Akukho mzali oceba ukuya entolongweni kodwa xa ufumanisa kuloo meko enzima kukho izinto ezimbalwa ozaziyo malunga nokuba kuya kuthinta njani iintlawulo zakho zokuxhasa abantwana. Ingabonakala ingenangqiqo kodwa abazali abavalelwe bengagcinwa banoxanduva lweenkundla zokuhlawulwa kweentlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana. Ukuba ukhangele ixesha lokubanjwa kwaye ungacingi ukuba uya kukwazi ukwenza iintlawulo zakho ungacela inkundla ukuba imise umyalelo wokuxhasa umntwana.
Ingaba wena okanye wakho ongowokugqibela nguye oza kukhonza ixesha entolongweni kufuneka uhlaziye kwakhona umyalelo wokuxhasa umntwana, ngaphambi kokuvalelwa. Nantsi enye ingcaciso malunga nokunyanzeliswa komyalelo wokuxhasa abantwana abantwana abavalelwe abazali abangenakugweba:
Ukuhlawula iNkxaso Yenkxaso Kubantwana
Umzali obanjwe ebolekwa inkxaso yenkxaso yabantwana unokukhathazeka malunga nomdla okwenziweyo kwiintlawulo zonke zokuncedisa abantwana ngexesha lejele. Ukongezelela, iinkqubo zentolongo zikwimeko ekhethekileyo yokukwazi ukufumana abaxhasi benkxaso yabantwana abaye bangabonakali. Umzali ovalelwe ngumntu omele uxhaswe ngumntwana kufuneka acele inkundla ukuba yenze enye yezi zinto zilandelayo:
- Ukunciphisa imiyalelo yokuxhasa abantwana ngexesha lokuvalelwa
- Ukumisa imiyalelo yokuxhasa abantwana ngexesha lokuvalelwa
Ukumisela ukuba inkundla iya kuvuma ukuguqulwa komntwana ngexesha lokuvalelwa komzali isigqibo sejaji. INkundla inokugqiba isigqibo sokuba iintlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana kufuneka zihlale zifanayo ngexesha lokuvalelwa komzali.
I-Aids Support Agencies Ukunyanzelisa Abazali Abangaphantsi
Iintlawulo zenkxaso-mntwana ephakamileyo zinokubangela ukuba abantwana baxhaswe ekuxhaseni ukunyanzeliswa kwabantwana xa bekhululwa entolongweni. Nangona kunjalo, kukho izinto ezininzi ezisekela i-arhente zokunyanzelisa ukuba zenze okungaphezulu nje kokuthatha imali yakho nazo zinokunceda abazali ukuba babuyiselwe emva kokuvalelwa kwabo.
I-arhente yokunyanzelisa abantwana kufuneka isebenze namanye arhente karhulumente ukuba:
- Qinisekisa ukuba umzali ongekho mgcini ugcina ubudlelwane nomntwana xa evalelwe
- Ncedisa ekuncedeni abazali ukuba bafumane imisebenzi emva kokuvalelwa
- Ukubonelela ngemfundo kubazali abangabikho phantsi koxanduva lwabo kubantwana babo
- Ukunika iimvavanyo zobazali, ukuba zikhona
Yintoni Enokuthi Umzali Okhuselekileyo Ongabonanga Ngomntu Omele Ayenze Emva kokukhululwa entolongweni?
Emva kokuba umzali ongeyena okhuselekileyo ekhutshiwe entolongweni, umzali ongekho phantsi kufuneka enze oku okulandelayo:
- Qhagamshelana ne-arhente yokunyanzelisa abantwana ebandakanyekayo kwimeko yakho kwaye ubaxelele ukuba ukuvalelwa kwakho kuphelile
- Yazisa igranti yokuxhasa abantwana ngenjongo yokufuna umsebenzi
- Phinda uphinde unxibelelane nabantwana bakho
- Emva kokuba usuqalile umsebenzi, qalisa ukwenza iintlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana rhoqo
Ukuba umzali uvalelwe kwaye unokuhlawula inkxaso yenkxaso yomntwana, ngumntwana onomdla omkhulu kumzali ukuba aqhubeke nokwenza iintlawulo zokuxhasa abantwana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umzali akakwazi ukuhlawula umntwana ngenxa yokuboshwa, umzali ongekho phantsi kufuneka aqwalasele enye yeendlela ezichazwe ngasentla. Ukufumana ulwazi oluthe xaxa malunga nabazali abangabikhoyo kunye nabaxanduva lokuxhasa abantwana, bathethe nommeli oqeqeshiweyo ophethe iingxaki zokuxhasa abantwana kwimeko yakho okanye ubhekise kwizikhokelo zenkxaso yomntwana.