Izinto ezi-5 zokuziqwalasela ngaphambi kokuba ube ngumndeni ococekileyo
Ukuba yintsapho edibeneyo kukulungiswa okukhulu. Kwaye nangona kuninzi ukubhiyozela, kubalulekile ukuba ulungiselele imingeni emininzi oya kujongana nayo njengoko uguqula oko "wakhe" kunye "naye" kwi "zethu." Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe ubudlelwane bakho kwinqanaba elilandelayo ngokufumana utshatile okanye uhamba kunye, hlola le mibuzo:
Siza Kuyenza Njani Ubuhlobo Bethu Kubaluleke? - Ngokukodwa xa usetyenziselwe ukuba yedwa kwimini okanye kumakhaya omnye, ukuhlala kunye nabantwana bakho kuya kuba utshintsho.
Ungalindelanga uhlobo oluthile lwe "ingxaki" ukuba luvele phambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokuzikhethela ngokuzithandela ubuhlobo bakho kunye neqabane lakho. Yenza izicwangciso zokuqhubela phambili ukuthandana okanye ucwangcise ukuphunyuka kweveki ngeeveki ukuze ube nexesha elilodwa.
Sinokunceda njani a bantwana ukuba balungise? - Abantwana bakho banokuvakalelwa kakhulu ngokuhlala kunye kunye. Nangona ukuba bayonwabile, mhlawumbi baya kuba neengxakini ezinzulu malunga nokwabelana nothando nothando lwakho. Thetha kunye neqabane lakho malunga nendlela onokubambisana ngayo ukuze ncedise abantwana ukuba bahlengahlengise. Oku kunokuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka ukuba unciphise i-PDA, nakwikhaya lakho, ngenxa yezingane, okanye ukuba kufuneka ulungele ixesha ngalinye ngomntwana ngamnye ukuze uqiniseke ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uyaqhubeka nokuqwalasela, ngelixa unciphisa ubuhlungu.
Siya kuthatha njani imali yethu? - Kungenzeka ukuba ukutshata kwakhona okanye ukuhamba kunye kuya kubangela isamba esikhulu semali engenayo kuwe nabantwana bakho.
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukucacisa ilungelo ukusuka ekuqaleni ukuba ucwangcisa njani ukwabelana ngemali yakho kunye neqabane lakho elitsha. Ngaba uya kuba neakhawunti yokutshekisha? Ngaba zonke izabiwo ziya kubelwa, okanye ezinye iindleko ziya kugcinwa zihluke? Ukongezelela, iza kuthathwa njani izigqibo malunga nokuchitha imali? Ngaba uya kuba negunya lokuthatha izigqibo egameni lakho kunye nabantwana bakho, okanye ngaba zonke izigqibo zezimali kufuneka zixoxwe kunye?
Kuya kuba bubulumko ukukhupha le miba phambi kwexesha kwaye usebenze kunye ukuze unamathele kwisabelomali senyanga-mali esiya kukunyanzelisa ukuba uzimisele ukwenza indlela yokusebenzisa imali.
Siya kuhlala phi? - Le ngenye yemibuzo yokuqala yokubuza abantwana bakho, kwaye kubalulekile ukuqwalasela, ngakumbi ukuba wena kunye nomlingani wakho ngoku uhlala kude. Ukuba kunye kunye kuya kufuna ukuba nonke uhambe, xubushe zonke iinkqubo kunye nokuxhalabisa isigqibo, kwaye ufike kwisivumelwano kunye, ukuze kungabikho namnye oya kukhanyela esinye kwisigqibo esilandelayo. Qinisekisa ukuba uhlolisise izikolo kwindawo entsha, kunye nokuqwalasela indlela ukunyakaza kunokuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane bakho obuqhubekayo nabantwana kunye nomnye umzali. Kwezinye iimeko, unokudinga ukuhamba okuvunywe yinkundla, kwaye unokulindela ukufihla nayiphi na iindleko zokuthutha ezongezelelweyo ezihambelana nokutyelelwa komntwana wakho ukubona omnye umzali.
Luhlobo Luni Lwentsapho Ephucukileyo Ngaba Sifuna Ukuba? - Unokuba nomfanekiso ocacileyo engqondweni yakho yindlela othemba ngayo abantwana bakho kunye nabantwana bakho ozakwenu baya kusebenzisana, kwaye, ngelishwa, loo mfanekiso unokuba luninzi kunokuba uguqule ubomi boqobo. Yenza isigqibo malunga nendlela uza kuba neenjongo malunga nokuhlakulela ubudlelwane obuhle phakathi kwabantwana bakho.
Oku kungabandakanya ukucwangcisa ukuphuma kwintsapho, ubusika bemidlalo, okanye ubusuku be-movie ndawonye. Ngexesha elifanayo, ke, zama ukubeka ingcinezelo enkulu kubantwana bakho. Ulwalamano olusenyongweni olunezilwanyana kuthatha ixesha lokuhlakulela, kwaye uvumela abantwana bakho ukuba bazane nabanye ngendlela yabo kwaye ngexesha labo bangabangela ubudlelwane obunzulu, obunaphakade kunokuba bazama ukubanyanzelisa ukuba bahambe kunye nokuhamba. .