Ukugcinwa ngokusemgangathweni kwimeko efunyenwe kakhulu yokugcinwa kwabantwana phakathi kwabazali abacela ukuba inkundla ithintele kwaye inqunywe ilungiselelo lokugcinwa kwentsapho. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukugcinwa kuphela kwimeko efanelekileyo kubantwana bakho. Ngaphambi kokufakela ukugcinwa kweso sigcino, qonda okukhethwa kukho kwaye uqwalasele ubuchule kunye neengxaki zolu lungiso lokugcina.
Yintoni Eyona Mfanelo Yokwenyama?
Ukugcinwa komzimba kwilungiselelo apho abantwana bahlala nomzali omnye - obizwa ngokuba ngumzali oyintloko wokugcina umgca - ngaphezu kwe-50% yexesha. Oku kuvumela ukuba abantwana bahlale kwindawo enye yokuhlala okanye 'isiseko sekhaya,' ngokuchasene nokubuya naphakathi kwamakhaya amabini. Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezinjalo, umzali ongekho uxanduva udlalwa ngokukhawuleza ngexesha lokutyelela. Ibinzana elithi "ukugcinwa kwedwa" lisoloko lisetyenziswa ngokuchanekileyo "ngokugcinwa komzimba kuphela."
Izibalo
Ngokutsho kwe-US Census Bureau 1 , enye kwikota yabo bonke abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-18 ngoku bahlala nomzali omnye, nangona banokuvakashelwa rhoqo kunye nomnye umzali. Nangona iinkundla zingasayi kuvuleka ngokuvulelekileyo ukunikezelwa kokugcinwa komzimba kumama, njengomgaqo-jikelele, amanani achaza ukuba into encinci ishintshile kwiminyaka yamuva. Ngokusekelwe kubalo bobalo lwakutshanje, omnye kuphela kwabazali abathintekayo abayisithandathu nguyise.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, umzali ongeyena umgcini wonikezelo unikezelwa ngamalungelo okutyelela ngokukhawuleza, kubandakanywa ne-sleepovers. Nangona oku kubalulekile ekukhuliseni ubudlelwane obuqhubekayo nabantwana kunye nabazali bobabini, omnye umzali ongekho phantsi unokukuxelela ukuba akufani nokuhlala nezingane zakho.
Iinkonzo
Njengawo nawaphi amanye amalungiselelo okugcina, ukugcinwa kwenyama kuphela kubangel
Ezinye zeenzuzo eziphambili ziquka:
- Abantwana bahlala kwindawo enye eyintloko, ngoko akukho mfuneko yokufakela impahla yabo emva kokuhamba phakathi kweendawo ezimbini zokuhlala.
- Kwiimeko ezininzi, abantwana banako ukuqhubeka behlala kwindawo efanayo apho bahlala khona ngaphambi kokuqhawula umtshato okanye ukuhlukana. Oku kunciphisa izinga lokuphazanyiswa kwabo bavelele kwaye banokufaka isandla kwisimo sokuzinza.
- Eli lungiselelo lwenza abantwana bakwazi ukuqhubeka nokusebenza kwabo. Ngokomzekelo, abanako ukutshintsha izikolo okanye bafumane abahlobo abatsha.
- Kwiimeko ezininzi, umzali ongekho phantsi unikwe amalungelo okuhanjelwa ngokukhululekile, ngoko ke abantwana bangakwazi ukuqhubeka bebuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nabazali bobabini.
Umxhasi
Kukho ukuhlaliswa kweli lungiselelo lokugcina, ngokunjalo. Ngaphambi kokuba wenze ukugcinwa komzimba kuphela, qwalasela oku kulandelayo:
- Abantwana abasayi kuhlala nabazali bobabini. Ngaphandle kokutyelela ngobubele, oku kubonakalisa ukulahleka okukhulu kubantwana kunye nomzali ongekho phantsi.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana kunye nomzali ongeyena okhuselekileyo baye baphosana ngokukrakra.
- Ukusebenzisa isilungiselelo kunokuba yinkqubo enzima.
- Ingabonakala ngathi umzali oye wanikwa imvume yokugcinwa kuphela yinkqubo enyanzeliswa yinkantolo ukuba ibe "ngumzali ongcono."
- Umzali ongekho phantsi unokuziva ngathi "ngumvakatye nje" kubomi babantwana.
- Ukutyelela kungaba yindlela yokudlala, ukuphanga abantwana ukuba kuya kuba njani ukuhlala nomzali ongekho phantsi, ukwabelana imisebenzi yansuku zonke kunye noxanduva.
Ukwenza Ulungiso oluyimpumelelo
Njengomzali womntwana wakho, unokunciphisa imiphumo emibi yelungiselelo lokugcina uluntu ngokubambelela kwishedyuli yokutyelela rhoqo kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukugcina ubudlelwane obubelekayo bokubambisana kunye neyokuqala. Ngexesha elifanayo, banike abantwana bakho imvume yokuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo njengoko wena ulungelelanisa inkqubo entsha yentsapho yakho.