10 Izihluthulelo Zokukhulisa Intombazana Engenabo Baba Ebusweni Bakhe

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Cinga ezinye zeempembelelo zobomi bentombazana obuvela ekungabikho kobawo njengoko ekhula.

• Ukulwa nokuzithemba okuphantsi kunye neemvakalelo zokungafaneleki
• Ukungabi nemilinganiselo ebomini bakhe njengoko bexhamle namadoda
• Ukulahlekelwa yintswelo yokhuseleko
• Amanqanaba amancinci enhlalakahle
• Amanqanaba aphezulu okudandatheka kwengqumbo
• Ucelomngeni lwengqondo ebuhlotsheni obusondeleyo
• Imisebenzi yesondo ngaphambili kunye nokukhulelwa kwentsha
• Kungenzeka ukuba batshatile kwiminyaka yabo yeshumi elivisayo
• Kunokwenzeka ukuba unomntwana ongaphandle komtshato
• Kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba ahlukanise ngenye indlela ebomini bakhe

Ingaba ubaba akakho emfanekisweni ngenxa yokufa, umtshato, ukulahlelwa okanye ukuvalelwa, imingeni iyingxaki efanayo. Kwaye umama okanye utatatomkhulu ugqiba ukuzama ukuzalisa ikhefu ebomini bentombazana, kunye namazinga aphumelelayo.

Ukuba ungumzali weentombi engenamntwana, kukho iindlela ezibalulekileyo ongazisebenzisa ukumnceda ekuhlangabezaneni nokungabikho kobawo kunye nokuphepha ezinye iziphumo ezingenakwenzeka ezingabikho ebomini bakhe.

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Fumana uBawo oManyeneyo kunye odibeneyo

Amantombazana kufuneka abe nomntu onobubele kunye nexesha elide ebomini babo, kwaye xa loo nto ingenzeki kunye noyise wabo wezinto eziphilayo, kunokufuna ukuba kwenzeke kunye nendoda elungileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha utatomkhulu uyinxalenye efanelekileyo, okanye mhlawumbi ungumalume. Qiniseka ukuba umzekelo wendoda owukhethayo ungumzekelo, uyamthanda intombi yakho, kwaye ubeka umzekelo omhle kuye nakwawe.

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Qaphela iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokujamelana nazo ezinokuthi zisebenzise

Intombi yakho isenokuba sele iphucule indlela efanelekileyo yokujongana nokungabikho kobawo ebomini bakhe. Kufanele uvuze kwaye uqaphele iindlela zokuziphatha ezintle ezifana nokuthetha ngokukhululekile nawe, uqaphele indlela amadoda amphatha ngayo kunye namanye amantombazana, emele nzima xa ejongene nenkwenkwe okanye umntu onokufuna ukuyisebenzisa kunye nokuhlala edibene nenethiwekhi enhle lwabahlobo namalungu entsapho. Xa ubona iimpawu ezithile zokulumkisa ukuba unokuzama ukutsala ingqalelo kwindoda esuka kumntu ongafanelekanga amakhwenkwe okanye unokudandatheka okanye ukudimazeka, kumncede asebenzise iindlela zakhe ezinamandla zokuziphatha kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ukuze agweme iingxaki ezingaphezulu.

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Ncedeni Ufumane Iimpawu Zemisebenzi Yabantu Abahle

Ngaphandle kwamalungu entsapho, ncedisa intombi yakho ukuba ifumane imilinganiselo emihle kwezinye iindawo zobomi bayo. Aba bantu abalungileyo bangaba oobahlobo bakhe, abaqeqeshi beqela lezemidlalo, utitshala okanye ilungu lezefundisi. Xa ebona okokuqala indlela amadoda ahle ngayo kunye nendlela abadibana ngayo nabanye abantu, unokuqala ukuzimisela iimpawu zobuntu ezichaza abantu abalungileyo. Uze uphephe ukuzisa umgama omdala wabantu kunye nawe, ngokukodwa ezo ezinokuba ziyingozi okanye zihlwempuzekileyo zenzelwe intombi yakho. Qinisekisa ukuba amadoda osebenzisana nawo, kwaye asebenzisana nentombi yakho, ayenomzekelo kwaye alungile.

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Fumana i-"Village"

Khumbula i-adage ethi "kuthatha idolophana ukuba ikhulise umntwana." Umzali ongatshatanga ntombazana kufuneka azingqongele yena kunye nentsapho yakhe kunye neqela labangane, amalungu omndeni kunye nabanye. Ukuba ngabahlobo bakho abalungileyo ngabahlobo bakho be-clubbing kwaye musa ukumisela umzekelo omhle intombi yakho, unokufuna ukucinga kwakhona indlela okhetha ngayo abahlobo bakho nabantu abachaphazela intombi yakho. Ukuqhagamshelana nabahlobo abanomntu omhle njengoyise womntwana ongeke bahlale bekhululekile, kodwa abo badibeneyo banokunceda intombi yakho.

