Kungokwemvelo ukuba abantwana babe nemibuzo malunga nokuba kutheni uyise engekho ebomini babo. Okubuhlungu njengoko kunjalo, njengomzali osele, uya kufuna ukulungelelana noko kukuthetha, njani, kwaye nini. Nangona ungeke ufune ukwabelana ngeminye inkcazo yeso sizathu sokuba kungani uyise engekhoyo kukho iindlela zokuphendula oko kunokunceda umntwana wakho azive ekhuselekile ngakumbi. Iingcebiso ezilandelayo zokuphendula imibuzo yezingane malunga nabazali abangakhoyo ziya kukunceda kule ngxoxo enzima.
Imibuzo Eqhelekileyo Ngama-Fathers abangabikhoyo
Akuqhelekanga ukuba abantwana baqale ukubuza imibuzo malunga nabazali abangabikho ngexesha lokungena esikolweni kwaye baqale ukuqokelela kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo zeentsapho. Ezinye ze mibuzo eziqhelekileyo ziquka:
- Ngubani obawo, kwaye kutheni ahlala nathi?
- Uya kubuya?
- Ndiya kumhlangabeza nini?
- Ngaba uyandikhumbula?
- Kutheni abanye abantwana bezala kwaye andinayo?
Ngelishwa, akukho ncazelo enye iya kusombulula ngokupheleleyo imibuzo yomntwana wakho. Inokwenzeka ukuba, umba uya kuvelisa amaxesha amaninzi. Ungabona kwakhona ukuba umntwana wakho ubuza imibuzo efanayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo . Kubalulekile ukuba uvumele umntwana wakho ukuba abuze le mibuzo.
Iingongoma Zemibuzo Yeengxaki Ngokuphathelele Ubaba Ongabikhoyo
Unokucwangcisa phambili kwimibandela yomntwana wakho ngokuphuhlisa isethi sakho 'seengongoma zokuthetha' amagama athile kunye nemibandela oyifunayo ukuba ungene kwincoko xa umntwana wakho ebuza malunga noyise ongekhoyo.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, inkcazo yakho kufuneka ibandakanye isizathu esivakalayo sokuba wabelane ngazo xa wenza isigqibo sokuba angabandakanyeka ebomini bakho. Umzekelo:
- Wayengakulungele ukuba nguyise.
- Sasiphila kude.
- Wayefuna ixesha lokujongana nemicimbi ethile.
Nangona ezi nkcazo azivumelani nokukhetha kwakhe ukuba zingabandakanyeka, zinokukunceda ukuqinisekisile kumntwana wakho ukuba isigqibo asizange senziwe ngabo .
Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba akukho nto eyenza uyise ahambe.
Ekuhlambuleni uBawo ongabikhoyo
Xa kuziwa ekukhuliseni abantwana bakho njengomzali ongabodwa, usuyazi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuphepha ukugqithisa umva wakho. Ngoko awufuni ukunika ulwazi olungaphezulu kunokuba lufanelekile. Nangona kunjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba unikeze uhlobo oluthile lokuchaza isizathu sokuba engekho.
Kutheni lo mthwalo ungakuwe? Kungenxa yokuba umntwana wakho uza kuza neenkcazelo zakhe ukuba ungamniki, kwaye izizathu awaza kuza nazo zingonakalisa ngakumbi ukuzithembela kwakhe kunokwenyaniso.
Ngoko ke, kufuneka uhambe umgca ocacileyo phakathi kokuchaza ukuba kutheni ukhetha ukuba ungabandakanyeki kwaye uqinisekise ukuba awuqhubeki phakathi kwabo, xa kwenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane obuqhubekayo bunokwenzeka kwixesha elizayo. Kubalulekile ukuba uthathe ingqalelo kwiminyaka yengane yakho xa uthatha isigqibo sokuba yini na engafanelekanga ukwabelana nabo.
Ngokukwabelana ngeMemori
Ekugqibeleni, kubalulekile ukuba uhlanganyele nomntwana wakho nayiphi na into enokuzikhumbulayo enoyise. Ezi ziza kuba ziimpawu ezithathayo kwaye zisebenzise ukwakha ingcamango yokuba ngubani uyise onjengomntu - into enokuyicinga xa ekhula kwaye ehlola ngokubanzi malunga nokuba ngubani njengomntu.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, yenza uluhlu lweememori ofuna ukwabelana ngazo, kwaye uqale ukuzibandakanya kwiingxoxo zakho malunga noyise wengane. Emva koko, xa beqala ukuzibuza, "Ndiyithanda njani ubaba?" baya kuba nolwazi oluthe gqolo ukuba bahambe kunokuba bazi nje ukuba nguyise ongekho owamshiya.
Khumbula kwakhona, ukuba zonke ezi ngxoxo zimele ziboshwe ngothando. Awukwazi ukutshintsha into yokuba ubaba wakho ongabikhoyo umntwana akabandakanyeki ebomini bakhe, kodwa unokumkhumbuza ukuba ukhona, nokuba awuyi ndawo na ukuba uyamthanda ngokupheleleyo kwaye ungathandabuzeki.