Ukuyala abantwana emva kokuqhawula umtshato kuphakamisa iingxaki ezininzi. Emva koko, umtshato uqeda uxinzelelo kubo bonke abantu kwaye kuyinto evamile ukuba abantwana babonise iingxaki zokuziphatha ezikhulayo xa abazali babo behlukana.
Ukungabodwa kwabazali phantsi kwezona zimo zilula kakhulu. Ngaphandle kokuba omnye umntu athathe okanye abuyele, ukulungisa abantwana ngokwakho kukuxanduva oluninzi.
Eminye imiba, njengemfazwe yokugcina, ingenza ubomi emva kokuqhawula umtshato ngokugqithiseleyo.
Ukuphonononga kwakhona iMigaqo
Hlaziya kwakhona imigaqo yakho yasekhaya emva komtshato. Qinisekisa ukuba yimiphi imithetho ofuna ukuyigcina kwaye imigaqo efuna ukuyitshintsha.
Njengomzali ongatshatanga, unokufumana ukuba kufuneka uzinze kwezinye iindawo kwaye ukhululeke kwabanye. Ngokomzekelo, unokwenza isigqibo sokuba uhambelane nexesha lokulala kodwa ukhululeke ngakumbi ngokuqinisekisa ukuba iindawo zokulala zihlambulukileyo imihla ngemihla. Konke kuxhomekeke kwindlela ongayifumana ngayo ngokwenene.
Imithetho yakho ayifuni ukuba ifane ngokufanayo neminye imithetho yomzali. Izingane zilungelelanisa ngokufanelekileyo kwimithetho eyahlukileyo kwimimandla eyahlukeneyo. Njengokuba kukho imigaqo eyahlukeneyo ekhaya xa kuthelekiswa nesikolo, banokuzivumelanisa nemithetho eyahlukeneyo kwindlu yomzali ngamnye.
Yilungele ukuva izinto ezinje, "Kodwa kwindlu kaTata singakwazi ukuhlala ngokukhawuleza njengoko sifuna," okanye "Umama akasenzi ukuba sisidle yonke imifuno yethu." Phendula ngesicatshulwa esifanelekileyo ukuba endlwini yakho, imithetho hlukile.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali abaxhasayo banemithetho emininzi kuba bajongana nezinto ezifana nomsebenzi wesikolo, ixesha lokulala esikolweni ebusuku kunye nokulungiselela isikolo ekuseni. Okwangoku, abazali abangabikho phantsi kwabo bahlala beveki kunye neeholide ezithetha ukuba bafumana ubuncinane.
Oku kungenza kube nzima ukuzama ukulungelelanisa kwimigaqo efanayo.
Kwakhona kungenzeka ukuba wena nomnye umzali uya kuba neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuba ngumzali . Ngoko, yenze imigaqo yakho yemithetho yekhaya lakho.
Ukuseka iziphumo ezicacileyo
Zikulungele ukwanda kweengxaki zokuziphatha, ezifana nokuziphatha okufuna ukuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha okuhlaziyo. Kwakhona, gcina iliso ngaphandle kweendlela zokuziphatha ezingabonakalisa ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna uncedo lwezakhono ekujonganeni nomtshato.
Qinisekisa ukuba uza kuyisebenzisa ntoni kwimiphumo emihle kunye nemiphumo emibi . Yilungiselele abantwana ukuvavanya imigaqo, ke qiniseka ukuba ubeka imida nemiphumo ecacileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, emva kokuqhawula umtshato, abantwana bafuna ukubona ukuba unako ukuphatha ukuziphatha kakubi ngokwakho.
Ukuba kukho ingxaki yokuziphatha endlwini yakho, umphumo kufuneka uyenze ekhaya lakho. Ukuba umntwana wakho wenza kakubi ngaphambi kokuya kwindlu yomnye umzali, mnike umphumo xa ebuyela endlwini yakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali benza umsebenzi apho umnye umzali avuma ukulandela ngemiphumo. Oku kuya kuthetha ukuba umntwana ulahlekelwa ngamalungelo akhe emidlalo yeeyure ezingama-24 ngaphambi kokuya kwindlu yomnye umzali, omnye umzali uya kuhlonipha loo mphumo. Nangona kunjalo, iintsapho ezininzi azikwazi ukwenza oku.
Ukulungiswa ngokufanelekileyo
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bayakuphepha ukuqeqesha abantwana ngenxa yokuba baziva kakubi emva kokuqhawula umtshato.
Nangona kunjalo, ukugxininisa abantwana badinga ukuqeqeshwa kunanini ngaphambili. Ukubonelela ngoncedo oluninzi kunye nokuqinisekiswa.
Gcina uqeqesho lwakho luyafana ukuze umntwana wakho azi ukuba ulindele ntoni endlwini yakho. Ukuba uqeqesho lwakho aluhambelani lungadideka kubantwana. Ukuba abantwana bakho babuyela emakhaya phakathi kwabazali baya kufuneka baqonde ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba balindele ntoni xa bahlala kwindlu yakho.
Xoxa Nomntu Osebenza Ngaphandle Kwakho
Isalathisi esihle kakhulu sokuthi abantwana baya kubuyiselwa njani ekuqhawuleni umtshato njani abazali babo badibene ngayo ngexesha nangemva kokuqhawula umtshato. Ndiyathemba ukuba unokuthetha nomntu owayekade naye kwiqabane lakho ngokuziphatha kwezingane xa kuyimfuneko.
Umzekelo, kunokuba luncedo ukuba iqabane lakho likwazi ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala ekhathazekile ngento ethile okanye ukuba ingxaki yokuziphatha entsha iye yanyuka. Ukuxoxa ngendlela ojongene nayo kunokunceda.
Sebenza njengeqela xa unako
Abazali abasebenza kunye njengeqela bangaba nempumelelo enkulu ekulawuleni iingxaki zokuziphatha emva komtshato. Iingxaki ezininzi zokuziphatha zijongene kakuhle xa wonke umntu ebona ingxaki kwaye isicwangciso solawulo lokuziphatha siphuhlisiwe.
Ukuba wena kunye nomntu osekude naye akakwazi ukusebenzisana njengeqela ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, gxininisa into ongayenza ukulungisa ukuziphatha ekhaya lakho. Ukuhlala ugxininise kwizinto eziphantsi kolawulo lwakho kuya kuba nesiphumo esihle kunazo zonke kubantwana bakho.