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Misela uMama njengeGunya lokuBala abazali elifanelekile

Enye yezinto ubaba onomzekelo akwenzayo kukubonisa intlonipho kubafazi ebomini bakhe. Umama ongatshatanga maxa wambi uvumela ukuba inhlonipho ithathe isihlalo sokubuyela emva kokuba "ngabahlobo" nabantwana bakhe. Ngokubonakalisa nokufuna intlonelo ekuzalaneni kwakhe, unokuhlawula ngeendlela ezininzi zokungabikho kobawo onokufundisa into efanayo.

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Yazi Abahlobo Bakho Bomntombazana kwaye Uncede Ubabone Njengaye Ngokwenene

Njengoko amantombazana akhula, athambekele ekuthandeni kakhulu abahlobo babo kunabantwana babo. Kukho umehluko phakathi kokuba nabahlobo abakha intlonelo yentombazana kwaye babe neempembelelo zendoda ebomini kubomi babo kunye nokuba nabahlobo abangenayo loo mpawu etafileni. Abahlobo abalungileyo banako ukubeka imida efanelekileyo kwaye enempilo, enokukunceda nayiphi na intombazana eklasini ifunde ukuba ayilungile kodwa kubalulekile ukuba nezo ntlobo zemida kunye namadoda ebomini bakhe.

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Mncede Unokufumana Amathuba Wokuphucula Ukuzimela Kwakhe Nokuzimela

Enye yezinto eziphambili ezilahlekileyo zokulahlekelwa yintombazana enentandane zixhomekeke ekuziphatheni kwayo. Udinga ingqiqo eqinileyo yokuzibhokoxa ukuze aphile kwaye aphumelele kwihlabathi lakhe, kwaye engenakho ukuzithemba kungamkhokelela ukuba afune ukuqinisekiswa kuyo yonke indawo engafanelekanga. Menze emisebenzini eyenza ukuzithemba. Izinto ezifana nemidlalo, iiklabhu zesikolo, amaqela ecawa, umculo, kunye nomdaniso kungaba yimithombo eninzi yokuzithanda intombazana.

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Dumisani Umntu Wakhe Kakhulu kwaye Ukubonakala Kwakhe Kuncinci

Amantombazana ngaphandle kootata banokuzabalazela nokuzixabisa njengoko kuhambelana nokubonakala kwakhe. Amantombazana angenasiphako aya kuhlala ezama ukuhlawula ngokugqoka ngokungazenzisiyo, esebenzise kakhulu okanye enze uxinzelelo malunga nesisindo sakhe nomzimba. Ngokugxininisa kwiimpawu zakhe ezintle kunye nemisebenzi, abazali banokumnceda ukuba abone ukuba kakhulu kunokuba abukeka. Mbeke kwiimeko apho angakwazi khona kwaye apho angakwazi ukuhlakulela ezinye zeempawu ezintle eziza kumnceda abe nomfanekiso wokuzibonakalisa kakuhle ngaphandle kokugxininisa ekuhleni kwakhe.

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Mphulaphule xa efika

Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana angenabuthathaka abambisana nemibandela kwaye angayifumana ingqumbo, ibuhlungu okanye idideke ngenxa yokungabi nako kobawo. Mamela ngokukhawuleza xa exelela iimvakalelo zakhe kunye neengcamango zakhe, kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ubona njengomthombo okhuselekileyo wothando nobulumko. Khuphela ukukhalaza malunga nokungabikho kobawo, kwaye uncede ukuba abone ukuba unxibelelwano olunempilo lunokumnceda afune indlela yakhe yokulahlekelwa.

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Fumana iNethiwekhi Yakho Yenkxaso Yesevisi

Ekugqibeleni, umama wentombi engenamfesane kufuneka azimelele aze abonise izinto azithemba ngayo intombi yakhe. Xhuma kunye nabanye oomama abakhulisa iintombi zodwa kodwa ngendlela efanelekileyo. Thatha iiklasi, uthathe inxaxheba kumaqela amabhinqa kwindawo yakho okanye kwicawa, kwaye ufunde ezinye iincwadi ezilungileyo malunga nomzali. Thetha nabahlobo abanobulumko bokubeletha obathembayo. Njengoko uqinisa ubuchule bakho bomzali, unokuba ngumzali ongcono kubantwana bakho.

> Imithombo:

> "Iintombi ezingenabantwana & rsquo": Indlela yokukhula ngaphandle koBawo kuthinta iMilinganiselo yoMfazi kunye nokukhetha

> Iprojekthi yeNtombi engenamntwana.

> Jackson, uLM (2010). Uphi ubawo? Iimpembelelo zentandane kwiintetho zonxibelelwano zabafazi. (I-Thesis ye-Master, iSunivesithi yase-San Jose State). SJSU Scholarworks.