Ukufundisa umntwana wakho indlela yokuchonga abahlobo abangendawo kunye nokuphepha ukuxhaphazwa
Kwiindawo apho ujika khona, kukho iziganeko zokuxhatshazwa kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwe- intanethi ezilethwe ngamantombazana anentsingiselo, ama-fox, kunye nabahlobo ababi. Ezi zibizwa ngokuba ngabahlobo zibuqhetseba ezisebenzisa abanye abantu. Baye bathambekele ekubeni yinto eyodwa kunye nenxalenye yeefowuni . Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuba abantwana baqonde umahluko phakathi kwabahlobo bokwenene kunye nabangendawo.
Akunjalo kuphela ubuhlobo nomhlobo ongeyinyani, kodwa ukudibaniswa nomhlobo oyinyaniso ngokukhawuleza kubangela ukuxhatshazwa.
Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bakho bakwazi ukuchonga iimpawu zobuhlobo bobuxoki. Nalu uluhlu lweempawu ezisibhozo zokuhlaziya kunye nezingane zakho. Ukuba abahlobo babo banalo mpawu, ke sekuyisikhathi sokuqala ukwakha ubudlelwane obutsha.
"Abahlobo abangenayo inzondo."
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umhlobo oyinyaniso uza kuqhagamshelana nomntwana wakho xa befuna okanye bafuna into ethile. Akunakufanekisa ukubhala okanye ukubiza ezinye izizathu. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba xa umhlobo engabizi okanye iitekisi nje ukuba zikhangele ngoko loo mntu akayena umhlobo nhlobo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, loo mntu usebenzisa umntwana wakho ngandlela-thile.
"Abahlobo abaxhamlileyo baxhamla ngokuhleba kunye ne drama."
Ukuxinezeleka kubantwana bakho ukuba xa umntu ethanda ukunyundela abanye, ngoko ke banokuba bexela emva kwabo. Ukuhleba kunye nokusabalalisa amahemuhemu kunemiphumo emibi kwaye isiseko sentshukumo yokuxhatshazwa kunye nezinye iintlobo zokuxhatshazwa . Qinisekisa ukuba abantwana bakho bayazi ukuba bafanele bagweme ubuhlobo nabantu abanobuchule bokuhleba okanye umdlalo.
Kufuneka baphephe ukuxelela iinkcukacha zabo malunga nobomi babo. Ukuba benza, babeka umngcipheko wokuba babelane nabanye abantu.
"Abahlobo abanamava bafuna ukuba uzenze."
Ubungqina obunobomi obuhle kukuba umntwana wakho unokuba nguye. Ukuba abantwana bakho bazive ngathi kufuneka bagqoke imaski okanye abanako ukunyaniseka, ngoko ngulo mqondiso wabangani abangendawo.
Ngamanye amagama, ukuba umntwana wakho uthethe okanye agqoke ngendlela eyahlukileyo ukuze ahambelane naba bahlobo, ngoko ayingabo abahlobo bokwenene. Mhlawumbi ziyinxalenye yecacque endaweni yeqela labahlobo. Khumbula, abahlobo abayinyani badla ngokunyamezela uxinzelelo lontanga , oko kukukhokelela ekuxhatshazelweni, ukuxoshwa kunye nezinye iintlobo zobudlova . Ukuxinezeleka kubantwana bakho ukuba abahlobo bokwenene bafana nabo.
"Abahlobo bokwenene bangamanga."
Ngamaxesha amaninzi, abahlobo abayinyani abazivezi kakuhle ukuba ngubani abo baxoxela ngokufezekiswa kwabo, amabakala abo, iimpahla zabo, izinto zabo - nantoni na eyenza bajonge bhetele. Yaye ukuba balala, baya kulala malunga nomntwana wakho. Qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba xa ebamba umhlobo ngamanga amaninzi, mhlawumbi akusiyo ubuhlobo obuhle. Kunzima ukuthemba umqambimanga kunye nokuthembela kubalulekile kubuhlobo obuhle .
"Abahlobo abangamaqabane abaluleke kakhulu."
Ukuba abahlobo babo bahlala begxeka, kufike ixesha lokuqwalasela ngakumbi ubuhlobo. Abahlobo bokwenene bayamxhasa kwaye bayakhuthaza, kodwa abahlobo bamanga abahlala begxeka. Amantombazana, ngokukodwa, anetyala lokugxeka ngokulingana. Benza inhlamba okanye bahlekise umntu ocebileyo.
Olu hlobo lokuxhatshazwa luyingozi kakhulu kuba lunokubangela ukuphazamiseka kokutya okanye ukuziphatha okulimazayo. Nceda umntwana wakho athole abahlobo abakhuthazayo endaweni yoko.
"Abahlobo abanamava abayonwabanga xa uphumelela."
Ukuba ngabahlobo bakho bezingane bafumana into ehlambalaza ukuthetha rhoqo xa abantwana bakho bephumelela, ke abayena abahlobo bokwenene. Abahlobo bokwenene bayayigubha into eyenziwa ngabanye. Inzondelelo, ngelixa ivakalelwa yinto eqhelekileyo, inokubangela ukuxhatshazwa xa ingalawulwa ngendlela ephilileyo. Ukuba ngaba ngabahlobo bakho bomntwana banzima nomona kwaye uthetha xa umntwana wakho efumana impumelelo, akusiyo ubuhlobo obuhle.
"Abahlobo abanamaqabane abazithembekiyo."
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abahlobo abalungileyo baya kugcina iimfihlelo zabanye. Ngamanye amazwi, abahlobo bokwenene abatshoyo kwihlabathi eliza kutshabalalisa umntwana wakho. Ukuba ngaba ngabahlobo bakho bomntwana bahlala bechitha iimbotyi, ngoko kufike ixesha lokubuza ukuba loo mhlobo ungumxhaphazi . Ukuxinezeleka kubantwana bakho abathembayo isisombululo esibalulekileyo kubuhlobo obuhle.
"Abahlobo abanenkohlakalo abanqabile."
Abahlobo bokwenene baya kunamathela omnye komnye, ngakumbi xa bexhatshazwa. Okwangoku, umhlobo oyinyaniso uya kuba ngummeli onokuthula ukuxhatshazwa okanye unokuthatha inxaxheba kwixhatshazo. Ukuba oku kuvela rhoqo, umntwana wakho kufuneka acinge ukuthetha nomhlobo wakhe ngokungahambi okanye uqale ukukhangela elinye iqela labahlobo.
Ngokubanzi, ubudlelwane nabantu abanobuxoki abuyi kubangela ubungane obuhle. Abahlobo ababuxoki bahlala bengakhuselekanga ngokwaneleyo kubani abaya kuba boqobo neyinyaniso. Bazama ukuzingca, umona kunye nokungaqinisekiyo okubenza bangabi ngumhlobo wenene. Nceda umntwana wakho azi oko kwaye aqhubeke.