokuzithemba nangothando.
Emva koko zama ukuyeka ukukhathazeka malunga nale
Xa uqala ukuguqula umntwana wakho kumnye onomnakekeli , unokuba ukhathazeke ukuba umntwana uya kumthanda umntwana wakho njengawe.
Kodwa ke xa loo ntsebenzo ikhusela ngokukhuselekileyo uqala ukukhathazeka ukuba umntwana wakho uyamthanda umntwana ongciniweyo ngaphezu kwakho. Ngamanye amaxesha uvakalelwa kukuba awukwazi ukuphumelela! Kuza kuhlala kukho into ekukhathazayo malunga nexesha lokunakekela abantwana.
Yiba nokholo lokuba kukho enye kuphela kweli hlabathi kwaye unomama ongcono kunye nomnakekeli womntwana wakho. Ikhefu. Emva koko khulisa ukukhathazeka ngokuthi imantra ithi, "Ndingumama kwaye ndiya kuhlala ndiyazi kakuhle kwaye ndithanda kakhulu."
Ehlelwe nguElizabeth McGrory