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Abazali abanezingane ezinomsebenzi bayazi ukuba ezi ntwana zithanda ukucela imibuzo emininzi. Bayazibuza ngokucacileyo kwaye abanakubonakala befumana ulwazi olwaneleyo. Elinye lamagama abo ayithandayo kakhulu kukuba "Kutheni." Nenye ye mibuzo yabo ayithandayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kakhulu kwaye kuphazamisekile ukuqhubeka uphendula imibuzo engapheliyo "kutheni". Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, asiyazi nje iimpendulo kuyo yonke loo mibuzo!
Ngenhlanhla, abazali bangasebenzisa izicwangciso ezithile zokuba neencoko zentsebenziswano ezinakumbi nabantwana abanesiphiwo xa abantwana bebombombela ngemibuzo.
Musa ukuqhuma iMibandela engekho
Nangona kunokuba nzima ukuphendula yonke imibuzo enokuba ngumntwana onomsebenzi, sinqwenela ukunqanda umdla wabo ngokubaxelela ukuba bayeke ukubuza imibuzo eninzi. Sifuna ukukhuthaza umnqweno wabantwana bethu, kodwa sisenza njani ngaphandle kokuba ubuchopho bethu bube ngumkhuhlane wengqondo ekupheleni kosuku olude?
Into enye eya kunceda kukutshintsha kwimeko. Kunokuba babone umbuzo njengokucaphukisa, ngaba abazali banokucinga ukuba abantwana babo banesifiso sokufumana ulwazi.
Ngelishwa, utshintsho kwisimo sengqondo aluyi kwenza lula ukuba imibuzo iphendule okanye yenza abazali bangakhathali ekupheleni kosuku.
Izicwangciso zokujongana nemibuzo engapheliyo
I-postpone iphendula umbuzo de kubekho ixesha elihle ngakumbi.
Nangona abantwana bafuna impendulo ngokukhawuleza, akudingeki ukuba unikeze enye. Unokwazi ukubuza umbuzo kwaye uyayiphendula ukuphendula emva koko. Umzekelo, xa uYenny encinci ekubuza ukuba kutheni adle iimbotyi zakhe eziluhlaza, umama unokuthi, "Ndiyayiqonda ukuba awuyithandi iimbotyi eziluhlaza, kodwa andifuni ukuxubusha ixabiso lawo ngexesha lokutya.
Siyakwazi ukuthetha ngayo emva koko. "Kakade, umama kufuneka alandele kwaye axoxe ngezicwangciso zobhontshisi obuluhlaza kunye noJenny kamva.
Ungesabi ukuthi "andiyazi." Ngamanye amaxesha abazali baxhalabile ukuzama ukuza nezimpendulo kuzo zonke iimbuzo umntwana ayenayo, ngakumbi xa bengengcali kwiindawo zokubuza imibuzo. Umzekelo, xa uYenny encinane ebuza ukuba kutheni amavithamini amlungele yena, umama unokuphendula athi, "Lo ngumbuzo omkhulu, andiyazi ukuba kutheni. Kakade, umama ngoku unembopheleleko yokukhangela ulwazi ngoJenny.
Indlela yokulandela
Abantwana abanikiweyo banokukhumbula okulungileyo , oko kuthetha ukuba abanakulibala ukuba umama okanye ubaba uthe baxoxe ngombuzo kamva okanye bafune impendulo. Ukuba usebenzisa izicwangciso, qiniseka ukuba ulungele ukulandela. Oko kuthetha ukuba ukuba uphendule umva, ulungele ukuba ube nengxoxo kamva. Okanye ukuba uthe uthe uya kukhangela ulwazi kunye nomntwana wakho, lungele ukwenza njalo.
Nangona kunjalo, mhlawumbi yinto efanelekileyo yokufumana izikhokelo eziqhelekileyo malunga nendlela oya kujongana ngayo nemibuzo kamva. Ngaphandle koko, unokugqiba ukuphinda uhlasele kwakhona ngemibuzo xa ukhathele kakhulu okanye uxakeke kakhulu ukuba ungaphenduli.
Ngokomzekelo, unokubeka eceleni ixesha elithile leentsuku zeengxoxo. Kungenzeka emva kokutya. Enyanisweni, kunokwenzeka xa izitya zokutya zihlamba kwaye ikhitshi ihlambulukile. Unokwenza umntwana wakho akuncede uhlambulule emva kokutya kwaye ngexesha lokucoca, unokufumana ingxoxo. Ukuba unomntwana ongaphezu komnye, lowo unemibuzo engaphenduliweyo nguye owanceda ngokucoca. Inzuzo eyongeziweyo kule nkqubo kukuba abantwana banokubona ixesha elihlambulukileyo njengokuba lixesha lokwabelana nabazali babo kunokuba bafumane ixesha elinzima.
Imibuzo ongayiphenduliyo ngenxa yokuba ungayazi impendulo kufuneka iphendulwe ngokuhlukileyo.
Emva koko, kwakungekho nje ixesha okanye ukukhathala okwakunzima. Kwakungenalo ulwazi. Ukuba ukhangele inkcazelo imihla ngemihla kunokungenelela kwimeko yokukhathala kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kuthathe ixesha! Kunokuba uzame ukuphendula yonke imibuzo ngemihla, yenza uluhlu lwemibuzo engaphendukiyo ezayo ngeveki. Uluhlu lungabhalwa kwincwadi, kwiphepha elithunyelwe kwifriji, okanye kwiphepha elikhulu (okanye ibhodi yeposta) ifakwe eludongeni lokulala lomntwana. Ekupheleni kweveki, wena nomntwana wakho ungathatha uluhlu lwemibuzo kwilayibrari uze ufumane ezinye iincwadi ezinokuthi zifumane iimpendulo. Ukuba unexesha ngeliveki, unokukhangela i-intanethi iimpendulo.
Ukuqhawula phezulu
Kungathi ngathi izicwangciso ziya kuthatha ixesha elide. Nangona kunjalo, amathuba okuba awunakufuneka ube nazo zonke iingxoxo okanye ufumane iimpendulo kuzo zonke ezo mibuzo. Umntwana akanakunomdla okwaneleyo ukuphinda ulandele ulwazi, kodwa ngokugxeka ngaphandle kokungafuni ukuphendula imibuzo, uyakhuthaza kunokuba unqabise intshuzelo yomntwana wakho. Uya kugcina uluhlu olude lwezifundo ezinokuzihlola kunye nomntwana wakho nanini na ixesha elivumela.